Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – April 4, 2016

Because it was Dinah weekend in Palm Springs, Kelly and I socialized our brains out with people who we didn’t know very well. The dinner-dance Friday night at Desert Willows was absolutely lovely. We each knew a couple of folks somewhat, most not at all, but we were welcomed graciously and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves. On Saturday we went to a pool party where I knew the hostesses very well along with some other guests. Kelly knew only one person a tad, but again, we both had a fun time. Yesterday we spent much of the day at the Dinah, watching incredible golfers make us feel even worse about our games!

I’ve been thinking about The Dinah. There are now four versions of what that means. The first is the outstanding LPGA golf tournament at Mission Hills Country Club. Singer and TV personality Dinah Shore originated the Ladies Professional Golf Association event that was called the Colgate-Dinah Shore Winners Circle Tournament when it debuted in 1972. Shore, who died in 1994, was a golfer and a supporter of women’s professional golf. Shore’s event, which has undergone several name changes, has been the Kraft Nabisco Championship since 2002. Since 1983, it has been one of the four major championships of women’s golf.

The second is the Dinah Shore partying event in downtown Palm Springs, called the Dinah because it occurs the very same weekend as the golf tournament. Hosted by Club Skirts, it includes heavy-duty partying, drinking, sunbathing, and entertainment. It’s one of the nation’s largest events for women, primarily lesbians.

The third is the Dinah in New Orleans, a break-away weekend hosted by Girl Bar who removed themselves from the Club Skirts arena.

But the original is Dinah herself. The most interesting thing for me is that none of the young women partying at #2 or #3 above have any idea that there was a woman named Dinah for who these events are entitled. According to Wikipedia and Imdb:

Dinah Shore (born Frances Rose Shore; February 29, 1916 – February 24, 1994) was an American singer, actress, television personality, and the top-charting female vocalist of the 1940s. She reached the height of her popularity as a recording artist during the Big Band era of the 1940s and 1950s, but achieved even greater success a decade later, in television, mainly as hostess of a series of variety programs for Chevrolet. Her real name was Frances “Fanny” Rose Shore, and she was born in Winchester, Tennessee. Stricken with polio at 18 months of age, she recovered after receiving the Sister Kenny treatment. She became a cheerleader at Hume-Fogg High School in Nashville and went on to graduate from Vanderbilt University in 1938, where she majored in sociology. She took voice and acting lessons on the side and sang on radio station WSM in Nashville. In 1938 she left Tennessee for New York City and began singing on radio station WNCW in New York. Her first recordings were with bandleader Xavier Cugat, and she later changed her named to Dinah after her success with the song of the same name. She received numerous Emmy awards for television specials and productions and appeared in many films. She earned the USO Medallion Award as the first entertainer to visit GIs on the front lines of WWII. She was the first female star to have her own prime-time TV variety show. She was inducted into the World Golf Hall of Fame in 1994.

Dinah Shore…. As you’re partying over the Dinah Shore Weekend next year, stop for a moment and remember her.

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Today in LGBT history: April 4

1938, Germany – The Gestapo decree that men convicted of homosexuality will be sent to the concentration camps. Between 1933 and 1945 when WWII ended, and estimated 100,00 men were arrested as homosexuals, 50,000 were sentenced and sent to prison. Between 5,000 and 15,000 were in concentration camps. After WWII many had to finish out their sentences because homosexuality was still a crime in Germany under Paragraph 175 until 1994.

1972 – The first LGBT synagogue, Beth Chayam Chadashim was founded, in Los Angeles.

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – April 2, 2016

I wrote an e-letter to a friend who had asked me how I was doing. I actually had to think about it as opposed to giving her everyone’s pat “I’m fine” response. My friend lives in Charlotte, North Carolina. Here’s what I wrote:

Hi… I love your family photo! It was of her, her teenage son, the new girlfriend, and the girlfriend’s teenage daughter.) I hope the assholes in North Carolina aren’t screwing up your plans to be a lesbian! What on earth is going on there????

And the similar Mississippi law adds that women can’t wear pants! I think it’s time an LGBT army of lovers – well dressed, of course – mounts up and charges!

 All is well here, depending on one’s definition of well. 

 Kelly and I are truly doing well and moving forward with our plans to marry later this year, maybe Jan. 1 2017. We just don’t know yet and don’t need to. But we have some fun trips on the books (Barbados and a Windstar cruise, a kd lang concert in Victoria, Canada, my niece’s wedding in Chelan, WA, a fishing/bear watching trip to the Kenai Peninsula in Alaska, and a whale watching trip in the Sea of Cortez) and will add a Florida Keys bike ride as soon as womantours.com adds it to their schedule. The funny thing is that our most cherished, fun place in the world is our home in Sequim, WA so I’m not sure why we travel so much other than we’re getting older and can still move around!

 My youngest sister was just diagnosed with breast cancer (stage O) and is having a double mastectomy later this month. Luckily it was caught much earlier that Sherry’s, and Sher’s was a far more aggressive type, but it all sucks.

 Mom turns 90 on Friday. We were planning a big soiree but since Sher died, Mom doesn’t want anything but immediate family. 

 Sher died…I can barely do those words. I’m still so raw, still can’t believe it. Barry and I have become very close and spend good time crying – and even laughing sometimes – together.

 I’m going to Florida for three weeks to housesit for Helen while she goes to Europe for her 78th birthday. The crazy thing is that I get three whole weeks without having to pack or unpack! And I’ll be able to see my daughter and my granddaughters.

 Granddaughter number two graduates from high school in June and was accepted into the School of Music at the University of South Florida. Mom and I are going to her graduation in St. Pete.

 Erik and Jenn and Cara and the boys are moving up north, the girls and boys to Portland and Erik to either Portland or Seattle, wherever he gets the best job offer, after he spends three weeks in Europe in September. So we’re all migrating to the Pacific Northwest where we’re still free (at least as free as possible in the US) as LGBT people.

 Kelly and I head for our home in Sequim in mid-May and will return in mid-Nov. I’m going to become a WA resident.

Take good care, and get out of NC if at all possible before they bring in the damned brownshirts to arrest the queers!

The one thing I forget to tell her was that my WWII is almost finished! One more round of self-editing and then it goes to readers for feedback. While they’re reading and feedbacking, I’m going to search for an editor who will take a WWII-avatar-historical novel-young adult fiction book. Kind of a niche….

I’m deeply grateful that I’m doing well! How are YOU doing?

Happy April!

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Today in LGBT history: April 2

2005 – NAACP Chair, Julian Bond, states in a national speech that “gay rights are civil rights”

2013, Uruguay – Uruguay senate approves same-sex marriage by a vote of 23-8, becoming the fourteenth country in the world to legalize marriage equality.

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 27, 2016

 

Two weeks ago Kelly and I attended a St. Patrick’s Day dinner here in the Four Seasons community. We sat at a table with four gay men, chatted with the two couples all evening, and had a nice time. Several days later one of the couples invited up to their home for lunch. Yesterday was our lunch with them. The men were our ages, give or take a couple of years, one a retired educator and one a retired accountant. Both were married to women for many years and have children, found each other on line, and have been together for twelve years. Their home was absolutely beautiful and the meal delish. What was striking for Kelly and me was that the conversation, from the instant we walked in the door, was sweet, deep, authentic, and personal. These two men not only shared their stories with us but engaged us equally in our stories. It was such a delightful two and half hours and we’ll spend time with them again.

Two thoughts entered my brain yesterday with these two guys. First, it’s nice to have friends in our gated neighborhood as we all age in place. There are many lesbians and gay men here and we will to get to know more of them. The second thought was that Kelly and I just made our friends. Her friends in Palm Springs are wonderful and I like many of them very much, even love some. My friends are also good people who adore Kelly. But now we have our friends, who met us as a couple. We actually have several of our friends in Sequim, especially our neighbors in our ‘hood, but this is a first for us in Palm Springs and our life as a couple continues to expand.

We’re not married yet, now looking at Jan. 1, 2017 as a possible wedding date though it could happen earlier. But we bought our rings which we picked up last Wednesday from the jeweler in Ventura. Of course we couldn’t wait so we’re wearing them now. I love how we’re doing our marriage! So non-traditional and a tad confusing for some, but it works for us and we’re having a blast!

Life is very good indeed and I’m deeply grateful…

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1943, The Netherlands – A group of resistance activists, led by Willem Arondeus, a gay man, dressed as German soldiers, infiltrated the citizen registration building, and destroyed it. The attack inspired similar ones.

1951, China – The U.S. State Department announces firing of four homosexuals from the Hong Kong office, one involved in a visa bribery plot and the other three discovered during the plot investigation.

1977 – On Face the Nation, White House press secretary Jody Powell defends charges that the Carter Administration panders to gay activists by saying, “For an organized group who feel they have a grievance that they are not treated fairly, for them to have a right to put that grievance before high officials and say ‘We want redress,’ that to me is what the essence of America is all about.  What I feel about gay rights or any other group doesn’t have a thing in the world to do with it.”

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Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 24, 2016

The other day I wrote about how sucky 2016 is looking. I have since reframed.

My sister Sherry died on January 3rd because it was time. Her brain cancer had progressed rapidly and she was deteriorating quickly. I miss her beyond measure but I know she’s with me every moment.

The cancer in my sister Barbra was found at an extremely early stage and the double mastectomy is exactly the right action under the circumstances. I’d do the same thing and I’m proud of her courage to move forward quickly.

Kelly and I will be married this year which is total joy! And today is ring day!!!

My granddaughter Callie graduates from high school and will start the University of South Florida Music School in the fall.

My niece Ellie is getting married to Gary in June in Chelan, Washington, which will be a fun trip for us. My son Erik will turn 40 during that celebration!

Kelly and I are going to a kd lang concert in Victoria, Canada, in June; a fishing and bear watching trip in Alaska in July; and Barbados and a Windstar cruise in the Caribbean in December.

I’m 69 years old and life is truly good! Thank you, Higher Power, for your unending gifts of love and life…

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1794, France – Anacharsis Cloots, originally known as Jean-Baptiste du Val-de-Grâce, baron de Cloots ,was an orator and a New Atheist long before New Atheism was a thing. He was embroiled in revolutionary politics before being used as a scapegoat and guillotined by the same revolutionaries. Some of his oratory indicates that he was likely an outspoken ally of lesbians and gay men.

1971 – In defiance of the U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service, a federal judge grants U.S. citizenship to a 24-year old gay man from Cuba, ruling that an applicant’s homosexuality cannot, in itself, bar a person from becoming a citizen

1986 – William Hurt wins the Best Actor Oscar for his role as an imprisoned homosexual window dresser in Kiss of the Spider Woman

1987 – ACT UP (AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power) stages its first major political action in the financial heart of New York City to demand that the federal government stop dragging its feet on the approval of new drugs that might benefit people with AIDS. Seventeen protesters are arrested for obstructing traffic when they sit down in the intersection of Broadway and Wall Street.

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 21, 2016

Happy day-after-my-birthday to me! I plan to celebrate for the rest of the month because I can! I started the day with a pulmonary test (because that’s what old people do), then lunch with mom, sister Bebe and Aunt Sylvia, then golf with friends, then cards with the Old Farts (mom, Uncle Jack, Aunt Sylvia = 150-ish years total).

I thoroughly enjoyed the day except for one item: my other sister, my youngest sister Bebe, is having a double mastectomy because of a nasty thing in her left breast. Swell. This year started out sucky with Sherry’s passing. Pile it on. We’re tough. If these crappy things are going to happen, let it all be in one year and be over with…

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1804 – Napoleonic Code went into effect, one of the earliest codes to permit same-sex activity, France

1987, Finland – Pekka Haavisto, first openly gay member of parliament, took office. He went on to become the first openly gay leader of a major political party (Green, 1992)

1994 – Tom Hanks won best actor Oscar for Philadelphia

2001 – Asexual visibility and education network (AVEN) founded by David Jay

2007 – First national Native AIDS Awareness Day.

2009, Morocco – Ministry of Interior Issued statement on crackdown on homosexuality.

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Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 20, 2016

Today is my 69th birthday. I’m grateful for this day, for waking up healthy, for the love in my life, and for family and friends. I feel sadness, too, because it’s the first birthday since I was two years old that I won’t hear my sister Sherry’s voice. I’ll be with Kelly and Dooney and my son today and I’ll feel the love they so freely and openly share with me, and I’ll feel Sher, my guardian angel, on my shoulder…

I heard this tune on a television ad recently. It’s a perfect birthday song..

I’ve been a poor one and I’ve been a queen,
I’ve had my life and the world on a string,
I’ve traveled many roads and I’m so far from done.
I’ve made some wrong turns, I’ve made some mistakes,
I’ve broke some promises back in the day.
I have been hopeless and I’ve had my faith,
Some things I’ve lost and some things I have saved.
All of these moments showed me the way that I’ve gone.
Good to know, there’s so much to live for…
What a day to feel alive!

Day To Feel Alive
Jake Reese

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1961 -The United States Supreme Court denies certiorari to Frank Kameny’s petition to review the legality of his firing by the United States Army’s Map Service in 1957, bringing his four-year legal battle to a close

1970 – Twenty-three year old David Bowie marries nineteen year old Mary Angela Barnett. A few years later, Bowie explains how they met, “Angela and I knew each other because we were both going out with the same man.”  Angie Bowie went on to a career in Hollywood, though the two divorced in 1980

1978 – The San Francisco Board of Supervisor passes what is described as “the most stringent gay rights law in the country.”  Only one of the eleven supervisors — Dan White — votes against the ordinance

1986 – After fourteen years, the New York City Council finally passes a gay rights ordinance with a vote of 21 to 14.  Mayor Ed Koch tells reporters, “The sky is not going to fall.  There isn’t going to be any dramatic change in the life of this city.”

1988 – M. Butterfly opens on Broadway. The play by David Henry Hwang is bout a civil servant attached to the French embassy in China who falls in love with a beautiful Chinese opera diva who is a “man masquerading as a woman.” They are together for twenty years until the truth is revealed. The civil servant is convicted of treason and imprisoned, then kills himself

1990 – Queer Nation formed in New York to eliminate homophobia and increase visibility of LGBT people

2004 – A lesbian minister in Bothell, Washington, is acquitted by a Methodist church jury of violating church rules.

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Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 17, 2016

Yesterday was such a good day. I golfed with my friends in the Saticoy Women’s Golf Club in the morning, babysat my grandsons later in the day, then drove out to the desert to be with Kelly in the evening.

I struggle with golf and sometimes get really frustrated. I’ve taken lessons, went to golf camp, bought new clubs that promised to improve my game, and play often, and yet my score reflects little more than a poor bowling game! I know I need to let go of the score thing and just enjoy the experience, and most of the time I do, but yesterday I didn’t like having my usual sucky score. I think I need to work on my attitude more than my golf and just understand that I’ll likely not improve anymore than I already have. And I should stop keeping score like the women in The Villages! They just go out, play a round in the fresh air with fun company, and then go to lunch. Done!

Babysitting the boys… The oldest is 5, the youngest is 19 months. Both boys, with their beautiful blonde silky hair (like their dad had when he was their ages), are sweet, thoughtful loving, kind little kids. Big brother is gentle with his little brother, not flinching at all when little brother disrupts whatever big brother’s doing. Little brother is trip! He’s a kissy little guy, running around nonstop, always with a book in hand (his two favorites last night were a thesaurus and a book on liver diseases…go figure!), climbing in and out of a big cardboard box then scooting up my legs and onto my lap for mouth kisses, laughing the entire time. One of the moms informed me that little brother hadn’t pooped in days due to some meds for a cold, so he might be irritable and uncomfortable. The instant the moms were out the door, little brother proudly pooped his brains out… thank you. And big brother once again honored me by asking me to be his potty partner. I accepted. I love these little guys like crazy and always enjoy the moments I have with them, even when I’m p to my elbows in little-boy-poop. I’m so grateful that their moms include me in their lives. The boys are close to the ages of my children when I lost custody. My heart fills with so much love knowing that I get to watch these two little guys grow up…

And this morning I awoke in Palm Springs, with Kelly by my side and Dooney at my feet, as the sun rose and with birds singing in our gorgeous back yard… life is good, indeed!

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1977 – Two years after having repealed its state sodomy laws, Arkansas’s state legislature votes to repeal the repeal and reinstates criminal penalties for homosexual acts between consenting adults

1987 – The White House reveals that President Reagan has undergone AIDS testing out of fear that he may have contracted the disease during blood transfusions after his 1981 assassination attempt

1989 – Actor Merritt Butrick, best known for his portrayal of James Kirk’s son in the films Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan and Star Trek III: The Search for Spock, dies of AIDS in Los Angeles at the age of twenty-nine. He was also Johnny Slash from the short-lived ’80s sitcom Square Pegs starring a young Sarah Jessica Parker and Jami Gertz.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 15, 2016

Yesterday was a fun friend day! I had lunch with a dear friend at the local deli, met two others for golf in the afternoon, then two more for dinner. I love the catch-up and touching base with folks in Ventura. I love being in Palm Springs with Kelly and I’m also comfortable in Ventura as well. And I’m looking forward to spending three weeks in The Villages in Florida with that community of women, and then the BEST: Sequim, WA. Kelly and I will go up in mid-May for the next 6 months (though we’ll be in and out of SoCal throughout that time). I know all of this sounds crazy to most people but I thrive on the changes. The good news is that there is such sweet familiarity in each of these places. I’m deeply grateful that I’m still able to move around like this. One day I’ll probably lite in one of them, find a comfy rocker, and enjoy life more sedentary with Kelly, but for today, I have people to see and places to go!

Beware the Ides of March, wrote Shakespeare. Happy March 15th. It should be a wild day, politically speaking. It’s a perfect day to do my taxes while being glued to the television. Okay…and do some exercise, perhaps a good 3-mile walk while I listen to MSNBC!

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

559, Turkey – “Men-corruptors” blamed for earthquake and plague in Constantinople. The Empire of the Byzantine Empire claimed that homosexual acts are to blame, as he warned the year before.

1633, Sweden – Christina becomes Queen at age sex. She always wished to be a boy and is given the nickname “Girl King.” When she was fourteen her tutor remarked that “she is not at all like a female.”

1811, UK – Beginning of trial for two Scottish teachers accused of lesbian acts. One of the judges said that sex between women was “equally imaginary with witchcraft, sorcery or carnal copulation with the devil.”

1977 – The ABC sitcom, Three’s Company, premieres. The “sit” in the sitcom is that an unemployed straight chef (John Ritter‘s Jack Tripper) moves in with two female roommates, but in order to satisfy the landlord’s suspicions that there might be sexual impropriety, pretends he is gay. The show stays in the Nielsen Top Ten for the next six years;

1983 – A West Virginia kindergarten teacher, Linda Conway, is forced to resign from her job after parents complain that she LOOKS like a lesbian. She files a $1 million lawsuit against the school board. However, three years later the state supreme court confirms the school board’s right to dismiss her because of her appearance;

1985 – A new study in the Journal of the American Medical Association concludes that AIDS is most likely NOT spread by casual contact.

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Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 13, 2016

Politically, the last few days have been among the craziest I’ve ever seen. I’m sure there have been other times of full-blown bizarrity (I made up this word today!), historically speaking, but these days have been frightening and disappointing, though sprinkled with a touch of humor.

The humor comes from the buffoonery of the Republican candidates right from the start with that crazy field of 17, each out-stupiding (another made-up word) the other for our entertainment. The humor that followed – such as Rubio’s comments about the size of Trump’s personal body parts – was outlandish and embarrassing for a United States presidential race.

The fear comes from the rise of Donald Trump whose words and actions rival those of Adolph Hitler. ( I can’t believe both of those names are even in my blog!) I’m writing a book about WWII and have done several years’ worth of research. As I read about Hitler and watch Trump on television, I’m appalled, and truly horrified, at the similarities.

I read an article yesterday entitled The Rise of American Authoritarianism by Amanda Taub, about several studies on people who are authoritarian and why Trump is rising politically. Taub reports that Trump embodies the classic authoritarian leadership style: simple, powerful, and punitive. She said of Americans who are authoritarian: Authoritarians are thought to express much deeper fears that the rest of the electorate, to seek the imposition of order where they perceive dangerous change, and to desire a strong leader who will defeat those fears with force…whose politics went far beyond the acceptable norms. Trump’s their man. Hitler was their man in the 1930s in Germany. The parallels indeed inspire fear…

The disappointment came the other days with my candidate choice, Hillary Clinton, for whom I will still vote because, for me, there is no other option. At the Nancy Reagan memorial (geez, other name I never thought would be in my blog!), Hillary praised Nancy for bringing AIDS to the tables of conversation in the 1980s. Yeah, she did, but her form of conversation was ridicule, lack of compassion, and a complete unwillingness to do anything to turn the epidemic around. And Ronald Reagan didn’t even mention the word AIDS aloud to the American people until 1987, after thousands had already died! (Nancy also did no service to the “war” on drugs/alcohol, either. We should have just said no to the Reagans.) The Reagans were no friends to any of us in the AIDS era, when thousands of us held our sons, brothers, friends, and lovers as they died horrible deaths at such young ages. The Reagans do not deserve our attention.

And yet Hillary, who was there at the memorial, who should have remembered, who should have known, made such a bad mistake… and our wounds reopened. Of course we need to process this, as does, she, but do we abandon her for Sanders who will lose to Trump in November? Do we allow this painfully sad and disappointing moment be the reason we hand over our country Trump, to authoritarian rule? I, for one, cannot.

I stand with Hillary…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1984 – Claiming an “absence of compelling need” for such legislation, California governor George Deukmejian vetoes a gay rights bill that would have prohibited job discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.

1991 – Paris is Burning premieres in the US. It’s a documentary that shows New York’s drag scene in the 1980s.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 12, 2016

I was chatting with Regina yesterday about the issue of aging. We spoke fondly of a person who is 20 years older than I (not my mother who is 21 years older!) and it struck me that in 20 years I’ll be 89. That’s ONLY 20 years! Not very far away, and that’s IF I get to live that long!

I’m going to be 69 next week. How on earth did THAT happen? I feel so much younger (and so much wiser), and I certainly enjoy life a heck of a lot more today than I ever have in my entire life. Twenty years.

Twenty years ago, 1996, I was 49 and still working at the University of Michigan. It was the year I graduated with my doctoral degree from UNF. My son and I had not yet reunited. My second granddaughter and two grandsons were not yet born. My first book was not yet published. My Dad and my sister Sherry were still enjoying life. Twenty years.

In twenty years, provided I am alive and well, I expect to still be sharing life with Kelly, still be traveling the world though maybe not doing bicycle adventures so much, still playing golf, still writing books and screenplays, maybe being a great-grandmother (if the grands have kids by then), wondering who will still be here, and still grateful for the gifts the Universe provides.

Twenty years? Who knows? Twenty years… All I really know is that all I have is this moment. I can’t predict the future nor do I wish to try to do so. The best I can do is live and love as best I can, in this one moment, taking care of my body and my health and my relationships, building moment upon moment, until perhaps one day I will look back and marvel at how amazing the last twenty years – as these past twenty years – have been.

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1976 – At a campaign stop in Los Angeles, Democratic presidential candidate Jimmy Carter tells an audience that, if elected, he would be willing to issue an executive order banning discrimination against gay people in housing, employment, immigration and the military

1995, Cambodia – Same sex couple married in the village of Kro Bao Ach Kok. It was allowed because one of the partners already had children from a previous marriage. If they were both childless, the marriage would not have been allowed because they couldn’t produce children. There were about 250 guests at the wedding including Buddhist monks and high officials from the province.

2004 – The Wisconsin State Senate approves of an amendment to the state constitution (20-13) that would ban both same-sex marriages and civil unions

2004 – Oregon’s attorney general issues an opinion on same-sex marriage, stating that issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples would contradict current state law. At the same time, he also concluded that the Oregon Supreme Court would probably strike down those statutes as violating the state’s constitution. Partially as a result of this, the Wisconsin State Senate voted to approve an amendment to the state constitution banning same-sex marriages or even civil unions.

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Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni