LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 14, 2015.

Today’s postcard:

From: Female
Year: 1980
Location: Orlando

 I played on a lesbian softball team called The Silver Streaks. You had to be a lesbian, at least 30 years of age, and have at least one silver hair. All the other (straight) teams in the league wore yellow or blue or green uniforms. We wore gray and black. Other players showed up with their boyfriends or parents. We arrived with our coolers and dogs. Really, we were scary as hell and we loved it!

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1600 – Tomasso Campanella Jailed. Campanella, a philosopher, is overheard saying to his cellmate: “O Father Pietro, why don’t you do something so that we may sleep together, and we may get pleasure?” Pietro replied “I wish I could, and I’d even bribe the gaolers with ten ducats. But to you, my heart, I would like to give twenty kisses every hour.”

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Letting go of old hurts makes room for new choice. I experience more joy if I give less thought to the old hurts today. The decision is mine, and I can make it and remake it if necessary.

Today I’m grateful for haircuts, mani-pedis, and organized packing of my suitcase. I’m also grateful for family, friends, and Panera discounts!

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 13, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

 From: Male
Year: 1978
Location: San Francisco

I was 18, out since high school, attending community college, and actively involved in the NO On 6 Campaign 1978 when I traveled to San Francisco to see my fist Gay Freedom Day Parade. I saw Harvey Milk riding in a convertible, excited, waving his arms. I asked my then boyfriend what was all the fuss about. He told me Harvey was the first openly gay elected city official. A sense of confusion came over me; I was so young & naive. I asked, “What’s wrong with being yourself?”

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1955 – “Sexual Psychopath” law enacted in Iowa; 1990 – First public action by Queer Nation took place at a straight bar called Flutie’s, New York; 1997 – Ellen DeGeneres comes out in TIME Magazine. Comedian and talk show host Ellen DeGeneres appears on TIME Magazine’s cover with the words, ʺYep, I’m Gayʺ; 2014 – Finnish Post announced that Tom of Finland to appear on stamps.

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Harriet Hodgson said, “The child in me says hold on; the adult in me says let go.” I have a choice today: I can handle all circumstances as an adult and feel free, or allow my child trigger a confrontation. What will I do?

Today I’m grateful for a quiet day to do laundry, pack for Europe, and enjoy a quiet house. I’m also deeply grateful for the film festivals and speaking engagements coming up in the next two months.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 12, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Male
Year: 1992
Location: Ann Arbor

I was denied a faculty position at the University of Michigan because I was gay.

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1932 – Film Grand Hotel released. Star Greta Garbo originally did not want to the role but her partner Mercedes de Acosta convinced her to take it. The film goes on to win the Oscar for Best Picture; 1953 – 63 men arrested in Waco, Texas at “homosexual convention.”

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kathy McGraw said taking responsibility for the part I play in the cause of my problems frees me to do something about them. I feel strengthened by claiming responsibility for all that I am today. By taking action, I pause and consider whether I feel good about my choices.

Today I’m grateful for a safe flight home, and for the fun old folks (Mom – 89, Uncle Jack – 85, Aunt Sylvia – 75) with whom I play cards. Tonight I won!

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 11, 2015

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Male
Year: 1981
Location: Miami

I remember when the first baby died of the new disease called GRID – gay related immune disease – in New York. I was in a meeting of other gay men in Miami when we got the call. We knew that they’d blame the gay community somehow for that baby’s death.

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1780 – William Smith and Theodosius Reed are to be put in the deadly revolving stockyards for sodomy, England; 2001 – GLAD filed the Goodridge v. Department of Public Health case in Massachusetts which led to Massachusetts becoming the first US state to legalize same-sex marriage in 2004.2013 – French Senate Approves Gay Marriage. The French Senate, in Paris, approves the law for equal marriage and adoption rights for gay and lesbian couples.

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I can have my way more often if I have more than one way. There are many ways to interpret my experiences today. I will be flexible and occasionally look from another’s vantage point.

Today I’m grateful for an excellent day of work at Weber State University and the beauty of a hike up Mt. Ogden. The writing retreat for Weber State will result in a book of LGBT experiences on campus. Very exciting!

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 11, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Male
Year: 1981
Location: Miami

I remember when the first baby died of the new disease called GRID – gay related immune disease – in New York. I was in a meeting of other gay men in Miami when we got the call. We knew that they’d blame the gay community somehow for that baby’s death

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

__________________________________________________________________________________________

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1780 – William Smith and Theodosius Reed are to be put in the deadly revolving stockyards for sodomy, England; 2001 – GLAD filed the Goodridge v. Department of Public Health case in Massachusetts which led to Massachusetts becoming the first US state to legalize same-sex marriage in 2004.2013 – French Senate Approves Gay Marriage. The French Senate, in Paris, approves the law for equal marriage and adoption rights for gay and lesbian couples.

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I can have my way more often if I have more than one way. There are many ways to interpret my experiences today. I will be flexible and occasionally look from another’s vantage point.

Today I’m grateful for an excellent day of work at Weber State University and the beauty of a hike up Mt. Ogden. The writing retreat for Weber State will result in a book of LGBT experiences on campus. Very exciting!

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Click here for Writing Webinars for LGBT People.
www.purpledistinctions.com

LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 10, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Female
Year: 1983
Location: Los Angeles

We wanted a romantic evening in a nice Los Angeles restaurant. Papa Choux’s had advertised that they had booths with curtains for exactly that purpose. When we got there, they refused to seat two women in the romantic curtained booth. We hired Gloria Allred and sued. We lost the initial suit but we prevailed in the California Supreme Court. Today, in 2015, my spouse and I were actually offered a romantic “private booth” in another restaurant. I don’t know if they sensed our relationship, but what I do know is that today we no longer have difficulty with restaurants even when we tell them we are celebrating our anniversary.

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1998 – Golf Player Patty Sheehan Comes Out as Lesbian. She is the second golfer to ever make such an announcement. Sheehan, a member of the World Golf Hall of Fame, is a winner of six major golf championships.

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: We look back on troubling times and understand how they contributed to our growth today. I trust that anything I experience today will be beneficial to my growth. If I ask my higher power for help and strength, I will feel peace.

Today I’m grateful for an exciting day of workshops, presentations, receptions, and beautiful views. I look forward to the writing retreat tomorrow.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 9, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

 From: Male
Year: 1987
Location: St. Augustine, FL

The medical record said the man “walked funny” so he must be gay and have AIDS. He was denied the gall bladder surgery he needed. I tried to tell them that we can’t judge patients by the way they walk. I got fired.

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1476 – Leonardo Da Vinci accused of sodomy; 1986 — Bayard Rustin Gives Speech “The New N*ggers Are Gays.” The civil rights leader was arrested more times for being homosexual than for his civil disobedience. In this speech he says, “Today, blacks are no longer the litmus paper or the barometer of social change. Blacks are in every segment of society and there are laws that help to protect them from racial discrimination. The new ‘niggers’ are gays. [. . .] It is in this sense that gay people are the new barometer for social change. [. . .] The question of social change should be framed with the most vulnerable group in mind: gay people.”; 2008 – First openly gay political candidate stands for election, South Korea.

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I have the tools to create whoever I want to be. I am an artist at work.

Today I’m grateful for my safe flight to Ogden, Utah, and for my dear friend Paul who is treating me like a special guest.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 8, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Female
Year: 1983
Location: Los Angeles

 When I came out, DYKE was written on my locker in high school. I also got beat up. Zero teachers helped me. Nobody. So, I came close to tears when my girlfriend and I went back to my high school years later and saw that they had “pink triangle Hate Free Zone” sign on all the doors, and they were ecstatic to have us there.

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1990 – Teen AIDS patient Ryan White dies, Indianapolis

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I consider being silent each time an opportunity to respond offers itself today. Doing the right thing may well mean doing and saying nothing.

Today I’m grateful for birthdays and family celebrations, and for a good round of golf!

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 7, 2015

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Male
Year: 1986
Location: New Jersey

The bar was frequently raided by the local police and DEA (Drug Enforcement Agency) and not completely without cause because there were illegal activities such as “recreational drug use” back then but no more or less than the straight bars down the street.   We were clearly being singled out.  Invariably, the cops would arrest all the drag queens and put them in a giant paddy wagon before leaving the rest of us to start throwing money in bucket to help raise bail money and then go back to dancing the night away.   However, one raid in 1986 stood out from all the others.  This time when the usual drug raid took place the police and DEA agents all entered wearing surgical masks and thick rubber gloves like the kind that people who work on power lines wear.  They rushed in with such force just throwing us up against the wall and frisking us all down.  I remember being so confused about what was going on until it hit me.  They were wearing the masks and gloves because we were gay men and they didn’t want to get AIDS by touching us.  It was the first time I can remember getting angry and feeling like enough was enough.  I started to get mouthy with one of the cops and my friend Joey just kept begging me to shut up or I’d get arrested.  We all had to get out our IDs and with our hands up, hold them over our heads and leave the bar.  I remember I cried the whole ride home.  I had never been treated as “untouchable” or “contagious” and the look of disgust in their eyes as they frisked us all down and then lined us up to parade past them like criminals was more than I could handle in contrast to the freedom I felt in that usually joyous and sacred space.  That was the night I decided never to be silent and accepting of being treated differently or as “less than” again.   That night was the awakening of my social conscious and I found my voice to fight for our human rights and the needs of those who were (at that time) dying of AIDS at a time when no one would listen.  

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

__________________________________________________________________________________________

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 529 – Emperor Justinian I re-rote Roman Law making sane-sex acts contrary to nature and punishable by death, Italy; 1837 – The Little Mermaid was written by Hans Christian Andersen as a love letter to Edvard Collin; 1915 – Ma Rainey is born; 1974 – Pacific Center for Human Grown founded in Berkeley in response to brutal gay bashing; 2013 – First traditional African legal same-sex wedding, South Africa;

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: No one plucks thoughts from our mind or pushes ones in that we don’t want. We are in charge, so let’s accept the challenge. Acting responsibly is no harder than I choose to make it today.

Today I’m grateful for the rain…we need it so much.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past. April 6, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Female
Year: 1980
Location: St. Augustine (Vilano Beach), FL

After a significant breakup, I moved to the beachside community of twelve lesbians, called The Pagoda. Many rules and customs to learn and conform to, or reject in this all-lesbians-only community. Consensus decisions, along with the cultural and spiritual culture that we developed. We had a theater with 40 folding chairs and held circles to honor Mother Earth. Consciousness Raising circles were held to End the Violence, and S & M. Many lesbian musicians performed including Alix Dobkin, Kay Gardner, Flash Silvermoon, Eagleheart, Berkeley Women to name a few. Twelve beach cottages, a pool, a Center. Always money problems, always we struggled around the jobs and responsibilities, but we got every job done. Post-hole digging? You could write a thesis!

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The LGBT Postcard Project: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1895 – New York Times covers the Oscar Wilde sodomy case; 2007 – Transgender Alex James Adams, formerly known as Heather Alexander, first performance using new name, in Seattle

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Mary Gordon said we can say yes to life even in its darkest moments if we can see it as part of the greater reality. I know that what comes to me today is a tiny part of God’s plan for my life. I am not alone.

Today I’m grateful for my mother and my sister and our Monday movies adventures.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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