It’s Good to be 67…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 19, 2015.

And so closes another year in my life. Thank you for joining me on this blogging journey. It’s been a privilege to interact with you and to read your stories of the day. Tomorrow, the 20th, is my birthday. I opens with breakfast with my family at Panera’s, then lunch with Sarah whose book club is buying a stack of my books for their April read, then golf with Regina, then dinner with Erik and Regina. When I reopen my blog tomorrow evening, it’ll be about capturing our histories/herstories one snippet at a time.

Today I’m grateful for sharing this year with you, for my body and my health, for my family and friends, and for the celebrations of tomorrow and to come….

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: With one foot in the past and the other in the future, how can we possibly know what new path we might follow today? Letting go of the noise I carry in my mind changes my life. I can feel it and knowledge what’s here when my mind is open.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1982: Victor Victoria opens nationwide to generally rave reviews.  Blake Edward’s farce, based on a 1933 German film, Viktor und Viktoria features Robert Preston as perhaps the most relaxed and affable homosexual ever scripted into a major Hollywood motion picture.  The movie becomes a box office hit and accomplishes what many years of gay liberation have not – an impression on the general public’s consciousness of homosexual as compassionate and likable people; 1987 – The FDA approves AZT for the treatment of HIV /AIDS; 2004 – In Quebec, the Court of Appeal upholds a superior court ruling that same-sex marriages are legal under Canada’s Charter of Rights and Freedoms. The Canadian provinces of Ontario and British Columbia already permitted same-sex marriage; 2012 – The US Supreme Court declines to hear John Lotter’s case. In 1993, he killed Brandon Teena and was sentenced to the death penalty.

It’s good to be 67…even for just a few more hours! As my friend barb said today, I’m the oldest 67-year old she knows!

What happened with you today?

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 18, 2015.

 

ADHD… My best friend Regina Lark is an ADHD expert. She helps people, especially women, with ADHD organize their spaces and their lives. She attended a workshop last night that resulted (for me) in a text to me in which she said, “I know why you were able to write your memoir while running marathons!” I need rhythm to help focus which is why I was able to write my memoir, or at least tape my stories, while I was running marathons! The running provided the rhythm. It’s why my best meditation time is when I do my three-mile walk; why I feel so creative on the golf course and while pedaling a bike or pedaling (yes, pedaling) my kayak. The rhythm of those movements feeds into my grounding and my creativity. I was never diagnosed as ADHD as a kid but I was always told I had ants in my pants. I don’t think there was an available diagnosis in the 1950s. But I know I lived (and still do) for the rhythm of the waves at the beach or in a boat on the water, the movement of pedaling my bike everywhere I went when I was young, perhaps even why I was a music major…the rhythm of my music helped to keep me grounded and focused. I’m sure it’s all far more complicated but this is the first time I understand how ADHD has affected my life. It’s got me thinking now about what I need to do to manage…or more desirable, how I may employ rhythm to augment my creativity.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Joanne Reed said, “Through learning to like myself, I have been more willing to understand others.” I love and appreciate myself and my friends today. We’re here to help each other. My Higher Power is here, too.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1314 – The leader of the Knights Templar, Jaques de Molay, was found guilty of homosexuality and executed; 1971- Idaho decriminalizes homosexual acts between consenting adults, but before the law can take effect, the legislature – under pressure from conservative and religious groups – reverses itself and votes to make them a felony again; 1982 – Police raid a Washington, D.C. male escort service called “Friendly Models” and cart away more than a dozen boxes of business records, including the names and addresses of several hundred of the service’s clients; 1996 – Muffin Spencer-Devlin is the first LPGA pro to come out.

It’s good to be 67…for one more day!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 17, 2015.

Erin go braughless! Happy St. Pat’s Day! Mom and I went to a St. Patty’s Day dinner party thrown by an actual Irish woman who’s an amazing cook! Thank you, Gillian! You throw a fabulous party!

I had a massage today that I purchased on Groupon. $30 for a 90 minute massage. Absolutely lovely! Otherwise, this day was quiet, just catching up with work. It’s the punishment for traveling!

Today I’m grateful for massage therapists and sweet friends who can cook!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Helen Neujahr said I don’t always know what I want, but I do know what I don’t want. I trust God to direct my thoughts and my actions. I try to want what God wants for me today.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1970 – The film version of Matt Crowley’s play The Boys in the Band opens in New York, directed by William Friedkin. The director remarks, “I hope there are happy homosexuals. There just don’t happen to be any in my film.”; 1977 – Two years after having repealed its state sodomy laws, Arkansas’s state legislature votes to repeal the repeal and reinstates criminal penalties for homosexual acts between consenting adults; 1987 – The White House reveals that President Reagan has undergone AIDS testing out of fear that he may have contracted the disease during blood transfusions after his 1981 assassination attempt; 1989 – Actor Merritt Butrick, best known for his portrayal of James Kirk’s son in the films Star Trek II: The Wrath of Khan and Star Trek III: The Search for Spock, dies of AIDS in Los Angeles at the age of twenty-nine. He was also Johnny Slash from the short-lived ’80s sitcom Square Pegs starring a young Sarah Jessica Parker and Jami Gertz.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

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Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 16, 2015.

I spent the day on airplanes, now home in Ventura after a wonderful four days. I’m coming down to the wire as my birthday approaches and this blog winds down. It’s been such an interesting year, documenting my activities and sharing a bit of my feelings (but not too much!). I’ve tried to keep this about me and my shenanigans rather than include too many names of others here. The point of this was for me to document an age that’s fairly benign: it’s not a 0 (like 50 or 60 or 70) or a 5 (like 55, 65, or 75) age, just a nondescript age with a 7 in it. Really, 68 isn’t much more descript but I anticipate another adventurous year. Trips to Palm Springs, Utah, Amsterdam, Washington State, Chicago, Italy, and possibly Tel Aviv are going to happen in the next few months, and I have every hope that THIS is the year my golf improves! It may also be the year I buy a boat. All awaits to be seen…

So for today, I’m grateful for good flights and my own bed, and some good fantasies about the future.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Ruth Casey said we are who we are, shaped and molded by the times, by events, and by the persons we encounter along the way, and no one ever changes very much or escapes entirely from that mold. All that has gone before will help me handle whatever today offers.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1680 – Legislators of New Hampshire pass the colony’s first capital laws, copied almost word for word from the Plymouth laws of 1671: If any man lie with mankind as he lies with a woman; both of them have committed abomination; They both shall surely be put to death: unless one party were forced, or were under fourteen years of age. And all other Sodomitical filthiness shall be severely punished according to the nature of it; 1954 – The Army–McCarthy hearings convene to investigate conflicting charges made by the United States Army and Senator Joseph McCarthy about allegations of preferential treatment that McCarthy and his aide Roy Cohn had secured for Cohn’s friend David Schine. The hearings include inquiries into the supposed security risks posed by homosexuals employed by the federal government and include instances of gay-baiting by Special Counsel for the Army Joseph Welch. Notably, Welch defines a pixie as being “a close relative of a fairy”. “Fairy” is a slang term for “homosexual” and Welch’s remark is interpreted as a jibe at Cohn, a closeted homosexual.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 15, 2015.

What a fun day! Andrea and I met Christina Chala at Café Lola on west 83rd for brunch. After, we three walked through Central Park to Andrea’s condo on Madison and 117. The air was blustery and there still was snow in pockets in the park.

Around 2:30 Andrea and I too the subway to Yankee Stadium for the inaugural home game of the New York City Football Club, the new soccer team. I’m not very familiar with soccer and have never seen a live match. It was exciting, and fast, and the fans were absolutely crazy! Andrea has season tickets. When we checked in for our seats we discovered that her tickets include the Legends Café…free food and every bite fancy and fantastic!. At half time, free coffee and deserts. Since it was 39 degrees with a wind-chill of 33, the warmth of the huge café and the coffee were deeply appreciated.

This was such a wonderful weekend, with the game today and theater yesterday, and of, course, for me, the heartfelt visit at Hofstra.

Today I’m grateful for new experiences and outstanding food!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kathy MacGraw said, “My intuition can move me in the right direction when my will and God’s will are one.” My ego is always ready to jump in where God’s will is needed. Today I slow down each time I’m ready to jump, and listen instead to my feelings.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1977 – The ABC sitcom, Three’s Company, premieres.  The “sit” in the sitcom is that an unemployed straight chef (John Ritter‘s Jack Tripper) moves in with two female roommates, but in order to satisfy the landlord’s suspicions that there might be sexual impropriety, pretends he is gay. The show stays in the Nielsen Top Ten for the next six years; 1983 – A West Virginia kindergarten teacher, Linda Conway, is forced to resign from her job after parents complain that she LOOKS like a lesbian.  She files a $1 million lawsuit against the school board.  However, three years later the state supreme court confirms the school board’s right to dismiss her because of her appearance; 1985 – A new study in the Journal of the American Medical Association concludes that AIDS is most likely NOT spread by casual contact.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 14, 2015.

My little artsy-fartsy heart is so happy! I took the Long Island Railroad from Long Island to Penn Station in Manhattan and made it to Andréa’s just north of Central Park by noon. We went to TKTS and took a chance on whatever play we could see at a discount. The first play was at the Ethel Barrymore Theater entitled The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time, a powerful piece on a 15 year old boy with Asperger. The young mad who played the role was outstanding, and the computer graphics that ran the entire show were so detailed and realistic. After, we had dinner at 5-Napkins Burgers then went to the Jacobs Theater to see It’s Only a Play, an hilarious comedy about opening night of a flop of a play. The actors were superb! Mathew Broderick, Martin Short, Stockard Channing. I laughed hard for nearly three hours!

It’s been a very long and very fun day. Its chilly here, highs in the 40s and rainy. I always appreciate coming to New York and always have a grand time with Andrea.

The last of the Pisces notes:

PISCES INNOVATORS & VISIONARIES: Albert Einstein, Alexander Graham Bell, Steve Jobs

PISCES PHOTOGRAPHER: Ansel Adams

Today I’m grateful for old friends and great theater!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kelly Vickstrom said, “Before I can become a significant other, I must become significant to myself.” (Amen, sister!) Affirming my own significance helps me appreciate other people. Today I value my interactions with others.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1971 – More than two thousand protesters march on the steps of the Albany capitol building demanding an end to laws that discriminate against gays and lesbians; 2006- First time a member of a royal family comes out – Prince Gohil in India.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

 

 

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 13, 2015.

It’s nearly midnight and I’m exhausted. I spent this amazing day with friends at Hofstra University on Long Island in New York. Great folks, great work, and lots of fun! Too tired to go into detail, just enough to say that this is an outstanding institution and if I were 20 years younger, it would be my perfect place of employment, especially with Houston Dougherty as the Vice Prez. In the morning I’ll take the train into the City and spend a couple of days theater-hopping with my old friend from Michigan, Andrea Constancio.

Here are some famous actions, writers, and directors who are or were Pisces: Sidney Poitier, Drew Barrymore, Marlon Brando, Christopher Walken, Warren Beatty, Vince Vaughn, Dennis Quaid, Cindy Crawford, Jennifer Love Hewitt, Elizabeth Taylor, Harry Belafonte, Ron Howard, Liza Minnelli, William H. Macy, Billy Crystal, Michael Caine, Eva Longoria, Kurt Russell, Glenn Close

Today would have been my father’s 90th birthday. Yep…a Pisces. I know you’re celebrating somewhere over the rainbow, Dad…

Today I’m grateful for old and new friends, for my body, my health, my brain, and my passion, and for my dad who was always so proud of whatever cockamamie thing I did whether or not he understood it.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Robbie Rocheford said, “I wonder what my life would be like if I were to focus my energy and thoughts only on things that really matter.” I pause throughout the day to clear my mind. Taking charge of my thoughts is enlightening.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1984 – Claiming an “absence of compelling need” for such legislation, California governor George Deukmejian vetoes a gay rights bill that would have prohibited job discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

 

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 12, 2015.

Snow! It’s not snowing but the snow is everywhere and it’s beautiful! I’m in the Marriott on Long Island, looking forward to visiting with my very dear friends at Hofstra University. I was taken to dinner at a nearby deli…VERY New York! The chicken and matzo ball soup was exactly what I needed. I seem to be experiencing a big ol’ sinus thing and I’m not amused. I brought good drugs with me because I felt this coming on but it just sucks to feel yucky while traveling. Early bed tonight, though, and the gym in the morning should take care of it.

Outside of my window is the Islanders hockey stadium. I’m totally clueless about hockey (and prefer to remain so) but everyone here seems charged. There’s a game this weekend, one of the last before the Islanders apparently move to Brooklyn. They’re leaving this stadium because there are no suites in it. Really? It’s hockey, fercryinoutlloud!!!

And the travel season begins. This weekend new York, next weekend, New Orleans, the following weekend Palm Springs, then Utah, Europe, and Washington. I love this traveling! The tricky part is to get a golf game and some practice in between flights! So far, so good!

Pisces people:

PISCES IN POLITICS / WORLD LEADERS / SOCIETY FIGURES: George Washington, Al Gore, Gloria Steinem, Chelsea Clinton, Edward Kennedy, Ralph Nader, Alan Greenspan

PISCES MUSICIANS: Frederic Chopin, George Harrison, Sir Elton John, Aretha Franklin, Nat “King” Cole, Eric Clapton, Smokey Robinson, Queen Latifah

Artists: Michaelangelo, Auguste Renoir

And next week….this Pisces turns 68!

Today I’m grateful for comfortable flights, beautiful blue skies, old higher ed pals, and a comfy bed…

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Susan Smith Jones said the subconscious works to create reality according to the programming it has been fed. I don’t have to except how anyone defines me today. I can give myself only positive input. My output will reflect it.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1976 – At a campaign stop in Los Angeles, Democratic presidential candidate Jimmy Carter tells an audience that, if elected, he would be willing to issue an executive order banning discrimination against gay people in housing, employment, immigration and the military; 2004 – The Wisconsin State Senate approves of an amendment to the state constitution (20-13) that would ban both same-sex marriages and civil unions; 2004 – Oregon’s attorney general issues an opinion on same-sex marriage, stating that issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples would contradict current state law. At the same time, he also concluded that the Oregon Supreme Court would probably strike down those statutes as violating the state’s constitution. Partially as a result of this, the Wisconsin State Senate voted to approve an amendment to the state constitution banning same-sex marriages or even civil unions.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 11, 2015.

I played golf with the women’s group at Saticoy this morning. I swear, of the 40 or so of them, there sure are a lot of “sisters” swinging’ clubs! The ironic thing was this: they gave me the membership application to complete. It had a line asking for the name of the applicant’s husband. Really????? I bet hardly any of those women have or have had one…ever!

A Pisces fact: The feet are the most sensitive spot for Pisces. Uh, Yup!

Heading to New York today. Delta cancelled my original flight, gave me one I actually like better, then upgraded me to first class. Sweeeeet!

Today I’m grateful for my new golf-women friends, for outstanding foot massages, and for first class seats! Life is good!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Sarah Desmond said to experience a feeling is to open a window to our soul. I respect all my feelings today. They tell me important things I need to know about myself.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 222 – Elagabalus was assassinated at age 18 in Italy because of his relationships with Hierocles, a charioteer; 1998 – the first two openly gay members of the Danish Parliament took office; 2003 – the first transgender person is accepted in the Reform Judaism Seminary in Cincinnati, Ohio; 2004 – The California Supreme Court issues a stay ordering San Francisco officials to cease issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples; 2007 – first openly LGBTQ person, Rabbi Toba Spitzer, chosen to head an American Rabbinical Association, in Arizona.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. March 10, 2015.

Want to date a Pisces? Here’s what you need to know: Pisces women are very captivating and fascinating. (Okay, I’ll buy this.) She is charming, soft and feminine. (I’m not buying this so much!) She can see right through her partner and she is not easy to fool, so don’t lead her on, because instead of confronting you, she will simply disappear. (I used to do this…) She needs to nurture, sort of like a mother nurturing a child. What she needs in return is to be protected and cherished, make her feel like she is needed and loved. She needs patience and sympathy and you have to be gentle with her. Don’t poke fun or tease and definitely do not reject her harshly because she can’t stand rejection. She is extremely romantic and will lose herself in the relationship. I don’t think this describes me very much… Bike with me, play golf with me, travel with me, talk with me, and exercise with me and we have it nailed!

Only 9 more days before this blog closes and a new one begins. When I turn 68 in 10 days, my blog will become a documentation of the amazing postcards I’ve been receiving. I look forward to blessing this year and beginning my new one. Happy birthday month to me!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Today I will stop brooding and start meditating. I can figure out my next best move today if I quiet my mind long enough to receive God’s message.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1985 – William Hoffman’s play about AIDS, As Is, opens at New York City’s Circle Rep Theater. Less than six weeks later, Larry Kramer’s The Normal Heart opens at the Public Theater; 1987 – AIDS advocacy group ACT UP (AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power) is formed in response to the devastating effects the disease has had on the gay and lesbian community in New York; 2009 – In Tel Aviv, Uzi Even and his life partner was the first same-sex male couple in Israel whose right of adoption has been legally acknowledged; German Paragraph 175 finally fully repealed.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com