LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past. March 30, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

 From: Female
Year: 1971
Location: Los Angeles

 I was deeply afraid that my parents could tell I was a lesbian so I got married to a man to hide my sexual orientation. When I came out eight years later, I lost custody of my children.

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The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1958 – first performance of Alvin Ailey American Dance theater, New York; 1985 – In a letter to ultra-conservative American Coalition for Family Values, former Los Angeles Police Chief and state assembly member Ed Davis responds against anti-gay politicians and pressure from the group that he take a public pledge refusing donation or endorsements from gay political groups.  “I close this letter,” he says, “by asking you to take a few minutes to read two short documents with which you may not be familiar – the Declaration of Independence and the Bill of Rights.”  In the 1970s, Davis had been seen as one of the gay movement’s primary political enemies and used his position as police chief to malign and harass gay men and lesbians.

What ‘s your history moment?

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Eileen Fehlen said, z’by embracing the unfair, I no longer feel fear or rejection or lack of self-esteem.” I am certain that God gives me only what is right for me today.

Today I’m grateful to have had the opportunity to visit with a sick friend, and for a wonderful birthday dinner with Kelly.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past. March 29, 2015

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Male
Year: 1986
Location: New York

At meal times at my hospital, some of the staff were refusing to enter the AIDS patients’ rooms to deliver meal trays.  Instead, they were putting them on the floor and sliding them toward the patients most of whom were too sick and weak to get out of bed to pick them up. I quickly organized a group of gay and straight volunteers who would go to the unit before work, at lunchtime and at dinner time to deliver the meals to the patients and help feed them if necessary.  I’m so happy that the younger members of our community don’t have to deal with what I did but I do hope that they will remember that the privileges and rights that they enjoy now were hard won by the sacrifices of the people before them.  Carry it forward, with your head held high.

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The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1976: By a vote of 6 to 3, the U.S. Supreme Court upholds the constitutionality of Virginia’s sodomy laws; 1985 – The Los Angeles Times comes out in favor of gay rights and urges the U.S. Supreme Court to take a stand on more gay-related issues; 1988 – Georgetown University, the nation’s oldest Roman Catholic university, loses an eight-year legal battle to keep from having to provide facilities and financial support to the campus’s gay student groups; 1989 – The Academy Awards, produced this year by gay producer Allan Carr, showcases a now infamous rendition of “Proud Mary” sung by Rob Lowe and an actress dressed as the Disney version of Snow White.  Says Carr before the ceremony, “It really was my childhood dream to produce the Oscars. I’m a child of the movies.”; 1990 – Delivering his first speech on AIDS since he took office fourteen months earlier, President Bush is heckled by National Gay and Lesbian Task Force director Urvashi Vaid, who hollers, “We need your leadership! We need more than one speech every fourteen months!” Vaid, holding a sign reading “TALK IS CHEAP, AIDS FUNDING IS NOT,” is quickly “escorted” from the auditorium by police; 2009 – Oscar Wilde Memorial Bookstore in New York, the first LGBTQ bookstore in the country, closed. It had opened in 1967.

What ‘s your history moment?

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: : Laurel Lewis said, “Inside me is a store in truth that is guided by my higher power. I’m empowered by truth and joy.” I listen to the still, small voice within and feel secure and joyful, knowing that my actions are God’s will.

Today I’m grateful for being the recipient of the American Documentary Film Festival Humanitarian Award, for a packed house, and for people I love who joined me for today’s sold-out screening of Letter to Anita.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past. March 28, 2015.

 

Today’s postcard:

From: Male
Year: 1985
Location: New Jersey

Despite having been called a “fag” since the 4th grade I “came out of the closet” to myself the day after my 21st birthday. The closest gay bar was in Asbury Park, New Jersey, an hour away from where I lived, but it was nothing short of an oasis. Its official name was “The Odyssey” but you wouldn’t know that from the outside.  It didn’t have any signage, only a lavender neon Lambda (Greek letter) in the window.  (Those were the subtle cues we looked for to know if an establishment was gay.)  People didn’t congregate outside the entrance. We parked down the block and walked as if you could be going anywhere. If the coast was clear you dashed into the entrance to show your ID and pay a cover charge before heading toward the bar and dance floor.  Despite this being the height of the AIDS crisis – and many people were visibly sick then – it was an atmosphere that was so happy and upbeat.  It was our little secret world and no one could tell us what we could say or who we could love or dance with. It was magical.  However, with so many of my friends dying, the spell was soon broken. 

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The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1969 – Society for Individual Rights president Leo Laurence and his lover are featured in a photo-illustrated article in the Berkeley Barb. Calling for “the Homosexual Revolution of 1969,” Laurence exhorts gay men and lesbians to join the Black Panthers and other left-wing groups and to “come out” en masse; 1989 – 2500 ACT-UP activists demonstrate at the New York City hall protesting Mayor Koch’s handling of the AIDS crisis; 1990 – With the opening of the Robert Mapplethorpe exhibit less than two weeks away, law enforcement officials in Cincinnati, Ohio, warn the local Contemporary Arts Center to cancel the exhibit or risk prosecution under the city’s stringent anti-obscenity laws. “These photographs are just not welcome in this community,” says the local chief of police. “The people of this community do not cater to what others depict as art.”  After the exhibit finally opens, a Cincinnati grand jury indicts the center’s director, Dennis Barrie, on charges of obscenity and pandering; 2002 – In Mississippi, the George County Times published a letter from George County Justice Court Judge Connie Wilkerson which read, in part, “In my opinion, gays and lesbians should be put in some type of mental institution.” Because of the bias expressed in such a statement, an ethics violation complaint was filed against Wilkerson.

What ‘s your history moment?

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Natalie Goldberg said there are many realities. We should remember this when we get too caught up in being concerned about the way the rest of the world lives or how we think they live. I don’t need anyone to agree with me today. I only think I do.

Today I’m grateful for old Palm Springs friends and an easy day to get caught up with preparations for coming presentations.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards. March 27, 2015

LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past

Today’s postcard:

 From: Female
Year: 1952
Location: Alabama

 At 21, I realized it was time to pick a husband, and a prime candidate appeared. I told him that I don’t want to get married but I wanted kids and travel and a life. So did he, plus he had a three-year military obligation. We agreed that it wasn’t romantic but made perfect sense to us. Turns out we both were gay so it all worked well. We adopted two kids, raised them while living separately. No one knew the difference.

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The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

 Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

 Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1943 – Group of resistance activists, led by Willem Arondeus, a gay man, burned Nazi-held building in The Netherlands; 1951 – US State department announces firing of four homosexuals from the Hong Kong office; 1977 – On Face the Nation, White House press secretary Jody Powell defends charges that the Carter Administration panders to gay activists by saying, “For an organized group who feel they have a grievance that they are not treated fairly, for them to have a right to put that grievance before high officials and say ‘We want redress,’ that to me is what the essence of America is all about.  What I feel about gay rights or any other group doesn’t have a thing in the world to do with it.”

What ‘s your history moment?

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My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Mary Shilelder said to each particular person in the world speaks a different, particular word and calls for different, particular response. I am invited to experience particular situations today. My presence is needed if I am called.

Today I’m grateful for friends, film, and a big hot tub!

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past. March 26, 2015.

Today’s postcard:

 From: Female
Year: 1963
Location: Lon Island, NY

 A gay bar on Long Island had lights that blinked on and off in the back dancing room.  When the police came in and the lights turned on, we were told to change partners to the opposite sex.

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The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

 Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

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On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1973 – Gay playwright, Noel Coward, dies in Jamaica at the age of 73; 1975 – After the local district attorney’s office rules that there are no county laws preventing two people of the same-sex from getting married, Boulder, Colorado county clerk Clela Rorex issues a marriage license to two gay men. It is the first same-sex marriage license issued in the United States. She says in a statement, “I don’t profess to be knowledgeable about homosexuality or even understand it, but it’s not my business why people get married.  No minority should be discriminated against.”; 1977 – First time openly lesbian and gay people at the White House; 1985 – A 4-4 tie vote in the U.S. Supreme Court effectively overturns an Oklahoma law that would have banned homosexuals, or those defending or “promoting” the homosexual “lifestyle”, from teaching in the state’s public schools; 1990 – Common Threads: Stories from the Quilt wins the Academy Award for Best Feature-Length Documentary. It is the second Oscar for gay filmmaker Rob Epstein, who received the first one six years previously, for The Times of Harvey Milk; 2000 – Hilary Swank won Best Actress Oscar for portrayal of Brandon Teena in Boy Don’t Cry; 2007 – Jewish Theological Seminary of America begins accepting openly LGB candidates; 2013 – Gay pride flag flown by Alan Lowenthal (D), in Washington DC.

What ‘s your history moment?

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Today’s meditation from A Woman’s Spirit: Carol Sheffield said when we lose our grasp on our concerns, there is room for the spiritual essence of all life to move through us in such a way that healing occurs. I will not be caught in a problem today if I’m quiet and ready for the solution. Stillness engulfs me now.

Today I’m grateful for a a sweet Writing Workshop at the LGBT Center of the Desert, for the American Documentary Film Festival, and for Kelly and Dooney.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past. March 25, 2015.

Today’s postcard:

From: Female
Year: 1960
Location: Los Angeles

I was expelled from my sorority at UCLA in 1960 after they found letters written to me by my first partner.  We were both in the closet and I was traumatized to have been found out.

The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@lgbtpostcards.com

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1985 – The Times of Harvey Milk wins the Oscar for Best Feature Length Documentary.  Accepting the award, producer Richard Schmeichen thanks his male lover; 1988 – Robert Joffrey, founder and artistic director of the Joffrey Ballet, dies in New York City at the age of fifty-seven, of what is reported to have been “liver, renal, and respiratory failure”-although it is widely assumed he had AIDS.

What ‘s your history moment?

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Patricia Wuertzer said I don’t train for a marathon when I simply want to run 5 mile races. Today I remind myself that I don’t have to complete a big project every day. Making some progress is enough.

Today I’m grateful for a fun round of golf with the Saticoy Women’s Golf Club, and for a safe ride to Palm Springs.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past. March 24, 2015.

Today’s postcard:

From: Female
Year: 1964
Location: New York

 As the commanding officer of a women’s unit in the Army, I was required to be present when suspected lesbians were interrogated.  Sadly, I could do nothing to help them or prevent their discharge.  That experience was one of the reasons I chose to resign my commission after five very successful years of active duty. 

The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, emailed snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at ronni@purpledistinctions.com

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1971 – In defiance of the U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service, a federal judge grants U.S. citizenship to a 24-year old gay man from Cuba, ruling that an applicant’s homosexuality cannot, in itself, bar a person from becoming a citizen; 1986 – William Hurt wins the Best Actor Oscar for his role as an imprisoned homosexual window dresser in Kiss of the Spider Woman; 1987 – ACT UP (AIDS Coalition to Unleash Power) stages its first major political action in the financial heart of New York City to demand that the federal government stop dragging its feet on the approval of new drugs that might benefit people with AIDS. Seventeen protesters are arrested for obstructing traffic when they sit down in the intersection of Broadway and Wall Street.

What ‘s your history moment?

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: My children have a higher power, and it’s not me. I focus on my life and my higher power today. Others’ actions are not my responsibility. Today I’m grateful for my three-mile walk, my new truck, and the opportunity to get caught up with my work today.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past. March 22, 2015.

LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past

Today’s postcard:

From: Male
Year: 2012
Location: Indiana

As an undergrad, when I went home from school for a visit, my parents would lock me in the house so that I didn’t go out to meet my gay friends.

The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, email snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at postcards@purpedistinctions.com

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1972 – The Equal Rights Amendment, banning discrimination on the basis of sex, passes the U.S. Senate. Opponents of the amendment claim it will destroy the nuclear family, give broad civil rights to homosexuals, and even mandate unisex rest rooms in public.  Though by the end of 1972 twenty-two of the required thirty-eight states had ratified it, the ERA failed to receive the requisite number of ratifications before the final deadline mandated by Congress of June 30, 1982 expired, and so it was never adopted; 1976 – New Jersey Superior Curt rules that transsexual people may marry based on the reassigned sex; 2004 – In Oregon, the commissioners of Benton County decided not to start issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples. This reversal of an earlier vote was due to receiving a letter from state attorney general Hardy Myers on the matter. In place of same-sex marriage licenses, the commissioners decided to stop issuing any marriage licenses to anyone at all until the Oregon Supreme Court rules on the constitutionality of the discriminatory provisions of Oregon’s marriage laws.

What ‘s your history moment?

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit : Georgia Vickstrom said when we are all wrapped up in ourselves, we present a very small package to others. Today I can put aside my tendency to look at every circumstance in relationship to myself. With God’s help, I can put my attention on others.

Today I’m grateful for being in New Orleans and spending time with old friends and colleagues at NASPA. I’m also grateful for Judy Albin who asked NASPA to bring the AIDS Quilt to the conference. I helped set it up, and I cried old familiar tears…

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past

The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, email snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at postcards@purpedistinctions.com

Today’s postcard:

From: Female
Year: 1958
Location: New York

I was in a gay bar in Harlem when it was raided by the police.  We were each asked for our driver’s license which they returned to us before they left.  The next day, the names of all who were in the bar was listed in the New York newspapers.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1804 – Napoleonic Code went into effect, one of the earliest codes to permit same-sex activity, France; 1994 – Tom Hanks won best actor Oscar for Philadelphia; 2001 – Asexual visibility and education network founded by David Jay; 2009 – Ministry of Interior Issued statement on crackdown on homosexuality, Morocco.

What ‘s your history moment?

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Abby Warman said the willingness and courage to trust and except our feelings brings peace of mind and the knowledge that all is well. I appreciate my feelings today. Whatever they are, I know that all is well.

Today I’m grateful for seeing old friends and colleagues in New Orleans for the NASPA conference!

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past…March 20, 2015.

 

Happy birthday to me! 68! What a day of celebration! Breakfast with the family, lunch with my friend Sarah, golf and a pedicure with Regina, then dinner with Regina and Erik. With literally hundreds of well-wishes on FB and a wonderful day with family and friends, I feel love and loved…

And today begins the blog called LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past

The LGBT Postcards: Snippets from our Past project documents moments from our LGBT histories/herstories. I use postcards because they guarantee anonymity. If one doesn’t need the anonymity, email snippets are fine. Send your postcards to me at:

Dr. Ronni Sanlo
PO Box 4507
Ventura, CA 93007

Or send an email to me at Ronni@ronnisanlo.com

Today’s postcard:

From a Female
Year: 1960
Location: unknown

I was fired from my first teaching job after being seen in a gay bar.  The worst part was that after the firing, I was required to wait outside of the school while two fellow teachers packed up my personal items.  It was 30 degrees and snowing, and my coat was still in my locker.  After 20 minutes of shivering, the exit door finally opened and a large box was dramatically put down next to me.  Fortunately, it contained my coat.

What’s your snippet of history/herstory?

In wanting to share as much LGBT history as I’m able, I will continue to provide the history inclusions from QUIST or the Lavender Effect:

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1961 -The United States Supreme Court denies certiorari to Frank Kameny’s petition to review the legality of his firing by the United States Army’s Map Service in 1957, bringing his four-year legal battle to a close; 1970 – Twenty-three year old David Bowie marries nineteen year old Mary Angela Barnett. A few years later, Bowie explains how they met, “Angela and I knew each other because we were both going out with the same man.”  Angie Bowie went on to a career in Hollywood, though the two divorced in 1980; 1978 – The San Francisco Board of Supervisor passes what is described as “the most stringent gay rights law in the country.”  Only one of the eleven supervisors — Dan White — votes against the ordinance; 1986 – After fourteen years, the New York City Council finally passes a gay rights ordinance with a vote of 21 to 14.  Mayor Ed Koch tells reporters, “The sky is not going to fall.  There isn’t going to be any dramatic change in the life of this city.”; 2004 – A lesbian minister in Bothell, Washington, is acquitted by a Methodist church jury of violating church rules.

I will also continue to include the daily meditations because they help guide me.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kathy Stone said, “I can’t expect you to share yourself if I can’t do the same.” I tell my friend who I really am today. I can count on affirmation and acceptance if I choose my friend well.

Keep Writing!

Ronni

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