Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 24, 2016

The other day I wrote about how sucky 2016 is looking. I have since reframed.

My sister Sherry died on January 3rd because it was time. Her brain cancer had progressed rapidly and she was deteriorating quickly. I miss her beyond measure but I know she’s with me every moment.

The cancer in my sister Barbra was found at an extremely early stage and the double mastectomy is exactly the right action under the circumstances. I’d do the same thing and I’m proud of her courage to move forward quickly.

Kelly and I will be married this year which is total joy! And today is ring day!!!

My granddaughter Callie graduates from high school and will start the University of South Florida Music School in the fall.

My niece Ellie is getting married to Gary in June in Chelan, Washington, which will be a fun trip for us. My son Erik will turn 40 during that celebration!

Kelly and I are going to a kd lang concert in Victoria, Canada, in June; a fishing and bear watching trip in Alaska in July; and Barbados and a Windstar cruise in the Caribbean in December.

I’m 69 years old and life is truly good! Thank you, Higher Power, for your unending gifts of love and life…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1794, France – Anacharsis Cloots, originally known as Jean-Baptiste du Val-de-Grâce, baron de Cloots ,was an orator and a New Atheist long before New Atheism was a thing. He was embroiled in revolutionary politics before being used as a scapegoat and guillotined by the same revolutionaries. Some of his oratory indicates that he was likely an outspoken ally of lesbians and gay men.

1971 – In defiance of the U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service, a federal judge grants U.S. citizenship to a 24-year old gay man from Cuba, ruling that an applicant’s homosexuality cannot, in itself, bar a person from becoming a citizen

1986 – William Hurt wins the Best Actor Oscar for his role as an imprisoned homosexual window dresser in Kiss of the Spider Woman

1987 – ACT UP (AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power) stages its first major political action in the financial heart of New York City to demand that the federal government stop dragging its feet on the approval of new drugs that might benefit people with AIDS. Seventeen protesters are arrested for obstructing traffic when they sit down in the intersection of Broadway and Wall Street.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 19, 2016

Yesterday, after a good three-mile walk and a 12-step meeting, Kelly took me to PF Chang’s for a birthday lunch though my birthday isn’t until tomorrow. Her mother and sister are coming to visit us today for the weekend so we took advantage of a day together yesterday. I had the kung pao shrimp…holy cow! I think it was the best shrimp dish I’d ever eaten! That sauce! And the shrimp were perfectly grilled.

My iPhone 5 phone was two and half years old and had started to actually growl at me. Seriously! It began making a growling noise that stopped only when I turned the phone off. I’m convinced that these expensive phones are made to self-destruct after two years.

After lunch we walked over to the Verizon store. Both Kelly and I bought new iPhone 6 devices. Because we’re getting older and more stupid as new devices come out, it took well over an hour for the Verizon people to download, upload, and teach us how to use our new toys. I asked the young saleswoman to consider me her grandmother, that I know nothing, and needed her brilliant assistance. She laughed and said that her grandmother was totally computer savvy, that it was her mother who knew absolutely nothing!

My son Erik arrived last night to spend the weekend in Palm Springs with my niece Ellie and ten of the women in her wedding party. (This grand soiree wedding is in June in Chelan, WA, and should be stunning!) Ellie rented a house for her “bach” bash and invited Erik to hang with the gaggle of bridespeople. Being the proper fashionista gay man that he is, he accepted the invitation. He came to our house first to chat with Kelly and me about some life choice ideas he’s considering. (I love him deeply for that and for so much more. Such a fine man…)

The group of presumably straight celebrants had dinner at Trio then went partying at Hunters (a totally gay bar). That’s where Erik and I met up with them. I went only to see my niece who I love dearly. I was impressed that she was still upright but I suspect it wasn’t for long. Hope they made it back to the rented house before either passing out or getting arrested.

It was a fun day! I’m so grateful for my Kelly and Dooney, for my son and my niece, and for the gifts and pleasures of the day. As the magic number 69 approaches, I’m so clear that life is good indeed…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1953 – The Diana Foundation was founded in Houston, Texas, by a small group of friends. The Diana Foundation is a nonprofit organization and recognized as the oldest continuously active gay organization in the United States. It hosts two annual fundraising events including its Diana Awards.

1982 – Victor Victoria opens nationwide to generally rave reviews. Blake Edward’s farce, based on a 1933 German film, Viktor und Viktoria, features Robert Preston as perhaps the most relaxed and affable homosexual ever scripted into a major Hollywood motion picture. The movie becomes a box office hit and accomplishes what many years of gay liberation had not: an impression on the general public’s consciousness of homosexuals as compassionate and likable people

1987 – The FDA approves AZT for the treatment of HIV /AIDS

2004, Quebec – the Court of Appeal upholds a superior court ruling that same-sex marriages are legal under Canada’s Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The Canadian provinces of Ontario and British Columbia already permitted same-sex marriage

2012 – The US Supreme Court declines to hear John Lotter’s case. In 1993, he killed transgender man Brandon Teena and was sentenced to the death penalty. The story is depicted in the film Boys Don’t Cry.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 15, 2016

Yesterday was a fun friend day! I had lunch with a dear friend at the local deli, met two others for golf in the afternoon, then two more for dinner. I love the catch-up and touching base with folks in Ventura. I love being in Palm Springs with Kelly and I’m also comfortable in Ventura as well. And I’m looking forward to spending three weeks in The Villages in Florida with that community of women, and then the BEST: Sequim, WA. Kelly and I will go up in mid-May for the next 6 months (though we’ll be in and out of SoCal throughout that time). I know all of this sounds crazy to most people but I thrive on the changes. The good news is that there is such sweet familiarity in each of these places. I’m deeply grateful that I’m still able to move around like this. One day I’ll probably lite in one of them, find a comfy rocker, and enjoy life more sedentary with Kelly, but for today, I have people to see and places to go!

Beware the Ides of March, wrote Shakespeare. Happy March 15th. It should be a wild day, politically speaking. It’s a perfect day to do my taxes while being glued to the television. Okay…and do some exercise, perhaps a good 3-mile walk while I listen to MSNBC!

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

559, Turkey – “Men-corruptors” blamed for earthquake and plague in Constantinople. The Empire of the Byzantine Empire claimed that homosexual acts are to blame, as he warned the year before.

1633, Sweden – Christina becomes Queen at age sex. She always wished to be a boy and is given the nickname “Girl King.” When she was fourteen her tutor remarked that “she is not at all like a female.”

1811, UK – Beginning of trial for two Scottish teachers accused of lesbian acts. One of the judges said that sex between women was “equally imaginary with witchcraft, sorcery or carnal copulation with the devil.”

1977 – The ABC sitcom, Three’s Company, premieres. The “sit” in the sitcom is that an unemployed straight chef (John Ritter‘s Jack Tripper) moves in with two female roommates, but in order to satisfy the landlord’s suspicions that there might be sexual impropriety, pretends he is gay. The show stays in the Nielsen Top Ten for the next six years;

1983 – A West Virginia kindergarten teacher, Linda Conway, is forced to resign from her job after parents complain that she LOOKS like a lesbian. She files a $1 million lawsuit against the school board. However, three years later the state supreme court confirms the school board’s right to dismiss her because of her appearance;

1985 – A new study in the Journal of the American Medical Association concludes that AIDS is most likely NOT spread by casual contact.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 12, 2016

I was chatting with Regina yesterday about the issue of aging. We spoke fondly of a person who is 20 years older than I (not my mother who is 21 years older!) and it struck me that in 20 years I’ll be 89. That’s ONLY 20 years! Not very far away, and that’s IF I get to live that long!

I’m going to be 69 next week. How on earth did THAT happen? I feel so much younger (and so much wiser), and I certainly enjoy life a heck of a lot more today than I ever have in my entire life. Twenty years.

Twenty years ago, 1996, I was 49 and still working at the University of Michigan. It was the year I graduated with my doctoral degree from UNF. My son and I had not yet reunited. My second granddaughter and two grandsons were not yet born. My first book was not yet published. My Dad and my sister Sherry were still enjoying life. Twenty years.

In twenty years, provided I am alive and well, I expect to still be sharing life with Kelly, still be traveling the world though maybe not doing bicycle adventures so much, still playing golf, still writing books and screenplays, maybe being a great-grandmother (if the grands have kids by then), wondering who will still be here, and still grateful for the gifts the Universe provides.

Twenty years? Who knows? Twenty years… All I really know is that all I have is this moment. I can’t predict the future nor do I wish to try to do so. The best I can do is live and love as best I can, in this one moment, taking care of my body and my health and my relationships, building moment upon moment, until perhaps one day I will look back and marvel at how amazing the last twenty years – as these past twenty years – have been.

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1976 – At a campaign stop in Los Angeles, Democratic presidential candidate Jimmy Carter tells an audience that, if elected, he would be willing to issue an executive order banning discrimination against gay people in housing, employment, immigration and the military

1995, Cambodia – Same sex couple married in the village of Kro Bao Ach Kok. It was allowed because one of the partners already had children from a previous marriage. If they were both childless, the marriage would not have been allowed because they couldn’t produce children. There were about 250 guests at the wedding including Buddhist monks and high officials from the province.

2004 – The Wisconsin State Senate approves of an amendment to the state constitution (20-13) that would ban both same-sex marriages and civil unions

2004 – Oregon’s attorney general issues an opinion on same-sex marriage, stating that issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples would contradict current state law. At the same time, he also concluded that the Oregon Supreme Court would probably strike down those statutes as violating the state’s constitution. Partially as a result of this, the Wisconsin State Senate voted to approve an amendment to the state constitution banning same-sex marriages or even civil unions.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

It’s Good to be 67…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 19, 2015.

And so closes another year in my life. Thank you for joining me on this blogging journey. It’s been a privilege to interact with you and to read your stories of the day. Tomorrow, the 20th, is my birthday. I opens with breakfast with my family at Panera’s, then lunch with Sarah whose book club is buying a stack of my books for their April read, then golf with Regina, then dinner with Erik and Regina. When I reopen my blog tomorrow evening, it’ll be about capturing our histories/herstories one snippet at a time.

Today I’m grateful for sharing this year with you, for my body and my health, for my family and friends, and for the celebrations of tomorrow and to come….

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: With one foot in the past and the other in the future, how can we possibly know what new path we might follow today? Letting go of the noise I carry in my mind changes my life. I can feel it and knowledge what’s here when my mind is open.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1982: Victor Victoria opens nationwide to generally rave reviews.  Blake Edward’s farce, based on a 1933 German film, Viktor und Viktoria features Robert Preston as perhaps the most relaxed and affable homosexual ever scripted into a major Hollywood motion picture.  The movie becomes a box office hit and accomplishes what many years of gay liberation have not – an impression on the general public’s consciousness of homosexual as compassionate and likable people; 1987 – The FDA approves AZT for the treatment of HIV /AIDS; 2004 – In Quebec, the Court of Appeal upholds a superior court ruling that same-sex marriages are legal under Canada’s Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The Canadian provinces of Ontario and British Columbia already permitted same-sex marriage; 2012 – The US Supreme Court declines to hear John Lotter’s case. In 1993, he killed Brandon Teena and was sentenced to the death penalty.

It’s good to be 67…even for just a few more hours! As my friend barb said today, I’m the oldest 67-year old she knows!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 15, 2015.

What a fun day! Andrea and I met Christina Chala at Café Lola on west 83rd for brunch. After, we three walked through Central Park to Andrea’s condo on Madison and 117. The air was blustery and there still was snow in pockets in the park.

Around 2:30 Andrea and I too the subway to Yankee Stadium for the inaugural home game of the New York City Football Club, the new soccer team. I’m not very familiar with soccer and have never seen a live match. It was exciting, and fast, and the fans were absolutely crazy! Andrea has season tickets. When we checked in for our seats we discovered that her tickets include the Legends Café…free food and every bite fancy and fantastic!. At half time, free coffee and deserts. Since it was 39 degrees with a wind-chill of 33, the warmth of the huge café and the coffee were deeply appreciated.

This was such a wonderful weekend, with the game today and theater yesterday, and of, course, for me, the heartfelt visit at Hofstra.

Today I’m grateful for new experiences and outstanding food!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kathy MacGraw said, “My intuition can move me in the right direction when my will and God’s will are one.” My ego is always ready to jump in where God’s will is needed. Today I slow down each time I’m ready to jump, and listen instead to my feelings.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1977 – The ABC sitcom, Three’s Company, premieres.  The “sit” in the sitcom is that an unemployed straight chef (John Ritter‘s Jack Tripper) moves in with two female roommates, but in order to satisfy the landlord’s suspicions that there might be sexual impropriety, pretends he is gay. The show stays in the Nielsen Top Ten for the next six years; 1983 – A West Virginia kindergarten teacher, Linda Conway, is forced to resign from her job after parents complain that she LOOKS like a lesbian.  She files a $1 million lawsuit against the school board.  However, three years later the state supreme court confirms the school board’s right to dismiss her because of her appearance; 1985 – A new study in the Journal of the American Medical Association concludes that AIDS is most likely NOT spread by casual contact.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 2, 2015.

I’m not one for astrological stuff, probably because I know so little about it, but I do love the fact that I’m a Pisces. It feeds perfectly into my preference for (read obsession of) living on or near the water. Here’s what I learned about Pisces:

Pisces is the sign of mysticism, mystery and the spiritual unknown. Pisces live in two worlds, the real world and the spiritual or mystical world where they interpret what they see into what they want. They do this to avoid all the realities of pain and suffering in the world (sounds like a good idea!). They have extremes of emotions and feel both good and bad intensively. Pisces have formidable intuitive ability (yep!). Most Pisces are somehow involved with occult or spiritualism. Pisces are very good at understanding people for they have the ability to delve into the psyche and see behind a person’s motivations (sometimes…). Pisces are prone to drug addiction and indulging lifestyles because of their eternal search for themselves and their fear of confrontation and having to change a situation, also they justify drug use by allowing it to get closer with their ‘spiritual selves’. (While this may be true for some, I’m not a drug user at all but I am indeed on that eternal search.) Pisces are not the pushovers that they may seem, in fact they have strength of character and will stand up for what they believe in and they can do hard work for something they believe in (absolutely!). They can be very lazy but only in matters that they do not care about (Yes…if it ain’t fun, I ain’t doin’ it!). Pisces is the most sensitive of all zodiac signs (I’m just a tender hearted care bare…).

So for all of us Pisces (and you know who you are), I love us!

Today I’m grateful for being a Pisces. Bring on the water!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kathy Kendall said, “As I recover, I am learning to detach with love and mind my own business with dignity.” I have enough to do just to live my life today. I can show my love for others best if I let them live their lives, too.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect 1976 – Mayor George Sullivan of Anchorage, Alaska vetoes a municipal civil rights ordinance that would have extended protections in housing and employment to LGBT people, proclaiming that the “people of Anchorage should not be forced to associate with sexual deviates.”; 1982 – Wisconsin becomes the first U.S. state to outlaw discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation; 1985 – The FDA licenses the first HIV blood test; 2002 – Jason West, mayor of New Paltz, New York, was charged with 19 criminal counts of solemnizing marriages without a license. West had solemnized a number of same-sex marriages in his town; 2011 – The Wyoming Senate votes down House Bill 74, which would have banned recognition of same-sex marriages performed out-of-state.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 1, 2015.

March is my birthday month and I will celebrate this month each day. I will be 68 in three weeks so this blog will change. But until it does, we celebrate!

I learned some fun facts about March which I never knew.

March embodies a kind of reigniting of the hearts and consciousness of humankind. This month we feel the initial kicks of Spring from the deepest womb of the Mother (Earth). And like our ancestors, we are quickened… we set a course for forward-momentum.

Though we observe Mothers Day in May, March marks a plethora of dates devoted to the mother, such as:

Coventina – Celtic Goddess of the Water and Sacred wells gives March meaning because she is honored this month for her gifts of nourishment, replenishment, renewal and inspiration. She is a matron of childbirth and the natural cycles of life. Her symbol is the cauldron, chalice and/or wells. Perhaps she is honored this month because March represents the first birth pang of Spring. The ancient Celts honored Coventina by tossing sacred items (coins, brooches, valued personal items) in various wells and bodies of water.

Nuwa – Chinese Creation Goddess. Nuwa is credited for the creation of humans in the most ancient myths of China. Apparently, life was cold and lonely for Nuwa as she was the only entity around at the beginning of time. Weary of her own company she took it upon herself to craft the first humans of earth (which she made from clay). We can see a connection with her celebration in March and the procession of the seasons. Winter is a brutal, cold cruel season in China conveying a sense of bitter isolation and even death. Embracing the creatrix Nuwa in March is synonymous with becoming alive, reanimated and renewed with Springtime’s return.

Rhea – Mother Goddess of Greece is ancient, one of the first (Titan) of her mothering kind. Her power is celebrated this month for much the same reason many other mother goddesses are recognized – because March is a transitional month – a time in which we are each born out of the dark days of winter and into the light of spring/summer. We see this theme in quite a macabre light with Rhea. All of her children but one (Zeus) were swallowed by her husband (and brother) Cronus. Upon maturity, Zeus (symbolizing the return of light) releases all the children from Cronus’ gorged belly and bowel – more themes of birth.

Ostara – Germanic Fertility Maiden Goddess is the epitome of celebrating new life. She is the expectant one, and her vision only sees potential. In every nuance of experience, Ostara sees indwelling life, and keeps her attention honed there. She’s the reason spring unleashes its vitality, because Ostara has kept her light bright, her vigil of life strong and her focus of promise remained stoic even in the leanest months of winter. Trace your history and you will find this nurturing goddess at the prime root of the festival of Easter. Ostara is also connected with the vernal equinox (by the same name) which occurs March 20-21st.

Today I’m grateful for the interesting weather that brought March into the daylight, and for my screwy family and delightful friends who are in my life.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Melody Beattie said recovery is an intensely spiritual process that asks us to grow in our understanding of God. Believing in God’s presence today makes every experience rich with meaning. I am not alone, now or ever.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect 1977 – Blueboy Forum, which bills itself as the U.S.’s first gay-oriented TV show, debuts on New York cable; 2012 – Maryland passes legislation to legalize gay marriage, becoming the eighth state to do so.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com