Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 21, 2016

Happy day-after-my-birthday to me! I plan to celebrate for the rest of the month because I can! I started the day with a pulmonary test (because that’s what old people do), then lunch with mom, sister Bebe and Aunt Sylvia, then golf with friends, then cards with the Old Farts (mom, Uncle Jack, Aunt Sylvia = 150-ish years total).

I thoroughly enjoyed the day except for one item: my other sister, my youngest sister Bebe, is having a double mastectomy because of a nasty thing in her left breast. Swell. This year started out sucky with Sherry’s passing. Pile it on. We’re tough. If these crappy things are going to happen, let it all be in one year and be over with…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1804 – Napoleonic Code went into effect, one of the earliest codes to permit same-sex activity, France

1987, Finland – Pekka Haavisto, first openly gay member of parliament, took office. He went on to become the first openly gay leader of a major political party (Green, 1992)

1994 – Tom Hanks won best actor Oscar for Philadelphia

2001 – Asexual visibility and education network (AVEN) founded by David Jay

2007 – First national Native AIDS Awareness Day.

2009, Morocco – Ministry of Interior Issued statement on crackdown on homosexuality.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – February 19, 2016

I’m sitting in the Miami Airport awaiting my flight back to Palm Springs. I feel good about the hard work we did at the University of Miami this week. I facilitated a two-day strategic planning session with the Student Affairs division as they initiate their LGBT Center development. And the DragOut show last night was a total hoot!

I’ve been reflecting on my road from here (Miami) to there (Palm Springs). I lived here, in North Miami Beach, for most of my childhood, leaving at age 18 to go to the University of Florida. Two years later, in 1967, my family moved to Los Angeles. Between here and there I’ve lived one heck of a life. In a nutshell: music major at UF, closeted lesbian, married, two children, lost children when I came out, activist, homeless, AIDS activist/FL health dept., masters and doctoral degree from the University of North Florida, director University of Michigan LGBT Center, founded Lavender Graduation, wrote first draft of national standards and guidelines for LGBT work on campuses, first publications, director UCLA LGBT Center, children returned to me as adults, grandchildren, more publications, many local and national recognitions, founder UCLA M.Ed in Student Affairs program, way too many relationships over the years, found twelve-step programs, met Kelly, retired, lost my dad, traveled the world, lost my precious sister Sherry, engaged to Kelly. And through it all, my golf just sucks…

I am deeply appreciative of both the highs and the lows of my life. Today my heart is full with gratitude for my body and my health, for the love that abounds around me, and for the gifts the Universe continues to bestow upon me. I miss my sister beyond words but she’s my guardian angel and is with me always, and I share such beautiful love in my life with Kelly, with my sweet friends, with my family. Life is good indeed… and tomorrow begins MY time of year: Pisces Time!

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1974 – The Pat Collins Show, a morning program on New York’s WCBS, broadcasts live from the Continental Baths. The station only receives one complaint about the episode

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 14, 2015.

My little artsy-fartsy heart is so happy! I took the Long Island Railroad from Long Island to Penn Station in Manhattan and made it to Andréa’s just north of Central Park by noon. We went to TKTS and took a chance on whatever play we could see at a discount. The first play was at the Ethel Barrymore Theater entitled The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, a powerful piece on a 15 year old boy with Asperger. The young mad who played the role was outstanding, and the computer graphics that ran the entire show were so detailed and realistic. After, we had dinner at 5-Napkins Burgers then went to the Jacobs Theater to see It’s Only a Play, an hilarious comedy about opening night of a flop of a play. The actors were superb! Mathew Broderick, Martin Short, Stockard Channing. I laughed hard for nearly three hours!

It’s been a very long and very fun day. Its chilly here, highs in the 40s and rainy. I always appreciate coming to New York and always have a grand time with Andrea.

The last of the Pisces notes:

PISCES INNOVATORS & VISIONARIES: Albert Einstein, Alexander Graham Bell, Steve Jobs

PISCES PHOTOGRAPHER: Ansel Adams

Today I’m grateful for old friends and great theater!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kelly Vickstrom said, “Before I can become a significant other, I must become significant to myself.” (Amen, sister!) Affirming my own significance helps me appreciate other people. Today I value my interactions with others.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1971 – More than two thousand protesters march on the steps of the Albany capitol building demanding an end to laws that discriminate against gays and lesbians; 2006- First time a member of a royal family comes out – Prince Gohil in India.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 13, 2015.

It’s nearly midnight and I’m exhausted. I spent this amazing day with friends at Hofstra University on Long Island in New York. Great folks, great work, and lots of fun! Too tired to go into detail, just enough to say that this is an outstanding institution and if I were 20 years younger, it would be my perfect place of employment, especially with Houston Dougherty as the Vice Prez. In the morning I’ll take the train into the City and spend a couple of days theater-hopping with my old friend from Michigan, Andrea Constancio.

Here are some famous actions, writers, and directors who are or were Pisces: Sidney Poitier, Drew Barrymore, Marlon Brando, Christopher Walken, Warren Beatty, Vince Vaughn, Dennis Quaid, Cindy Crawford, Jennifer Love Hewitt, Elizabeth Taylor, Harry Belafonte, Ron Howard, Liza Minnelli, William H. Macy, Billy Crystal, Michael Caine, Eva Longoria, Kurt Russell, Glenn Close

Today would have been my father’s 90th birthday. Yep…a Pisces. I know you’re celebrating somewhere over the rainbow, Dad…

Today I’m grateful for old and new friends, for my body, my health, my brain, and my passion, and for my dad who was always so proud of whatever cockamamie thing I did whether or not he understood it.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Robbie Rocheford said, “I wonder what my life would be like if I were to focus my energy and thoughts only on things that really matter.” I pause throughout the day to clear my mind. Taking charge of my thoughts is enlightening.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1984 – Claiming an “absence of compelling need” for such legislation, California governor George Deukmejian vetoes a gay rights bill that would have prohibited job discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 12, 2015.

Snow! It’s not snowing but the snow is everywhere and it’s beautiful! I’m in the Marriott on Long Island, looking forward to visiting with my very dear friends at Hofstra University. I was taken to dinner at a nearby deli…VERY New York! The chicken and matzo ball soup was exactly what I needed. I seem to be experiencing a big ol’ sinus thing and I’m not amused. I brought good drugs with me because I felt this coming on but it just sucks to feel yucky while traveling. Early bed tonight, though, and the gym in the morning should take care of it.

Outside of my window is the Islanders hockey stadium. I’m totally clueless about hockey (and prefer to remain so) but everyone here seems charged. There’s a game this weekend, one of the last before the Islanders apparently move to Brooklyn. They’re leaving this stadium because there are no suites in it. Really? It’s hockey, fercryinoutlloud!!!

And the travel season begins. This weekend new York, next weekend, New Orleans, the following weekend Palm Springs, then Utah, Europe, and Washington. I love this traveling! The tricky part is to get a golf game and some practice in between flights! So far, so good!

Pisces people:

PISCES IN POLITICS / WORLD LEADERS / SOCIETY FIGURES: George Washington, Al Gore, Gloria Steinem, Chelsea Clinton, Edward Kennedy, Ralph Nader, Alan Greenspan

PISCES MUSICIANS: Frederic Chopin, George Harrison, Sir Elton John, Aretha Franklin, Nat “King” Cole, Eric Clapton, Smokey Robinson, Queen Latifah

Artists: Michaelangelo, Auguste Renoir

And next week….this Pisces turns 68!

Today I’m grateful for comfortable flights, beautiful blue skies, old higher ed pals, and a comfy bed…

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Susan Smith Jones said the subconscious works to create reality according to the programming it has been fed. I don’t have to except how anyone defines me today. I can give myself only positive input. My output will reflect it.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1976 – At a campaign stop in Los Angeles, Democratic presidential candidate Jimmy Carter tells an audience that, if elected, he would be willing to issue an executive order banning discrimination against gay people in housing, employment, immigration and the military; 2004 – The Wisconsin State Senate approves of an amendment to the state constitution (20-13) that would ban both same-sex marriages and civil unions; 2004 – Oregon’s attorney general issues an opinion on same-sex marriage, stating that issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples would contradict current state law. At the same time, he also concluded that the Oregon Supreme Court would probably strike down those statutes as violating the state’s constitution. Partially as a result of this, the Wisconsin State Senate voted to approve an amendment to the state constitution banning same-sex marriages or even civil unions.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 11, 2015.

I played golf with the women’s group at Saticoy this morning. I swear, of the 40 or so of them, there sure are a lot of “sisters” swinging’ clubs! The ironic thing was this: they gave me the membership application to complete. It had a line asking for the name of the applicant’s husband. Really????? I bet hardly any of those women have or have had one…ever!

A Pisces fact: The feet are the most sensitive spot for Pisces. Uh, Yup!

Heading to New York today. Delta cancelled my original flight, gave me one I actually like better, then upgraded me to first class. Sweeeeet!

Today I’m grateful for my new golf-women friends, for outstanding foot massages, and for first class seats! Life is good!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Sarah Desmond said to experience a feeling is to open a window to our soul. I respect all my feelings today. They tell me important things I need to know about myself.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 222 – Elagabalus was assassinated at age 18 in Italy because of his relationships with Hierocles, a charioteer; 1998 – the first two openly gay members of the Danish Parliament took office; 2003 – the first transgender person is accepted in the Reform Judaism Seminary in Cincinnati, Ohio; 2004 – The California Supreme Court issues a stay ordering San Francisco officials to cease issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples; 2007 – first openly LGBTQ person, Rabbi Toba Spitzer, chosen to head an American Rabbinical Association, in Arizona.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 10, 2015.

Want to date a Pisces? Here’s what you need to know: Pisces women are very captivating and fascinating. (Okay, I’ll buy this.) She is charming, soft and feminine. (I’m not buying this so much!) She can see right through her partner and she is not easy to fool, so don’t lead her on, because instead of confronting you, she will simply disappear. (I used to do this…) She needs to nurture, sort of like a mother nurturing a child. What she needs in return is to be protected and cherished, make her feel like she is needed and loved. She needs patience and sympathy and you have to be gentle with her. Don’t poke fun or tease and definitely do not reject her harshly because she can’t stand rejection. She is extremely romantic and will lose herself in the relationship. I don’t think this describes me very much… Bike with me, play golf with me, travel with me, talk with me, and exercise with me and we have it nailed!

Only 9 more days before this blog closes and a new one begins. When I turn 68 in 10 days, my blog will become a documentation of the amazing postcards I’ve been receiving. I look forward to blessing this year and beginning my new one. Happy birthday month to me!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Today I will stop brooding and start meditating. I can figure out my next best move today if I quiet my mind long enough to receive God’s message.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1985 – William Hoffman’s play about AIDS, As Is, opens at New York City’s Circle Rep Theater. Less than six weeks later, Larry Kramer’s The Normal Heart opens at the Public Theater; 1987 – AIDS advocacy group ACT UP (AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power) is formed in response to the devastating effects the disease has had on the gay and lesbian community in New York; 2009 – In Tel Aviv, Uzi Even and his life partner was the first same-sex male couple in Israel whose right of adoption has been legally acknowledged; German Paragraph 175 finally fully repealed.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 9, 2015.

During my walk this morning I listened to This American Life. The topic was the feeling of place. Different folks shared interesting stories about the towns they call home. I don’t really have that. I’ve lived in so many places over my 67/almost 68 years. There’s no family left in North Miami Beach where I grew up. I’m in Ventura now where I do have family, which is why I’m here, but I only visited here over the years. For me, when I think of the concept of home, I think it’s more about people than place, more about water than town. I don’t know what the future holds but I’m not adverse to living close to those I love and/or living on the water again but maybe not actually on a boat. I’ll have a boat but more as a place to write than a place to live. Location? I just don’t know…and don’t need to know today.

There was a cute segment about a song by Frank Gari called Hello (fill in the blank). The show’s guest from Calgary, Canada thought the song was unique to Calgary. Ira Glass let him know that it was the rah-rah song for over 100 cities in the US! The guest was both dumbfounded and disappointed. He said it felt like he just learned that two other kids slept with his teddy bear when he was away from home on the weekends! Cute! If you want to see/hear the song, here’s the URL: http://www.crazytownblog.com/crazytown/2014/06/a-city-theme-song.html#sthash.fT39AftN.dpuf

Today I learned about the depths of a Pisces. I’ll share it here: Pisces have an intuitive and psychic ability more then any other zodiac signs. They trust their gut feelings and if they do not, they quickly learn to because they realize that their hunches are usually correct. Pisces’ downfall is their sensitivity and their inability to reject another person. They do not like rejection and they try to treat others the way they want to be treated so they will rarely say no to a person for fear of hurting their feelings. They will help another person with their problems and like to do so because making others feel good in turn makes them feel good. Pisces is the zodiac sign of self-undoing. People born under this zodiac sign are not susceptible to bad luck and unfortunate events; they bring them on themselves by overindulging, laziness and a knack for picking poorly suited partners and friends. They want people in their life who stir their emotions because this helps them to practice emotional stability. The inner conflict of Pisces is extremes of temperament and conflicting emotions. They are trying to pinpoint themselves on the real world while their spiritual world can cloud their vision, they will try to escape or avoid a situation instead of confronting it. Pisces eternal struggle is to learn to use their powers and their imagination in a positive, productive way and vying for emotional stability by not giving away their emotions to everyone else, they need to help themselves. Maybe…

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Mardy Kopischke said believe the best in yourself. Then it is easier to believe the best in others. The contribution I can make today is really so easy. All I need to do is focus on the positive quality notably in someone else but also on myself.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1989 – Noted gay artist Robert Mapplethorpe dies of AIDS in Boston at the age of 42.  Mapplethorpe’s work is later at the center of a major arts funding controversy in the United States.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 7, 2015.

Ugh…87 degrees! Way too hot for coastal Ventura. Sorry, East Coast, friends. I had a golf lesson this morning even if it’s hot. Chipping. I needed that! I spent the remainder of the day writing a reference letter for a former student then preparing my visit to New York next week. Tonight…cards with the Old Folks! I love it even though they wiped the floor with me. At least the snacks are good!

I wish I were in Selma this weekend. I would love to be standing side by side with the many folks who are still fighting for voting rights and also for marriage equality in Alabama, and who will be standing together on the Edmund Pettus Bridge. I’m there in spirit and in support…

Another Pisces factoid is about temperament: The Pisces personality is hard to pin down, very mysterious and elusive. Pisces are molded by their surroundings. They incorporate their experiences and surroundings into themselves. They have extreme compassion and feel the pain of others. If something is wrong in the world that affects them, it affects them deeply. They take it to heart and feel extreme feelings regarding the matter. When they are happy, they are extremely happy and when they are sad, they are extremely depressed.

I’m finding these tidbits interesting. Parts of them are right on for me and other parts must be about someone else. But I’m a true Pisces Daydream Believer so I stand with my sister/brother Pisces.

Today I’m grateful for my friends and colleagues who are in Selma this weekend. My heart is with them…

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Seven. Mary Timberlake said there’s a lesson to be learned in every painful experience. I remember that God is with me throughout today’s experiences.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1967 – CBS airs “The Homosexuals”, an episode of CBS Reports. This first-ever national television broadcast on the subject of homosexuality has been described as “the single most destructive hour of antigay propaganda in our nation’s history.”; 1972 – East Lansing, Michigan becomes the first U.S. City to ban discrimination in city hiring on the basis of sexual orientation; 1986 – Desert Hearts, considered the first positive lesbian film, released; 1988 – Shortly after the release of his first big mainstream hit, Hairspray, its star, Divine, dies of heart disease in Los Angeles at the age of 42.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 6, 2015.

Baby boys! I babysat my two favorite boys in the under-five set! Seven month old Harvey (named for Harvey Milk) is like a little rumba floor sweeper. He scoots rather than crawls, quite effectively I might add. He’s such a happy little guy, always smiling, goes to sleep as soon as he’s put down, and makes the biggest poops I’ve ever seen by a baby! He hates a wet or dirty diaper which were the only times he fussed. Otherwise he was so easy. Lunch was hilarious! He eats baby mush fruits and veggies. Every time I put a spoonful of food into his mouth, he literally gave a little joyful noise. A foodie in the making, no doubt! Four and a half year old Jude was also just as easy, as usual. While Harvey sat in his chair in the back yard bouncing his head to the music that was playing, Jude and I jumped together in his trampoline cage. Indoors, after our walk, I learned how to train my dragon, be brave, save a population with Legos, and raise a guardian. Jude learned how to play solitaire with me on my iPad. I was covered with baby food, poop, pee, and barf…and so happy for the day! These are the moments that remind me how wonderful life is and how hopeful I am for our future. These two sweet, kind, smart, handsome little guys (with lesbian moms, a gay dad, a lesbian grandma, and two bisexual cousins) will change the world, I just know it!

To continue with understanding Pisces people, here is a tidbit about Pisces and business: Pisces does not take well to a position of leadership. (oh-oh…too late!). They are too sensitive and lacking in self-discipline and self-confidence for a positions such as that. What they are good at is writing (whew!), acting, poetry, or being musicians. Pisces are excellent at anything that tugs at the heartstrings and mystical/spiritual. They are extremely creative and can use their skills of creativity and their understanding of people to inspire others. Unfortunately, most Pisces take the easy way out in life and never attain the degree of fame that they possibly could. They have to stop self-doubting themselves because they are capable of being good role models and leaders to others. People do look up to them. (Whatever)

Today I am deeply grateful for the “grand” generation of little kids and for the opportunity to babysit for a whole day!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Isak Dinesen said, “All sorrows can be borne if you put them into a story or tell the story about them.” I tell a part of my story to someone today. She may be helped by it, and I will be freed from it!

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1987 – Vermont becomes the first state to hand out condoms to prisoners on request; 1994 –The Jenny Jones Show tapes “secret crushes” episode that resulted in the murder of one Michigan man by another. The Jenny Jones Show was found to be liable for the murder in a civil suit.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com