Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – April 2, 2016

I wrote an e-letter to a friend who had asked me how I was doing. I actually had to think about it as opposed to giving her everyone’s pat “I’m fine” response. My friend lives in Charlotte, North Carolina. Here’s what I wrote:

Hi… I love your family photo! It was of her, her teenage son, the new girlfriend, and the girlfriend’s teenage daughter.) I hope the assholes in North Carolina aren’t screwing up your plans to be a lesbian! What on earth is going on there????

And the similar Mississippi law adds that women can’t wear pants! I think it’s time an LGBT army of lovers – well dressed, of course – mounts up and charges!

 All is well here, depending on one’s definition of well. 

 Kelly and I are truly doing well and moving forward with our plans to marry later this year, maybe Jan. 1 2017. We just don’t know yet and don’t need to. But we have some fun trips on the books (Barbados and a Windstar cruise, a kd lang concert in Victoria, Canada, my niece’s wedding in Chelan, WA, a fishing/bear watching trip to the Kenai Peninsula in Alaska, and a whale watching trip in the Sea of Cortez) and will add a Florida Keys bike ride as soon as womantours.com adds it to their schedule. The funny thing is that our most cherished, fun place in the world is our home in Sequim, WA so I’m not sure why we travel so much other than we’re getting older and can still move around!

 My youngest sister was just diagnosed with breast cancer (stage O) and is having a double mastectomy later this month. Luckily it was caught much earlier that Sherry’s, and Sher’s was a far more aggressive type, but it all sucks.

 Mom turns 90 on Friday. We were planning a big soiree but since Sher died, Mom doesn’t want anything but immediate family. 

 Sher died…I can barely do those words. I’m still so raw, still can’t believe it. Barry and I have become very close and spend good time crying – and even laughing sometimes – together.

 I’m going to Florida for three weeks to housesit for Helen while she goes to Europe for her 78th birthday. The crazy thing is that I get three whole weeks without having to pack or unpack! And I’ll be able to see my daughter and my granddaughters.

 Granddaughter number two graduates from high school in June and was accepted into the School of Music at the University of South Florida. Mom and I are going to her graduation in St. Pete.

 Erik and Jenn and Cara and the boys are moving up north, the girls and boys to Portland and Erik to either Portland or Seattle, wherever he gets the best job offer, after he spends three weeks in Europe in September. So we’re all migrating to the Pacific Northwest where we’re still free (at least as free as possible in the US) as LGBT people.

 Kelly and I head for our home in Sequim in mid-May and will return in mid-Nov. I’m going to become a WA resident.

Take good care, and get out of NC if at all possible before they bring in the damned brownshirts to arrest the queers!

The one thing I forget to tell her was that my WWII is almost finished! One more round of self-editing and then it goes to readers for feedback. While they’re reading and feedbacking, I’m going to search for an editor who will take a WWII-avatar-historical novel-young adult fiction book. Kind of a niche….

I’m deeply grateful that I’m doing well! How are YOU doing?

Happy April!

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Today in LGBT history: April 2

2005 – NAACP Chair, Julian Bond, states in a national speech that “gay rights are civil rights”

2013, Uruguay – Uruguay senate approves same-sex marriage by a vote of 23-8, becoming the fourteenth country in the world to legalize marriage equality.

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 27, 2016

 

Two weeks ago Kelly and I attended a St. Patrick’s Day dinner here in the Four Seasons community. We sat at a table with four gay men, chatted with the two couples all evening, and had a nice time. Several days later one of the couples invited up to their home for lunch. Yesterday was our lunch with them. The men were our ages, give or take a couple of years, one a retired educator and one a retired accountant. Both were married to women for many years and have children, found each other on line, and have been together for twelve years. Their home was absolutely beautiful and the meal delish. What was striking for Kelly and me was that the conversation, from the instant we walked in the door, was sweet, deep, authentic, and personal. These two men not only shared their stories with us but engaged us equally in our stories. It was such a delightful two and half hours and we’ll spend time with them again.

Two thoughts entered my brain yesterday with these two guys. First, it’s nice to have friends in our gated neighborhood as we all age in place. There are many lesbians and gay men here and we will to get to know more of them. The second thought was that Kelly and I just made our friends. Her friends in Palm Springs are wonderful and I like many of them very much, even love some. My friends are also good people who adore Kelly. But now we have our friends, who met us as a couple. We actually have several of our friends in Sequim, especially our neighbors in our ‘hood, but this is a first for us in Palm Springs and our life as a couple continues to expand.

We’re not married yet, now looking at Jan. 1, 2017 as a possible wedding date though it could happen earlier. But we bought our rings which we picked up last Wednesday from the jeweler in Ventura. Of course we couldn’t wait so we’re wearing them now. I love how we’re doing our marriage! So non-traditional and a tad confusing for some, but it works for us and we’re having a blast!

Life is very good indeed and I’m deeply grateful…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1943, The Netherlands – A group of resistance activists, led by Willem Arondeus, a gay man, dressed as German soldiers, infiltrated the citizen registration building, and destroyed it. The attack inspired similar ones.

1951, China – The U.S. State Department announces firing of four homosexuals from the Hong Kong office, one involved in a visa bribery plot and the other three discovered during the plot investigation.

1977 – On Face the Nation, White House press secretary Jody Powell defends charges that the Carter Administration panders to gay activists by saying, “For an organized group who feel they have a grievance that they are not treated fairly, for them to have a right to put that grievance before high officials and say ‘We want redress,’ that to me is what the essence of America is all about.  What I feel about gay rights or any other group doesn’t have a thing in the world to do with it.”

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 24, 2016

The other day I wrote about how sucky 2016 is looking. I have since reframed.

My sister Sherry died on January 3rd because it was time. Her brain cancer had progressed rapidly and she was deteriorating quickly. I miss her beyond measure but I know she’s with me every moment.

The cancer in my sister Barbra was found at an extremely early stage and the double mastectomy is exactly the right action under the circumstances. I’d do the same thing and I’m proud of her courage to move forward quickly.

Kelly and I will be married this year which is total joy! And today is ring day!!!

My granddaughter Callie graduates from high school and will start the University of South Florida Music School in the fall.

My niece Ellie is getting married to Gary in June in Chelan, Washington, which will be a fun trip for us. My son Erik will turn 40 during that celebration!

Kelly and I are going to a kd lang concert in Victoria, Canada, in June; a fishing and bear watching trip in Alaska in July; and Barbados and a Windstar cruise in the Caribbean in December.

I’m 69 years old and life is truly good! Thank you, Higher Power, for your unending gifts of love and life…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1794, France – Anacharsis Cloots, originally known as Jean-Baptiste du Val-de-Grâce, baron de Cloots ,was an orator and a New Atheist long before New Atheism was a thing. He was embroiled in revolutionary politics before being used as a scapegoat and guillotined by the same revolutionaries. Some of his oratory indicates that he was likely an outspoken ally of lesbians and gay men.

1971 – In defiance of the U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service, a federal judge grants U.S. citizenship to a 24-year old gay man from Cuba, ruling that an applicant’s homosexuality cannot, in itself, bar a person from becoming a citizen

1986 – William Hurt wins the Best Actor Oscar for his role as an imprisoned homosexual window dresser in Kiss of the Spider Woman

1987 – ACT UP (AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power) stages its first major political action in the financial heart of New York City to demand that the federal government stop dragging its feet on the approval of new drugs that might benefit people with AIDS. Seventeen protesters are arrested for obstructing traffic when they sit down in the intersection of Broadway and Wall Street.

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 19, 2016

Yesterday, after a good three-mile walk and a 12-step meeting, Kelly took me to PF Chang’s for a birthday lunch though my birthday isn’t until tomorrow. Her mother and sister are coming to visit us today for the weekend so we took advantage of a day together yesterday. I had the kung pao shrimp…holy cow! I think it was the best shrimp dish I’d ever eaten! That sauce! And the shrimp were perfectly grilled.

My iPhone 5 phone was two and half years old and had started to actually growl at me. Seriously! It began making a growling noise that stopped only when I turned the phone off. I’m convinced that these expensive phones are made to self-destruct after two years.

After lunch we walked over to the Verizon store. Both Kelly and I bought new iPhone 6 devices. Because we’re getting older and more stupid as new devices come out, it took well over an hour for the Verizon people to download, upload, and teach us how to use our new toys. I asked the young saleswoman to consider me her grandmother, that I know nothing, and needed her brilliant assistance. She laughed and said that her grandmother was totally computer savvy, that it was her mother who knew absolutely nothing!

My son Erik arrived last night to spend the weekend in Palm Springs with my niece Ellie and ten of the women in her wedding party. (This grand soiree wedding is in June in Chelan, WA, and should be stunning!) Ellie rented a house for her “bach” bash and invited Erik to hang with the gaggle of bridespeople. Being the proper fashionista gay man that he is, he accepted the invitation. He came to our house first to chat with Kelly and me about some life choice ideas he’s considering. (I love him deeply for that and for so much more. Such a fine man…)

The group of presumably straight celebrants had dinner at Trio then went partying at Hunters (a totally gay bar). That’s where Erik and I met up with them. I went only to see my niece who I love dearly. I was impressed that she was still upright but I suspect it wasn’t for long. Hope they made it back to the rented house before either passing out or getting arrested.

It was a fun day! I’m so grateful for my Kelly and Dooney, for my son and my niece, and for the gifts and pleasures of the day. As the magic number 69 approaches, I’m so clear that life is good indeed…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1953 – The Diana Foundation was founded in Houston, Texas, by a small group of friends. The Diana Foundation is a nonprofit organization and recognized as the oldest continuously active gay organization in the United States. It hosts two annual fundraising events including its Diana Awards.

1982 – Victor Victoria opens nationwide to generally rave reviews. Blake Edward’s farce, based on a 1933 German film, Viktor und Viktoria, features Robert Preston as perhaps the most relaxed and affable homosexual ever scripted into a major Hollywood motion picture. The movie becomes a box office hit and accomplishes what many years of gay liberation had not: an impression on the general public’s consciousness of homosexuals as compassionate and likable people

1987 – The FDA approves AZT for the treatment of HIV /AIDS

2004, Quebec – the Court of Appeal upholds a superior court ruling that same-sex marriages are legal under Canada’s Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The Canadian provinces of Ontario and British Columbia already permitted same-sex marriage

2012 – The US Supreme Court declines to hear John Lotter’s case. In 1993, he killed transgender man Brandon Teena and was sentenced to the death penalty. The story is depicted in the film Boys Don’t Cry.

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Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 17, 2016

Yesterday was such a good day. I golfed with my friends in the Saticoy Women’s Golf Club in the morning, babysat my grandsons later in the day, then drove out to the desert to be with Kelly in the evening.

I struggle with golf and sometimes get really frustrated. I’ve taken lessons, went to golf camp, bought new clubs that promised to improve my game, and play often, and yet my score reflects little more than a poor bowling game! I know I need to let go of the score thing and just enjoy the experience, and most of the time I do, but yesterday I didn’t like having my usual sucky score. I think I need to work on my attitude more than my golf and just understand that I’ll likely not improve anymore than I already have. And I should stop keeping score like the women in The Villages! They just go out, play a round in the fresh air with fun company, and then go to lunch. Done!

Babysitting the boys… The oldest is 5, the youngest is 19 months. Both boys, with their beautiful blonde silky hair (like their dad had when he was their ages), are sweet, thoughtful loving, kind little kids. Big brother is gentle with his little brother, not flinching at all when little brother disrupts whatever big brother’s doing. Little brother is trip! He’s a kissy little guy, running around nonstop, always with a book in hand (his two favorites last night were a thesaurus and a book on liver diseases…go figure!), climbing in and out of a big cardboard box then scooting up my legs and onto my lap for mouth kisses, laughing the entire time. One of the moms informed me that little brother hadn’t pooped in days due to some meds for a cold, so he might be irritable and uncomfortable. The instant the moms were out the door, little brother proudly pooped his brains out… thank you. And big brother once again honored me by asking me to be his potty partner. I accepted. I love these little guys like crazy and always enjoy the moments I have with them, even when I’m p to my elbows in little-boy-poop. I’m so grateful that their moms include me in their lives. The boys are close to the ages of my children when I lost custody. My heart fills with so much love knowing that I get to watch these two little guys grow up…

And this morning I awoke in Palm Springs, with Kelly by my side and Dooney at my feet, as the sun rose and with birds singing in our gorgeous back yard… life is good, indeed!

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1977 – Two years after having repealed its state sodomy laws, Arkansas’s state legislature votes to repeal the repeal and reinstates criminal penalties for homosexual acts between consenting adults

1987 – The White House reveals that President Reagan has undergone AIDS testing out of fear that he may have contracted the disease during blood transfusions after his 1981 assassination attempt

1989 – Actor Merritt Butrick, best known for his portrayal of James Kirk’s son in the films Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan and Star Trek III: The Search for Spock, dies of AIDS in Los Angeles at the age of twenty-nine. He was also Johnny Slash from the short-lived ’80s sitcom Square Pegs starring a young Sarah Jessica Parker and Jami Gertz.

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Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 15, 2016

Yesterday was a fun friend day! I had lunch with a dear friend at the local deli, met two others for golf in the afternoon, then two more for dinner. I love the catch-up and touching base with folks in Ventura. I love being in Palm Springs with Kelly and I’m also comfortable in Ventura as well. And I’m looking forward to spending three weeks in The Villages in Florida with that community of women, and then the BEST: Sequim, WA. Kelly and I will go up in mid-May for the next 6 months (though we’ll be in and out of SoCal throughout that time). I know all of this sounds crazy to most people but I thrive on the changes. The good news is that there is such sweet familiarity in each of these places. I’m deeply grateful that I’m still able to move around like this. One day I’ll probably lite in one of them, find a comfy rocker, and enjoy life more sedentary with Kelly, but for today, I have people to see and places to go!

Beware the Ides of March, wrote Shakespeare. Happy March 15th. It should be a wild day, politically speaking. It’s a perfect day to do my taxes while being glued to the television. Okay…and do some exercise, perhaps a good 3-mile walk while I listen to MSNBC!

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

559, Turkey – “Men-corruptors” blamed for earthquake and plague in Constantinople. The Empire of the Byzantine Empire claimed that homosexual acts are to blame, as he warned the year before.

1633, Sweden – Christina becomes Queen at age sex. She always wished to be a boy and is given the nickname “Girl King.” When she was fourteen her tutor remarked that “she is not at all like a female.”

1811, UK – Beginning of trial for two Scottish teachers accused of lesbian acts. One of the judges said that sex between women was “equally imaginary with witchcraft, sorcery or carnal copulation with the devil.”

1977 – The ABC sitcom, Three’s Company, premieres. The “sit” in the sitcom is that an unemployed straight chef (John Ritter‘s Jack Tripper) moves in with two female roommates, but in order to satisfy the landlord’s suspicions that there might be sexual impropriety, pretends he is gay. The show stays in the Nielsen Top Ten for the next six years;

1983 – A West Virginia kindergarten teacher, Linda Conway, is forced to resign from her job after parents complain that she LOOKS like a lesbian. She files a $1 million lawsuit against the school board. However, three years later the state supreme court confirms the school board’s right to dismiss her because of her appearance;

1985 – A new study in the Journal of the American Medical Association concludes that AIDS is most likely NOT spread by casual contact.

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Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 6, 2016

I’ve begun to notice that people are either curious about Cuba or wondering if this is my next soapbox. Discussions about socialism vs. communism are beginning to arise, as is the distinction between true socialism or cherry-picking socialism. And then there are the conversations around the human rights issues in Cuba….and I’ve only been home for a day! Sheeeeesh! I think it’s my Cuban revolution hat that is causing some discomfort among others (others being family so far) but I like it! Regardless of the politics, though, they loved my pictures of the old cars. Gotta start somewhere!

Kelly and Dooney came up from Palm Springs last night. Looking forward to a sweet day after a full night of good rainfall.

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1987 – Vermont becomes the first state to hand out condoms to prisoners on request

1994, Illinois –The Jenny Jones Show tapes “secret crushes” episode that resulted in the murder of one Michigan man by another. The Jenny Jones Show was found to be liable for the murder in a civil suit.

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Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – February 27, 2016

We arrived in Santiago de Cuba this morning. The cruise from Montego Bay to Santiago was pretty awful. We – and nearly everyone else – were horribly seasick. Regina and I had taken salsa lessons, the only ones to do so. By the end neither of us could do anything but run for our cabin. Shout out for Dramamine! It did the job quickly and we were able to keep our dinners. Others weren’t so lucky….

The cool thing about this boat is that it’s small for a cruise ship – 1200. The larger ones apparently aren’t able to pull into the small ports of Cuba. There are 120 of us on the Al and Chuck Travel trip, 90 gay men and 30 lesbians. I’ve already received an invitation to stay with a couple of the men in Rehoboth, Delaware!

Random notes about Cuba that we learned from the University of Havana professors who are our guides:

People line up at the banks. They’re allowed to go in only one at a time. The doors lock in-between visitors.

Santiago was founded in 1550 and is a hub of African culture. We went to the AfroCuban Cultural Center for several mini-lectures and a stunning dance troop. We were invited to dance with them for the last two songs, so I was on my feet! Loved it! The woman who runs the Center, Dr. Martha Jackson, told us that Cubans are trying to build bridges, not burn them.

We visited San Juan Hill which memorializes the Spanish American War and Teddy Roosevelt. That was the first battle in which there were actual attacks by air – hot air balloons!

We went to Revolutionary Square where there is a huge monument to machetes which was the weapon of choice in the 1878 war. There’s also a statue of Antonio Maceo who was killed in battle.

Cuba has the longest life expectancy of any 3rd world county, 76 for men, 80 for women. There is one doctor for every 260 people and the docs make house calls. In fact, medicine is Cuba’s largest export! They train doctors here then send them throughout the would. Over 250 were in Africa during the Ebola virus outbreak; and Cuba has a vaccine cure for people with lung cancer!

We visited the rum factory that was the original Bacardi family factory. They left (read run out of) Cuba in the early 1900s and took their license with them so the Bacardi name is not allowed to be used in Cuba.

In a way it seems like utopia here: 95% of all of the people own their homes (given to them by the government); all food and needs are provided but by voucher so quantities are limited; all education including college through the professions is free; all medical care is free; everyone has a job; the police do not carry guns and neither does anyone else. Crime is very low; Sixty percent of Cuba is run by women and gays, both of whom are protected classes.

Havana is the capitol of Cuba now but Santiago was initially. There are Three million people in Havana.

Cuba was not discovered by Columbus; it was merely an encounter. Natives were already here.

Many of the beautiful homes of the wealthy were abandoned by their owners in the 1950’s and early 60’s. Those houses are now schools or museum or stores though people are not able to buy very much. The average income is 14 Cuban Pesos a month.

Bars are on every window and many places have walls and barbed wire. I don’t know why. A leftover from the old days? Everything seems to have stopped in the 1950s.

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1557, Italy – Benvenuto Cellini charged with sodomy

1989 – The U.S.S.R. reports the case of twenty-nine infants and six mothers who all contracted AIDS in the same hospital through a single unsterile syringe that was used over and over again

2001 – Two female characters on Buffy the Vampire Slayer share a kiss. It was the first realistic lesbian relationship on TV

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – February 26, 2016

I’m writing as I sit with a cup of coffee on the deck of the Gloucestershire Hotel in Montego Bay, overlooking the Caribbean. Regina and I arrived in Montego Bay around 3 PM yesterday, went through their Customs, then taxied to our hotel. Linda Friedman, Jill Bulmash and Susan Gordon along with 25 other Villages (Florida) women were sitting on the front patio as we arrived so there was a delightful welcoming committee for us (though not intentional).

The hotel is very Caribbean, very tropical. The people are lovely and the room is large though nothing about the hotel is elegant. We have a good room that faces the water, with two double (not queen) beds and a tiny bathroom.

After getting settled, we walked into town. Very few shops and restaurants were open because it was election day in Jamaica. They’re electing the country’s leaders.

Montego Bay is a trashy town. Literally, trash is everywhere, the streets are crazy busy, and people drive on the wrong side of the street in the wrong side of the car. But everyone speaks and writes in English which they learn in school. While people are very nice, this is not a place to which I would want to return. I see nothing fun nor romantic about it, so this stopover was enough.

At diner in the hotel last night, I met about 15 gay men from Palm Springs and one from Atlanta with whom I have several mutual friends. This is a gay cruise with many gay men and us 30 lesbians! It’s already fun and we haven’t left for the ship yet!

This morning we will eat the hotel’s magnificent breakfast spread, then go to the ship around noon. It’s a cool day here, not much humidity, and Montego Bay is waking up. So am I…

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1973 – Gay playwright, Noel Coward, dies in Jamaica at the age of 73

1975 – After the local district attorney’s office rules that there are no county laws preventing two people of the same-sex from getting married, Boulder, Colorado county clerk Clela Rorex issues a marriage license to two gay men, Dave McCord and Dave Zamora. It is the first same-sex marriage license issued in the United States. She says in a statement, “I don’t profess to be knowledgeable about homosexuality or even understand it, but it’s not my business why people get married. No minority should be discriminated against.”

1977 – First time openly lesbian and gay people at the White House

1985 – A 4-4 tie vote in the U.S. Supreme Court effectively overturns an Oklahoma law that would have banned homosexuals, or those defending or “promoting” the homosexual “lifestyle”, from teaching in the state’s public schools

1990 – Common Threads: Stories from the Quilt wins the Academy Award for Best Feature-Length Documentary. It is the second Oscar for gay filmmaker Rob Epstein, who received the first one six years previously, for The Times of Harvey Milk

2000 – Hilary Swank won Best Actress Oscar for portrayal of Brandon Teena in Boy Don’t Cry

 2007 – Jewish Theological Seminary of America begins accepting openly LGB candidates

2013 – Gay pride flag flown by Alan Lowenthal (D), in Washington DC.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – February 22, 2016

Such a beautiful day yesterday… Kelly and Dooney and I drove from Palm Springs to Ventura to spend couple of days here before I leave for Cuba. We went over to the boat to clean it and prepare it for today’s lunch party with my mother and sister Barbra. As we were cleaning, Kelly stopped what she was doing and looked at me. “I feel Sherry so strongly here,” she said. Sher loved the water, loved being on her own boat, putting around the harbor just a short distance from where we were. I miss Sher so much that I can barely say the words. All I can do is let he tears flow and feel her close to me, my guardian angel…

We finished our work ad left the marina to take a walk through downtown Ventura to do some very special shopping which I will not share here just yet. Suffice it to say that my heart is overflowing with love for this precious woman, my Kelly, and I’m grateful beyond words for her sweet presence in my life.

And now to prepare for today’s lunch cruise…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1892 – Popular openly bisexual poet Edna St. Vincent Millay is born

1979 – Studio 54 throws a gala fifty-second birthday party for closeted gay attorney and former McCarthy aid Roy Cohn. The event draws several hundred of the city’s luminaries including Donald Trump, Barbara Walters, members of both Democratic and Republican parties and most of the city’s elected officials, As the right-hand-man of Joseph McCarthy, Roy Cohn targeted homosexuals. But he himself was a closeted homosexual, denying his homosexuality, and later, denying that he had AIDS.

1987 – Andy Warhol dies at the age of 58.

2007, Netherlands – Gerda Verbug is the first open lesbian elected to government. She becomes the minister of Agriculture, Nature, and Food Quality.

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Warmly,

Ronni