Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – April 4, 2016

Because it was Dinah weekend in Palm Springs, Kelly and I socialized our brains out with people who we didn’t know very well. The dinner-dance Friday night at Desert Willows was absolutely lovely. We each knew a couple of folks somewhat, most not at all, but we were welcomed graciously and thoroughly enjoyed ourselves. On Saturday we went to a pool party where I knew the hostesses very well along with some other guests. Kelly knew only one person a tad, but again, we both had a fun time. Yesterday we spent much of the day at the Dinah, watching incredible golfers make us feel even worse about our games!

I’ve been thinking about The Dinah. There are now four versions of what that means. The first is the outstanding LPGA golf tournament at Mission Hills Country Club. Singer and TV personality Dinah Shore originated the Ladies Professional Golf Association event that was called the Colgate-Dinah Shore Winners Circle Tournament when it debuted in 1972. Shore, who died in 1994, was a golfer and a supporter of women’s professional golf. Shore’s event, which has undergone several name changes, has been the Kraft Nabisco Championship since 2002. Since 1983, it has been one of the four major championships of women’s golf.

The second is the Dinah Shore partying event in downtown Palm Springs, called the Dinah because it occurs the very same weekend as the golf tournament. Hosted by Club Skirts, it includes heavy-duty partying, drinking, sunbathing, and entertainment. It’s one of the nation’s largest events for women, primarily lesbians.

The third is the Dinah in New Orleans, a break-away weekend hosted by Girl Bar who removed themselves from the Club Skirts arena.

But the original is Dinah herself. The most interesting thing for me is that none of the young women partying at #2 or #3 above have any idea that there was a woman named Dinah for who these events are entitled. According to Wikipedia and Imdb:

Dinah Shore (born Frances Rose Shore; February 29, 1916 – February 24, 1994) was an American singer, actress, television personality, and the top-charting female vocalist of the 1940s. She reached the height of her popularity as a recording artist during the Big Band era of the 1940s and 1950s, but achieved even greater success a decade later, in television, mainly as hostess of a series of variety programs for Chevrolet. Her real name was Frances “Fanny” Rose Shore, and she was born in Winchester, Tennessee. Stricken with polio at 18 months of age, she recovered after receiving the Sister Kenny treatment. She became a cheerleader at Hume-Fogg High School in Nashville and went on to graduate from Vanderbilt University in 1938, where she majored in sociology. She took voice and acting lessons on the side and sang on radio station WSM in Nashville. In 1938 she left Tennessee for New York City and began singing on radio station WNCW in New York. Her first recordings were with bandleader Xavier Cugat, and she later changed her named to Dinah after her success with the song of the same name. She received numerous Emmy awards for television specials and productions and appeared in many films. She earned the USO Medallion Award as the first entertainer to visit GIs on the front lines of WWII. She was the first female star to have her own prime-time TV variety show. She was inducted into the World Golf Hall of Fame in 1994.

Dinah Shore…. As you’re partying over the Dinah Shore Weekend next year, stop for a moment and remember her.

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Today in LGBT history: April 4

1938, Germany – The Gestapo decree that men convicted of homosexuality will be sent to the concentration camps. Between 1933 and 1945 when WWII ended, and estimated 100,00 men were arrested as homosexuals, 50,000 were sentenced and sent to prison. Between 5,000 and 15,000 were in concentration camps. After WWII many had to finish out their sentences because homosexuality was still a crime in Germany under Paragraph 175 until 1994.

1972 – The first LGBT synagogue, Beth Chayam Chadashim was founded, in Los Angeles.

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – April 2, 2016

I wrote an e-letter to a friend who had asked me how I was doing. I actually had to think about it as opposed to giving her everyone’s pat “I’m fine” response. My friend lives in Charlotte, North Carolina. Here’s what I wrote:

Hi… I love your family photo! It was of her, her teenage son, the new girlfriend, and the girlfriend’s teenage daughter.) I hope the assholes in North Carolina aren’t screwing up your plans to be a lesbian! What on earth is going on there????

And the similar Mississippi law adds that women can’t wear pants! I think it’s time an LGBT army of lovers – well dressed, of course – mounts up and charges!

 All is well here, depending on one’s definition of well. 

 Kelly and I are truly doing well and moving forward with our plans to marry later this year, maybe Jan. 1 2017. We just don’t know yet and don’t need to. But we have some fun trips on the books (Barbados and a Windstar cruise, a kd lang concert in Victoria, Canada, my niece’s wedding in Chelan, WA, a fishing/bear watching trip to the Kenai Peninsula in Alaska, and a whale watching trip in the Sea of Cortez) and will add a Florida Keys bike ride as soon as womantours.com adds it to their schedule. The funny thing is that our most cherished, fun place in the world is our home in Sequim, WA so I’m not sure why we travel so much other than we’re getting older and can still move around!

 My youngest sister was just diagnosed with breast cancer (stage O) and is having a double mastectomy later this month. Luckily it was caught much earlier that Sherry’s, and Sher’s was a far more aggressive type, but it all sucks.

 Mom turns 90 on Friday. We were planning a big soiree but since Sher died, Mom doesn’t want anything but immediate family. 

 Sher died…I can barely do those words. I’m still so raw, still can’t believe it. Barry and I have become very close and spend good time crying – and even laughing sometimes – together.

 I’m going to Florida for three weeks to housesit for Helen while she goes to Europe for her 78th birthday. The crazy thing is that I get three whole weeks without having to pack or unpack! And I’ll be able to see my daughter and my granddaughters.

 Granddaughter number two graduates from high school in June and was accepted into the School of Music at the University of South Florida. Mom and I are going to her graduation in St. Pete.

 Erik and Jenn and Cara and the boys are moving up north, the girls and boys to Portland and Erik to either Portland or Seattle, wherever he gets the best job offer, after he spends three weeks in Europe in September. So we’re all migrating to the Pacific Northwest where we’re still free (at least as free as possible in the US) as LGBT people.

 Kelly and I head for our home in Sequim in mid-May and will return in mid-Nov. I’m going to become a WA resident.

Take good care, and get out of NC if at all possible before they bring in the damned brownshirts to arrest the queers!

The one thing I forget to tell her was that my WWII is almost finished! One more round of self-editing and then it goes to readers for feedback. While they’re reading and feedbacking, I’m going to search for an editor who will take a WWII-avatar-historical novel-young adult fiction book. Kind of a niche….

I’m deeply grateful that I’m doing well! How are YOU doing?

Happy April!

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Today in LGBT history: April 2

2005 – NAACP Chair, Julian Bond, states in a national speech that “gay rights are civil rights”

2013, Uruguay – Uruguay senate approves same-sex marriage by a vote of 23-8, becoming the fourteenth country in the world to legalize marriage equality.

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 19, 2016

Yesterday, after a good three-mile walk and a 12-step meeting, Kelly took me to PF Chang’s for a birthday lunch though my birthday isn’t until tomorrow. Her mother and sister are coming to visit us today for the weekend so we took advantage of a day together yesterday. I had the kung pao shrimp…holy cow! I think it was the best shrimp dish I’d ever eaten! That sauce! And the shrimp were perfectly grilled.

My iPhone 5 phone was two and half years old and had started to actually growl at me. Seriously! It began making a growling noise that stopped only when I turned the phone off. I’m convinced that these expensive phones are made to self-destruct after two years.

After lunch we walked over to the Verizon store. Both Kelly and I bought new iPhone 6 devices. Because we’re getting older and more stupid as new devices come out, it took well over an hour for the Verizon people to download, upload, and teach us how to use our new toys. I asked the young saleswoman to consider me her grandmother, that I know nothing, and needed her brilliant assistance. She laughed and said that her grandmother was totally computer savvy, that it was her mother who knew absolutely nothing!

My son Erik arrived last night to spend the weekend in Palm Springs with my niece Ellie and ten of the women in her wedding party. (This grand soiree wedding is in June in Chelan, WA, and should be stunning!) Ellie rented a house for her “bach” bash and invited Erik to hang with the gaggle of bridespeople. Being the proper fashionista gay man that he is, he accepted the invitation. He came to our house first to chat with Kelly and me about some life choice ideas he’s considering. (I love him deeply for that and for so much more. Such a fine man…)

The group of presumably straight celebrants had dinner at Trio then went partying at Hunters (a totally gay bar). That’s where Erik and I met up with them. I went only to see my niece who I love dearly. I was impressed that she was still upright but I suspect it wasn’t for long. Hope they made it back to the rented house before either passing out or getting arrested.

It was a fun day! I’m so grateful for my Kelly and Dooney, for my son and my niece, and for the gifts and pleasures of the day. As the magic number 69 approaches, I’m so clear that life is good indeed…

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1953 – The Diana Foundation was founded in Houston, Texas, by a small group of friends. The Diana Foundation is a nonprofit organization and recognized as the oldest continuously active gay organization in the United States. It hosts two annual fundraising events including its Diana Awards.

1982 – Victor Victoria opens nationwide to generally rave reviews. Blake Edward’s farce, based on a 1933 German film, Viktor und Viktoria, features Robert Preston as perhaps the most relaxed and affable homosexual ever scripted into a major Hollywood motion picture. The movie becomes a box office hit and accomplishes what many years of gay liberation had not: an impression on the general public’s consciousness of homosexuals as compassionate and likable people

1987 – The FDA approves AZT for the treatment of HIV /AIDS

2004, Quebec – the Court of Appeal upholds a superior court ruling that same-sex marriages are legal under Canada’s Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The Canadian provinces of Ontario and British Columbia already permitted same-sex marriage

2012 – The US Supreme Court declines to hear John Lotter’s case. In 1993, he killed transgender man Brandon Teena and was sentenced to the death penalty. The story is depicted in the film Boys Don’t Cry.

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Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 15, 2016

Yesterday was a fun friend day! I had lunch with a dear friend at the local deli, met two others for golf in the afternoon, then two more for dinner. I love the catch-up and touching base with folks in Ventura. I love being in Palm Springs with Kelly and I’m also comfortable in Ventura as well. And I’m looking forward to spending three weeks in The Villages in Florida with that community of women, and then the BEST: Sequim, WA. Kelly and I will go up in mid-May for the next 6 months (though we’ll be in and out of SoCal throughout that time). I know all of this sounds crazy to most people but I thrive on the changes. The good news is that there is such sweet familiarity in each of these places. I’m deeply grateful that I’m still able to move around like this. One day I’ll probably lite in one of them, find a comfy rocker, and enjoy life more sedentary with Kelly, but for today, I have people to see and places to go!

Beware the Ides of March, wrote Shakespeare. Happy March 15th. It should be a wild day, politically speaking. It’s a perfect day to do my taxes while being glued to the television. Okay…and do some exercise, perhaps a good 3-mile walk while I listen to MSNBC!

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559, Turkey – “Men-corruptors” blamed for earthquake and plague in Constantinople. The Empire of the Byzantine Empire claimed that homosexual acts are to blame, as he warned the year before.

1633, Sweden – Christina becomes Queen at age sex. She always wished to be a boy and is given the nickname “Girl King.” When she was fourteen her tutor remarked that “she is not at all like a female.”

1811, UK – Beginning of trial for two Scottish teachers accused of lesbian acts. One of the judges said that sex between women was “equally imaginary with witchcraft, sorcery or carnal copulation with the devil.”

1977 – The ABC sitcom, Three’s Company, premieres. The “sit” in the sitcom is that an unemployed straight chef (John Ritter‘s Jack Tripper) moves in with two female roommates, but in order to satisfy the landlord’s suspicions that there might be sexual impropriety, pretends he is gay. The show stays in the Nielsen Top Ten for the next six years;

1983 – A West Virginia kindergarten teacher, Linda Conway, is forced to resign from her job after parents complain that she LOOKS like a lesbian. She files a $1 million lawsuit against the school board. However, three years later the state supreme court confirms the school board’s right to dismiss her because of her appearance;

1985 – A new study in the Journal of the American Medical Association concludes that AIDS is most likely NOT spread by casual contact.

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Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 12, 2016

I was chatting with Regina yesterday about the issue of aging. We spoke fondly of a person who is 20 years older than I (not my mother who is 21 years older!) and it struck me that in 20 years I’ll be 89. That’s ONLY 20 years! Not very far away, and that’s IF I get to live that long!

I’m going to be 69 next week. How on earth did THAT happen? I feel so much younger (and so much wiser), and I certainly enjoy life a heck of a lot more today than I ever have in my entire life. Twenty years.

Twenty years ago, 1996, I was 49 and still working at the University of Michigan. It was the year I graduated with my doctoral degree from UNF. My son and I had not yet reunited. My second granddaughter and two grandsons were not yet born. My first book was not yet published. My Dad and my sister Sherry were still enjoying life. Twenty years.

In twenty years, provided I am alive and well, I expect to still be sharing life with Kelly, still be traveling the world though maybe not doing bicycle adventures so much, still playing golf, still writing books and screenplays, maybe being a great-grandmother (if the grands have kids by then), wondering who will still be here, and still grateful for the gifts the Universe provides.

Twenty years? Who knows? Twenty years… All I really know is that all I have is this moment. I can’t predict the future nor do I wish to try to do so. The best I can do is live and love as best I can, in this one moment, taking care of my body and my health and my relationships, building moment upon moment, until perhaps one day I will look back and marvel at how amazing the last twenty years – as these past twenty years – have been.

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1976 – At a campaign stop in Los Angeles, Democratic presidential candidate Jimmy Carter tells an audience that, if elected, he would be willing to issue an executive order banning discrimination against gay people in housing, employment, immigration and the military

1995, Cambodia – Same sex couple married in the village of Kro Bao Ach Kok. It was allowed because one of the partners already had children from a previous marriage. If they were both childless, the marriage would not have been allowed because they couldn’t produce children. There were about 250 guests at the wedding including Buddhist monks and high officials from the province.

2004 – The Wisconsin State Senate approves of an amendment to the state constitution (20-13) that would ban both same-sex marriages and civil unions

2004 – Oregon’s attorney general issues an opinion on same-sex marriage, stating that issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples would contradict current state law. At the same time, he also concluded that the Oregon Supreme Court would probably strike down those statutes as violating the state’s constitution. Partially as a result of this, the Wisconsin State Senate voted to approve an amendment to the state constitution banning same-sex marriages or even civil unions.

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Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 11, 2016

Our friends Beau and Cecelia arrived yesterday from Apache Junction, Arizona on their way back up to Port Townsend, WA. It’s always good to see them and we had another wonderful time. We walked through the very crowded Palm Springs Street Fair last evening, enjoyed some yogurt along the way.

While we were cruising the Fair, the four of us were stopped in our tracks by a gorgeous piece of art. It was a 24” x 36” aluminum piece, all shiny black with a very multicolored female figure arising from a pool of white. The artists told us that he depicted her as rising up into her own. That’s exactly how we saw her as well and the four of us fell in love with the piece. Kelly and I made arrangements to meet with the artiest a week from Saturday at the Desert Art Fair after we agreed on a place for her in our home. As we walked away, Beau and Cecelia put their arms around us and said, “It’s a perfect wedding present because we all found it together.” And they bought it for us! What a generous, loving thing to do! The artist will deliver the piece in a few days.

For my entire life I searched to belong… anywhere, community, friends, organizations, anywhere. I always felt as if I were always on the periphery, never truly “part of.” I counteracted that with being a well-known activist, author, and educator. Today I have a loving partner, dedicated friends, a precious family, and a sense of place…and, ironically, I’m hardly known by anyone anymore beyond my circle of love. And I’ve never been happier…

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222, Italy – Elagabalus was assassinated at age 18 in Italy because of his relationship with Hierocles, a charioteer

1998 – Torben Lund and Yvonne Herlov, the first two openly gay and lesbian members of the Danish Parliament, took office

2003 – the first transgender person, Reuben Zellman, is accepted in the Reform Judaism Seminary in Cincinnati, Ohio. Rabbi Zellman is now the assistant rabbi and music director of Congregation Beth El in Berkeley, CA.

2007 – first openly LGBTQ person, Rabbi Toba Spitzer, chosen to head an American Rabbinical Association, in Arizona.

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Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 10, 2016

Yesterday was just sweet. We woke up, walked over to the gym and had a good workout, went to a CoDA meeting, bought groceries for ourselves and a friends who’s ill, then spent the remainder of the day at home. We even made up some games to play on our putting green for fun and to improve our putting games.

At the CoDA meeting, the topic of conversation was about trust, always something I’ve pondered over the decades, mostly because I had very little. After I realized I was a lesbian, at the ripe old age of 11, I didn’t trust anyone. I thought my family would disown me and my friends would reject me if they knew. The odd thing is that I had no evidence of that. I never heard my family talk about homosexuality in any way but for some reason, I believed that they’d “lock me up and throw away the key.” (My mantra.)

I didn’t trust myself because my heart always betrayed me. (How could I pretend to like the guy who was my date when I really wanted to be with the girl who was with her date in the back seat of our car?) And I had developed ulcerative colitis so I didn’t trust that my body wouldn’t act out and become loud or even incontinent.

That was the setup for developing relationships. I trusted no one, not even myself. As a result, my relationships were often and fleeting. I figured if anyone really knew me, they’d leave. So I left first (with the one exception where she left me).

Today I’m deeply grateful that I have CoDA and a program that allows me to explore and understand my issues. For nearly 15 years I’ve allowed myself the opportunity to know my character defects and to work with a Higher Power who loves me even when I fail. Today I get to have a loving relationship with a woman with whom trust and vulnerability are among the agreed-upon primary aspects of who we are as a couple. If I feel myself beginning to question my sense of trust, for myself, for her, I am able to talk about it with her without acting out or leaving. And the colitis? It has been quiescent for 25 years.

Today, as I approach my 69th birthday in ten days, I am deeply grateful, and truly and finally precious and free…

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1778, Pennsylvania – From George Washington’s letters: Lt. Enslin of Col. Malcolm’s regiment tried for attempting to commit sodomy with John Monhort, a soldier. His Excellency the Commander in Chief approves the sentence and with the Abhorrence and Detestation of such Infamous Crimes order Lt. Enslin to be drummed out of Camp tomorrow morning by all the Drummers and Fifers in the Army never to return. Enslin wasdismissed with Infamy.”

1985 – William Hoffman’s play about AIDS, As Is, opens at New York City’s Circle Rep Theater. Less than six weeks later, Larry Kramer’s The Normal Heart opens at the Public Theater;

1987 – AIDS advocacy group ACT UP (AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power) is formed in response to the devastating effects the disease has had on the gay and lesbian community in New York;

1994, German – Paragraph 175, the section of the German Penal Code that outlawed sexual acts between men is repealed. It was used heavily by the Nazis to persecute gay and bisexual men.

2009 – In Tel Aviv, Uzi Even and his life partner was the first same-sex male couple in Israel whose right of adoption has been legally acknowledged. The Israeli Court rules in their favor.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 9, 2016

My dear friend, Rev. Mike Piazza, writes daily in a column called Liberating Word. Many of his pieces touch me and today was no exception. He wrote about a meditation book in his library called Freedom Days: 365 Inspired Moments in Civil Rights History by Janus Adams. Mike wrote:

It recounts historical events and stories about heroic people, some famous, many unknown, but equally brave. The trouble I have with the book is that so much of it is deeply depressing. It isn’t ancient history. Many of the events took place in my lifetime, and, worst of all, although a lot has changed, there is still a great deal that needs to be done.

 There was a story today on Facebook that a young African-American man wrote about his brother who everyone said looked an awful lot like him. The author talked about how disturbing it was that his brother had been arrested for “matching the description” of someone who had committed a crime. The only way his brother fit the description was that he was black and wearing jeans and a dark T-shirt. They thought he had blood on his shirt; tests proved it was only ketchup. In a lineup, the witness did not pick him out; still, he spent four months in jail simply for having the wrong color skin.

 People wonder why we have to remind the world that “black lives matter.” When politicians reject that phrase and say “all lives matter,” they are saying that black lives don’t really matter as much as the white lives that always have mattered more in this country. If you doubt that try reading the history of civil rights in this country as your daily devotion and see if your soul can stand the pain. If it can then something has died inside of you and needs resurrecting before this Lent is over.

Amen…

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1969, Los Angeles – LAPD Savagely Beat Gay Man to Death During Dover Hotel Raid. The Dover operated as an early version of the soon to become popular bathhouse scene. It was also the scene of a number of raids by LAPD’s vice squad for the easy bust of “faggots”. During a raid by the LAPD Vice Squad on March 9th, 1969, four months prior to the Stonewall riots in New York City, Howard Efland, a male nurse who checked into the hotel under the pseudonym of J. McCann. By the end of that day Efland would be brutally beaten outside the hotel by police in front of numerous witnesses. While several witnesses claimed that Efland died at the scene. Arresting officers Chauncy and Halligan said Elfland was alive then claimed that halfway to the station from where they had arrested him, he kicked open the door and fell out onto the Hollywood Freeway. No one was ever held accountable for the murder of Howard Efland. On March 2nd. 2016, Back2Stonewall’s Will Kohler talked with LAPD’s  Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Community Liaison which is attached to it’s Community Relations Department who has promised to look into the Efland case after 46 years. Hopefully they will finally bring some closure to the family of Howard Efland.

1989 – Noted gay artist Robert Mapplethorpe dies of AIDS in Boston at the age of 42. Mapplethorpe’s work is later at the center of a major arts funding controversy in the United States.

2004, New Jersey – Asbury Park begins issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples but they’re later nullified because they were illegally issued.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

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Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 8, 2016

Self-love isn’t selfish. It’s the foundation for our lives. When we nurture ourselves first with loving thoughts, actions, and healthy boundaries, we create an overflow to freely share with others.

Holli Sharp, Science of Mind

While the concept of loving self first is sometimes debatable, I fully agreed with it. For most of the years of my life, I detested myself. Before I came out, I refereed to myself in the third person as “that damned queer.” After I came out, I just believed I was worthless. Ironically, I felt mostly competent when doing my work in the AIDS program then in higher ed, but personally, I was a wreck.

And then I learned about self-love and a big “aha” whomped me upside the head like a 2 x 4, and I knew what my personal work needed to be.

Today, I’m the most important person in my life and my self-love is powerful. I do believe that my self-love is one of the many gifts from my Higher Power, the gift that allows me to love others, especially my beloved, with tremendous passion. My self-love allows me to be vulnerable, to be truly visible to my beloved. My self-love is forgiving – of myself, of others – and allows me to feel tremendous gratitude for my health, my body, my abundance, my family and friends, and for my beloved.

I’m grateful for these days of my life, grateful for the sadness I feel for the loss of my sister Sherry is counteracted by the fact that I know she’s my new guardian angel and is with me every moment. I’m grateful for the life Kelly and I are building, even in this later stage of life, and I’m grateful for the opportunities that the Universe has presented to me.

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1702, UK – Anne became queen of Great Britain. Around 1671, she had met Sarah Jennings with whom she had a close relationship for nearly 50 years. Her relationship turned negative over time due to politics. Sarah started rumors that Anne was a lesbian and threatened to make their love letters public. Anne dismissed Sarah from the court forever. Ahhhh, love hath no fury….

1970 – In the wee morning hours, New York City police raid a gay bar called the SnakePit, arresting 167 patrons. At the police station, one of the arrestees, an Argentine national named Diego Vinales so feared the possibility of deportation that he leapt from a second-story window of the police station, impaling himself on the spikes of an iron fence. He survived, though firemen were forced to cut out a section of the fence with Vinales still skewered on it, in order to move him to the hospital. One journalist remarked, “It is no crime to be *in* a place that is serving liquor illegally, the only crime is to run such a place. There were no grounds for hauling the customers away.” Though charges against other patrons are dropped, Vinales was rebooked for “resisting arrest” and officers are stationed outside his hospital room to prevent another escape

1979 – The New York Times runs a front-page photograph of six men being executed by firing squad in Iran for allegedly having committed crimes of “homosexual rape.” Since the Ayatollah Khomeini’s rise to power just four weeks earlier, there have been growing reports of gay men — as well as Jews, Baha’is, “blasphemers,” “heretics,” former members of the Iranian aristocracy, and others — being blackmailed, imprisoned, tortured, dismembered, hanged and/or shot. By the time Khomeini gets around to celebrating his first anniversary of his Islamic revolution, the body count is in the thousands.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni

Being 69: A Year in the Life of a Fun Old Lesbian – March 7, 2016

A much needed quiet day yesterday to reflect on the trip to Cuba and to spend time with Kelly and Dooney. My only big deal of the day is that I’d like to cut off Bernie Sander’s finger that he reportedly pointing at Hillary Clinton during the debates…. Looking forward to the end of this part of the election process so we can get on with real issues between the two candidates, whoever they may be (God help us!). Hillary is my choice…

We saw the new Tine Fey film today, Whiskey Tango Foxtrot. Based on the title I thought it would be another Tine Fey wild film. It wasn’t. It was an excellent drama (with some humor, for sure) about the Afghanistan war. Go see it…

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)

1967 – CBS airs “The Homosexuals”, an episode of CBS Reports. This first-ever national television broadcast on the subject of homosexuality has been described as “the single most destructive hour of antigay propaganda in our nation’s history.”;

1972 – East Lansing, Michigan becomes the first U.S. City to ban discrimination in city hiring on the basis of sexual orientation;

1986 – Desert Hearts, considered the first positive lesbian film, released;

1988 – Shortly after the release of his first big mainstream hit, Hairspray, its star, Divine, dies of heart disease in Los Angeles at the age of 42.

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I encourage you to write your stories. If you’d like to see your memoir and stories in print, let’s work together. I can help you self-publish your work. If this interests you, please see my website at http://purpledistinctions.com/self_publishing.html

Write your story! Now is good!

Warmly,

Ronni