Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 17, 2016

Yesterday was such a good day. I golfed with my friends in the Saticoy Women’s Golf Club in the morning, babysat my grandsons later in the day, then drove out to the desert to be with Kelly in the evening.

I struggle with golf and sometimes get really frustrated. I’ve taken lessons, went to golf camp, bought new clubs that promised to improve my game, and play often, and yet my score reflects little more than a poor bowling game! I know I need to let go of the score thing and just enjoy the experience, and most of the time I do, but yesterday I didn’t like having my usual sucky score. I think I need to work on my attitude more than my golf and just understand that I’ll likely not improve anymore than I already have. And I should stop keeping score like the women in The Villages! They just go out, play a round in the fresh air with fun company, and then go to lunch. Done!

Babysitting the boys… The oldest is 5, the youngest is 19 months. Both boys, with their beautiful blonde silky hair (like their dad had when he was their ages), are sweet, thoughtful loving, kind little kids. Big brother is gentle with his little brother, not flinching at all when little brother disrupts whatever big brother’s doing. Little brother is trip! He’s a kissy little guy, running around nonstop, always with a book in hand (his two favorites last night were a thesaurus and a book on liver diseases…go figure!), climbing in and out of a big cardboard box then scooting up my legs and onto my lap for mouth kisses, laughing the entire time. One of the moms informed me that little brother hadn’t pooped in days due to some meds for a cold, so he might be irritable and uncomfortable. The instant the moms were out the door, little brother proudly pooped his brains out… thank you. And big brother once again honored me by asking me to be his potty partner. I accepted. I love these little guys like crazy and always enjoy the moments I have with them, even when I’m p to my elbows in little-boy-poop. I’m so grateful that their moms include me in their lives. The boys are close to the ages of my children when I lost custody. My heart fills with so much love knowing that I get to watch these two little guys grow up…

And this morning I awoke in Palm Springs, with Kelly by my side and Dooney at my feet, as the sun rose and with birds singing in our gorgeous back yard… life is good, indeed!


On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1977 – Two years after having repealed its state sodomy laws, Arkansas’s state legislature votes to repeal the repeal and reinstates criminal penalties for homosexual acts between consenting adults

1987 – The White House reveals that President Reagan has undergone AIDS testing out of fear that he may have contracted the disease during blood transfusions after his 1981 assassination attempt

1989 – Actor Merritt Butrick, best known for his portrayal of James Kirk’s son in the films Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan and Star Trek III: The Search for Spock, dies of AIDS in Los Angeles at the age of twenty-nine. He was also Johnny Slash from the short-lived ’80s sitcom Square Pegs starring a young Sarah Jessica Parker and Jami Gertz.


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