Two weeks ago Kelly and I attended a St. Patrick’s Day dinner here in the Four Seasons community. We sat at a table with four gay men, chatted with the two couples all evening, and had a nice time. Several days later one of the couples invited up to their home for lunch. Yesterday was our lunch with them. The men were our ages, give or take a couple of years, one a retired educator and one a retired accountant. Both were married to women for many years and have children, found each other on line, and have been together for twelve years. Their home was absolutely beautiful and the meal delish. What was striking for Kelly and me was that the conversation, from the instant we walked in the door, was sweet, deep, authentic, and personal. These two men not only shared their stories with us but engaged us equally in our stories. It was such a delightful two and half hours and we’ll spend time with them again.
Two thoughts entered my brain yesterday with these two guys. First, it’s nice to have friends in our gated neighborhood as we all age in place. There are many lesbians and gay men here and we will to get to know more of them. The second thought was that Kelly and I just made our friends. Her friends in Palm Springs are wonderful and I like many of them very much, even love some. My friends are also good people who adore Kelly. But now we have our friends, who met us as a couple. We actually have several of our friends in Sequim, especially our neighbors in our ‘hood, but this is a first for us in Palm Springs and our life as a couple continues to expand.
We’re not married yet, now looking at Jan. 1, 2017 as a possible wedding date though it could happen earlier. But we bought our rings which we picked up last Wednesday from the jeweler in Ventura. Of course we couldn’t wait so we’re wearing them now. I love how we’re doing our marriage! So non-traditional and a tad confusing for some, but it works for us and we’re having a blast!
Life is very good indeed and I’m deeply grateful…
On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do your research and let me know. Thanks!)
1943, The Netherlands – A group of resistance activists, led by Willem Arondeus, a gay man, dressed as German soldiers, infiltrated the citizen registration building, and destroyed it. The attack inspired similar ones.
1951, China – The U.S. State Department announces firing of four homosexuals from the Hong Kong office, one involved in a visa bribery plot and the other three discovered during the plot investigation.
1977 – On Face the Nation, White House press secretary Jody Powell defends charges that the Carter Administration panders to gay activists by saying, “For an organized group who feel they have a grievance that they are not treated fairly, for them to have a right to put that grievance before high officials and say ‘We want redress,’ that to me is what the essence of America is all about. What I feel about gay rights or any other group doesn’t have a thing in the world to do with it.”
(Information from QUIST, Lavender Effect, Back2Stonewall, and/or Wikipedia. (If you are unsure about accuracy, please do the research and let me know. Thanks!)
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