It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 27, 2015.

I visited with a dear friend this morning in Los Angeles. He’s a young man who I’ve watched grow since he was 18 and with whom I’ve been close for these years. Today he’s a lovely man with a good job and a graduate degree. It’s such a pleasure to hear of his successes and to know that I had a least a small part of the direction his life took. I look forward to see what he will do. I have no doubt he’ll be a vice president of a university one day.

I met with another friend, also a young man, who is in need of direction. He, too, has a good job, but he’s reeling from a child which is emotionally unresolved because it was so horrific, so brutal. The good news is that he’s begun therapy. I shared some of my experience, strength, and hope with him and hope that he finds Codependents Anonymous. It feels as if he’s on the verge of discovery and healing but needs that gentle push over the line into his future.

I was on the UCLA campus today and stopped by the LGBT Center. It was busy with visitors, students studying at the table, and activities happening in the library. I felt so happy that the Center is alive and well and moving forward under the direction of Raja Bhatar. I actually retired because of the smart young talented folks like Raja who could better move this work into the future. My colleagues and I took the work as far as our vision allowed. The new folks with visions far beyond my own needed to have the space to do their work. My role today is to cheer them on and mentor as needed.The weather is changing rapidly and the predicted winter storm is approaching. Gratefully, it’s nothing like what the east coast has experienced.

Today I’m grateful for the weather here no matter how bad it gets, and I’m grateful for the sweet friends of my heart…

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Abby Warman said, “Solitude is my time to talk to myself. Without it I’m a bird without a song.” I will sing God’s tune today if I take time to listen for it. I quiet my mind and listen to my heart.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1557 – Benvenuto Cellini charged with sodomy, Italy; 1989 – The U.S.S.R. reports the case of twenty-nine infants and six mothers who all contracted AIDS in the same hospital through a single unsterile syringe that was used over and over again; 2001 – Two female characters on Buffy the Vampire Sayer kiss. It was the first realistic lesbian relationship on TV; 2004 – New Palz, NY, begins issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 26, 2015.

I attended the Tyler Clementi Foundation event in Los Angeles this evening. It was at a beautiful old home in the Hancock Park area. About 100 people – maybe five women, the rest men – were there. Also there was Jane Clementi, the mother of Tyler. I was so impressed that she and her husband took their grief of losing their son and created the foundation that’s doing some amazing work. The vision of the organization is to stop online and offline bullying. The fun part for me is that an old friend from Michigan, Sean Kosofsky, is the executive director, and I attended the event as his guest. Check out the Foundation. It’s truly impressive. http://www.tylerclementi.org

I’m rarely comfortable at events where I have no role. Schmoozing isn’t really fun for me. Despite how I may appear on the outside, I’m more introverted than extroverted. I knew only about three people at the event this evening. Rather than stress about small-talking with 100 white wealthy gay men, I volunteered! They needed the extra body and hands and I felt good about being of service. It was a win-win!

Today I’m grateful for old friends, new friends, and an easy drive into LA.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Joyce Wadler said, “Nothing is real until you’re close to it.” Living on the outskirts of life used to satisfy me; I didn’t know it could be different. Today I feel my involvement and cherish life.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1556 – Benvenuto Cellini is accused of sodomy with his apprentice, in Italy; 1649 – Christina of Sweden, citing her wish to not marry, abdicates the throne; 1990 – Refusing to consider the cases of Ben-Shalom v. Stone and Woodward v. U.S., the U.S. Supreme Court effectively upholds the right of the American military to discharge gays and lesbians of the armed forces; 2013 – Marco McMillian, 34, the first openly gay political candidate in Mississippi, is murdered.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 25, 2015.

I played golf today with the Saticoy Women’s Golf Club. It was my first outing with them and I had an absolute blast! First, I played pretty well. My score was as good (relative term) as the women with whom I was teamed and I felt good about my quality of play. I even had three pars! Second, I was one of the youngest in the club (I joined). Those old gals are impressive players. Most are in their 70s, and I will bet my iridescent lavender balls that one of the women with whom I played today is at least 80. Finally, in addition to the day being blue-sky beauitful, there were two red hawks flying around us. They have a nest in the trees near the 18th fairway so we were treated to their search for food. And now I’m pooped. The fresh air is a killer!

Today I’m grateful for my body and my health, and for new friends and my 7 iron!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: No one can tell you which choices to make. We can only show you by good example. I am someone’s example for healthy behavior today. I won’t scare anyone wrong.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1982 – Wisconsin becomes the first state in the U.S. to enact a statewide gay rights statute; 1983 – Tennessee Williams dies at the age of 71 in his suite at the Hotel Elysee in New York City.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 25, 2015.

After the gym and a much needed hair cut, I had a different type of adventure. My BFF Regina and I took our mothers to dinner in Hollywood then to the Pantages Theater to see Wicked! Our moms were so excited to be going on such a fun outing with their daughters. I love Wicked. This was the sixth time I’ve seen it. The music is thrilling and the story always touches me. Frankly, it’s hard for me to see The Wizard of Oz now because of my attachment to Elphaba!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kathy Stone said, “We will never hear anyone else’s thoughts if we are only listening to our own.” I am drawn to people who have something to teach me today. I listen first, think later.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1982 – Jerry Falwell is hit in the face with two fruit pies by protester at the annual convention of the Bible Baptist Fellowship; 2004 – President George W. Bush announces that he supports a constitutional amendment to ban same-sex marriage.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 23, 2015.

I had a wonderful conversation with a likeminded business friend this morning. There may be a new creation or two in the offing.

My mother, sister, and I saw the film McFarland today. I was prepared for another cheesy Costner flick. What I experienced was an amazing true story of family and love and community, and especially of a team of young men who rose beyond the migrant camps to which they were scripted. It was very powerful, very tender, and deeply touching. Take tissues!

Today I’m grateful for interesting friends with crazy ideas and films that touch me.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Judy Hollis said, “Healing can occur when I see my family of origin as just a vessel to bring me into new spiritual growth, rather than as the predictor of all my life’s work.” Every day I am embarking on a new adventure. What I do with my experiences today can be a positive reaction to what I learned from the past.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1977 – After a television producer cancels plans to develop a weekly series around her, Anita Bryant complains to the press that she is being “blacklisted” in Hollywood because of her crusade against homosexuals; 1990 – First Lesbian organization for Chinese-Speaking Women in Asia formed; 2011 – Hawaii’s governor signs civil union law into effect.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67! Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 22, 2015.

Oscar Sunday! I love the way it started: driving range at Rancho Park golf course with Regina then breakfast at our favorite breakfast place, The Venice Bakery, a Mexican restaurant near Regina’s apartment. We were supposed to hike with WOAR this morning but it was rather dark and rainy in LA so the hike was cancelled. But this was better, in my humble opinion. And I was able to get back to Ventura before noon.

This evening I went to Lavender Lynne and Helens’s house in Ojai for an Oscar’s party. It was great fun! There were about 15 women, many of whom I didn’t know. But Lynne and Helen are so sweet and so gracious that I didn’t feel uncomfortable. Going to a party by myself is not among my most fun things to do but this evening’s was easy. I enjoyed the Oscars, loved the music, and was deeply touched by several of the speeches.

Today I’m grateful for hanging with my BFF in the morning and watching Oscars with new friends this evening.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Kathleen rowed said, “A baby learning to walk falls a lot.” I may make plenty of mistakes today. I can except that. I’m learning and moving forward.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1892 – Popular openly bisexual poet Edna St. Vincent Millay is born; 1979 – Studio 54 throws a gala fifty-second birthday party for closeted gay attorney and former McCarthyism Roy Cohn. The event draws several hundreds of the city’s luminaries – including Donald Trump, Barbara Walters, members of both Democratic and Republican parties and most of the city’s elected officials; 1987 – Andy Warhol dies at the age of 58.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 21, 2015.

Erik and I had brunch this morning. I’m so proud of the man who is my son. He’s kind and smart and funny and he’s good to his mother. I always enjoy his company. I look forward to seeing him again on Thursday for the Tyler Clementi Foundation event in Los Angeles.

Lesbo Bingo was a hoot tonight! Hamburger Mary’s was packed with women and Andrea Meyerson was a fun and gracious host. I loved seeing and hugging old friends and sharing our table with two women I didn’t know. Regina won one of the rounds, the gift bag of which was perfect for little 4-year old boys. Since I happen to know and love one, she gave the bag to me to give to Jude. He’ll be thrilled!

Today I’m grateful for my BFF Regina, my sweet son, and Andrea and Women on a Roll. What a good weekend!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Practiced consistently, new habits become who I am. Current behavior used to be new. They became habits only with continuous use. I can decide to begin a new behavior today.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1903 – New York City police conduct the first United States recorded raid on a gay bathhouse, the Ariston Hotel Baths. 26 men were arrested and 12 brought to trial on sodomy charges; 7 men received sentences ranging from 4 to 20 years in prison; 1976 – A Detroit jury awards more than $200,000 in damages to a man who contends that he was “turned into” a homosexual by a 1975 automobile accident in which his car was rear-ended by another vehicle.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 20, 2015.

I love today’s meditation. I have been deeply committed to my good health and fitness and appreciate that in others. My physical fitness is extrinsically connected to my emotional and mental fitness. If I lose my physical fitness, it all goes to hell. Been there, done that, NOT going back!

I spent the day at the Los Angels boat show today. I found what I think I want but am not yet ready to buy. I’ve decided that I’m not looking for a live-aboard but something that’s (nearly) maintenance-free and easy to maneuver.

I watched some of the folks who attended the boat show, mainly because it was held in two venues and there was a required bus shuttle between the two. On the bus I could hear conversations. The best was a couple, probably in their 60s, maybe older, who looked like they just came down from the Ozarks. She wore a baggy cotton blouse and a bowl-type hat that has seen better days. He wore a plaid long-sleeve shirt and an old wide-brimmed straw hat. His belly hung over his too-big jeans that were held up with both a belt and suspenders for good measure. They live in a motor home. Neither were any taller than I. Got the picture? Well, they have a 36-foot Grand Banks trawler (not a cheap vessel!) in a harbor in NY and are planning their trip south on the Intracoastal Waterway to Savannah as soon as the snow melts. They did that trip last year in their motor home to check it out. I had such a fun conversation with them, totally unexpected on a variety of levels. I love these little gifts of the Universe!

Today I’m grateful for the water, for my enjoyment and pleasure of just being in the same place as many beautiful boats, and chance meetings of interesting people.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: 20. Annmarie Nelson said a woman who maintains fitness in her life has earned a Ph.D. in self-esteem. My fitness today is within my grasp. The steps anchor me.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1982 – An article in the medical journal Lancet suggests that there is evidence to show inhaling poppers damages the immune system; 2004 – Victoria Dunlap, Republican county clerk of rural Sandoval County, New Mexico, began issuing marriage licenses to same-sex couples, citing lack of legal grounds for denial; 2004 – King Norodom Sihanouk, constitutional monarch of Cambodia, declared that he thought his country should legalize same-sex marriage. He said that he reached this conclusion after watching footage of same-sex couples marry in San Francisco. He also stated that transvestites should be well-treated in Cambodia. (He’s also never been married. Just sayin’…rs)

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 19, 2015.

An easy day today…a good three-mile walk with Rachel Maddow’s Wednesday podcast on my phone and coffee with a friend at a cute place in Camarillo. I worked all day then played cards with Mom and my aunt and uncle tonight. For the first time, I slaughtered ‘em! I always lose and they love it, so I felt vindicated this evening! Fun…

I found an online CoDA meeting and I’m thrilled! Now to figure out how online meetings actually work…

I’m grateful for these easy days especially as a very busy weekend is about to begin.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Mary Casey said, “I have come to realize that all my fears are false gods before me.” Any fear I have today is of my choosing. Dwelling on God rather than on the fear will change every experience I have today.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1974 – The Pat Collins Show, a morning program on New York’s WCBS, broadcasts live from the Continental Baths. The station only receives one complaint about the episode; New Jersey civil union act goes into effect.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. February 18, 2015.

I had a strange email exchange with someone today. His email was his usual anti-Muslim ranting, with many people copied. (This was not his first round of similar rants.) I found an article taking the opposite side to his argument and forwarded it to him and the same email group. His return email – group copied – was incredibly condescending. Rather than get sucked in to a no-win argument, I simply sent him a one-line email – group NOT copied – requesting that he delete me from his email list. His return email was yet another rant questioning why I was trying to silence him and a comment about my anger. My next response to him was now two lines: I’m not silencing you nor am I angry. I just want to be deleted from your email list. One more rant from him about my attempts to silence him followed. My last one-line email to him: Please remove me from your email list.

I know this is a really stupid, petty story but it’s important for me. In the past, I’ve gotten sucked in to his rants because we’re on complete opposite ends of the political spectrum and I had a need to be on the defensive, responding when I KNEW I should have just let it go. Today I was able to do just that. I let it go, stating only my need and not exacerbating a winless argument. This is huge for me. No anger, no excuses, no being on the defensive, no arguing with a person who has only one side. Good job, Sanlo! Ha! Feels good…

The fun thing that happened today is that I learned my 84 year old uncle is interested in a 42’ Sea Ray boat. Oh yeah! I’m going to the Los Angels Boat Show on Friday. Uncle asked me to get brochures about that particular boat for him. My aunt said to him, “If you get that boat, you’ll be on it alone!” I said, “Uh, nope, no he won’t!” You bet I’ll be on it with him! The only thing better than buying a great boat is to be connected with someone who did! I’ll make the sandwiches…

Today I’m grateful for my ability to not get wrapped up in a winless argument, and grateful for my wonderful Uncle and Aunt who live nearby.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: The more I force things, the tougher my life. I don’t need to control anyone today. I am not insecure as long as I let my higher power take charge of my fears.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1840 – Henry David Thoreau writes about same-sex love in his journal; 1938 – The film Bringing Up Baby with Cary Grant premieres. It’s the first time the word “gay” is used in reference to homosexuality; 1966 – The first meeting of the coalition of gay rights groups that will become the North American Conference of Homophile Organizations takes place in Kansas City, Missouri.

It’s good to be 67!

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Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com