It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 30, 2015.

The evening was filled with viciousness…. I played cards with the old folks again and they creamed me…as usual. I wish they’d at least let me win once in a while, but I’m sure their joy is wiping me up with their three decks of cards! We play a game called May I….three decks, jokers wild, and somehow I rarely get any! Vicious I tell you! But the snacks are always way too good and, really, I have a great time.

Tomorrow is the second anniversary of my father’s passing. I overheard my mother sharing with someone today that she goes to a weekly grief group. She said she didn’t think she’d still be going after all this time but she’s committed to going weekly to be present for others. Being a CoDA person, isn’t that why we go to meetings? To help ourselves but to also be there for others? I’m so proud of her for continuing to go.

I had coffee with an interesting woman this morning who encouraged me to start a CoDA meeting in Ventura. There simply isn’t one. I miss not being able to go regularly. Alanon isn’t really my thing but it’s better than nothing. She did tell me about an open 12-step meeting up in Ojai that takes place on Sunday mornings. I think I’ll give it a try while I’m getting the CoDA meeting set up. I need to find a location…

Today I’m grateful for new friends and old farts! I love the people in my life!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: We experience the joy of peace each time we remember to turn our will and our lives over to the care of a loving God as we understand God.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1946 – House panel reports on “Blue Discharges.” Blue discharges were commonly used against homosexuals and African-Americans in the military who hadn’t transgressed but commanders wanted out of their ranks. Blue discharges were neither honorable nor dishonorable.;

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 29, 2015.

After the gym this morning, I took Mom to the ear doc. He poked holes in her ear drums to drain the fluid and release the air that was trapped in the canals. I sure hope this works for her. She’s such an active, brilliant woman and feels very frustrated with her severe hearing loss. She did acquire an interesting contraption that transposes voices into writing on her large telephone screen. And, of course, she has email. Every little thing helps.

Today is my youngest granddaughter’s birthday. Callie is 17. Where do the years go? I remember being with her on the day she was born. She’s such a beautiful, smart, talented young woman. She’s following in the footsteps of much of the family by being in the band. She’s a fine clarinet player and wants to go to the University of Florida (Go Gators!!!) for a music degree.

Today I am grateful for breathtaking evening skies, good health, and generations of family.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I am as happy as I truly want to be today. No one can steal peacefulness from me if that’s what I really want.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1977 – Thelma Houston’s Don’t Leave Me This Way begins its 17-week top 40 run. It goes on to become a perennial gay anthem; 1991- Minnesota governor Arne Carlson issues an executive order banning sexual orientation discrimination in the public sector; 2007 – Israel registers it’s first same sex couple.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 28, 2015.

A beautiful sunrise and a hearty three-mile walk this morning…great way to start the day. I worked on my book until it was time for my golf class. I love these classes at Saticoy Regional Golf Course. They’re part of the TPC program in which I pay $29 a month and receive free range balls and free classes, and pay $4 for a round of golf. It’s an amazing deal! The classes are every Monday, Wednesday and Saturday, and I go to as many as I’m able. You’d think I’d be one hell of a golfer but, alas, I’m not. But my bag, clubs, and clothes match, so I don’t care!

I had dinner with an Oxnard friend this evening. Julia has such an infectious laugh and an adorable smile. She cracks me up with her stories of her exes and her current girlfriend, and of the classes she teaches.

Today I’m grateful for my body and my health and for my rotten but passionate golf.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I can change only myself and will do so if I think something needs changing today.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1982 – US Defense Department declares gays and lesbians may not serve in the military, and all recruits will be asked about their sexual orientation; 1985 – People Magazine begins picking its annual “Sexiest Man Alive.”

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It’s Good to be 67!… Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 27, 2015.

I feel so sad for my granddaughters. Their other grandma died yesterday. They were close with her as she lived near them in Florida. I remember when my grandmother died. I was 11 and not ready for her to leave me. I wish I were there to hold both my granddaughters tight right now. They’re such sweet, good young women and I love them deeply.

Mom and I went to the Ventura PFLAG meeting this evening. It was packed! And there were at least four families with trans children. Thank goodness there is an organization like PFLAG to help support these families.

The day was beautiful and my business webinar was excellent as usual. Just another lovely day in paradise.

Today I’m grateful for my precious grandchildren and for this glorious day.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Today will reveal qualities about myself that I like very much, but if some that I don’t like surface, I won’t deny them; I will correct them.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1972 – The NYC Council vetoes a proposed gay rights ordinance that would have prohibited discrimination against gay men and lesbians in employment, housing and public accommodations; 2006 – International Holocaust Remembrance Day created by resolution of the United Nations General Assembly.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 26, 2015.

I saw The Imitation Game today. It made me angry that Alan Turing was treated so horribly buy the British government but that’s how all gay men were treated. It just seems that he should have been honored in his lifetime for breaking the German code called Enigma which shortened the war by two years and saved millions of lives, not to mention he’s the father of computer science. It tool until 2013 for Queen Elizabeth II to honor him posthumously. Turing committed suicide at the age of 42.

Yesterday at the LA LGBT Chamber of Commerce event, there was a numerologist during readings for folks. I know nothing abut numerology so I sat down at her desk. The numbers that came up for me were 8 as my primary/essence number with two fours with it, a two, and two threes. I looked it all up and, near as I can tell, all of that means:

If the 8 appears in your cycles, especially your Essence cycle, there is an increase in energy and focus, a sense of “can do,” and enhanced self-confidence. The shape of the 8 shows balance, but it also shows confidence, as it looks you right in the eye. A positive 8 is honest to a fault, generous and forgiving. They are physically imposing and often athletic. They are not particularly romantic as they prefer a practical and straight-forward approach, but they are loving and more than carry their weight. 8s are authoritative, business-minded leaders. They value control and tend to be powerful, but are also balanced, materially detached, successful and realistic. They end up in management positions, are efficient, capable, street-smart and good judges of character.

3s are imaginative, expressive communicators and artists. They are tolerant, joyful, optimistic, inspiring, talented, jovial, youthful, dynamic … the list goes on and on!

4s are disciplined, strong, stable, pragmatic, down-to-earth, reliable, dependable, hard-working, extracting, precise, methodical, conscientious, frugal, devoted, patriotic and trustworthy!

2s are sensitive, tactful, diplomatic and cooperative. 2s tend to be peacemakers and are loving, studious and patient. A 2 may express many musical or feminine qualities and also tends to be sensual and intuitive.

Like I said, I have no idea what any of this means, just as I remain baffled by my very elaborate astrological chart that was done about 6 years ago, but it’s fun to contemplate.

I’m grateful that I don’t need to put much into numerology and astrology but still appreciate whatever it all means. And I’m grateful for our very rich history as LGBT people.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Today is a new beginning. Whatever happened in my past need not control what I do with today. Today is mine to be proud of.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1886 – Nikola Tesla, believed to be asexual, is issued nearly 300 patents for his ground-breaking career focusing on electricity; 1971 –Look Magazine includes a gay couple from Minnesota, Jack Baker and Mike McConnell, as part of that week’s cover article on “The American Family.”  Baker and McConnell are also noteworthy as they are the first same-sex couple in the U.S. to be granted a marriage license; 1996 – Rent opens on Broadway.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 25, 2015.

The day began with a 3.5 mile walk with Regina in the West LA area. I love walking with friends. There are always good conversations, nice scenery, and today, a farmers market about 2/3 of the way through our walk! We cruised through the market, ate lots of samples, mostly fruits and cheeses, then continued on our way.

The walk was followed by the LA Lesbian and Gay Chamber of Commence luncheon…the kind of event I most detest, lovely as it was. I’m just not comfortable with small talk. I can do it well but I just don’t like it. It’s tedious for me and my charm level wanes quickly. But the people who attended were nice, some of whom I knew which helped, and the food was de-lish!

I got back to Ventura just in time to go to dinner with Mom and Aunt Sylvia.

As an aside, I’ve been thinking about the terms “I love you,” “Love you,” and “Love ya.”

As a wordsmith, I know that Ya is different from You. “Love Yais meant to show that one does, in fact, like a person more than one did at the beginning of a connection, moving to different level in the relationship. Right? But “Love Ya” is not “Love You.” “Love Ya” is a step, the next step, really, but it is not an excuse for “I love you.”. There’s still more work to do.

Or what about the other direction? The direction that leads two people away from one another? If a couple goes from “I love you” to “Love ya” or just “love you” without the commitment of the “I,” the couple can kiss what’s left of the relationship goodbye. It’s the phrase your (now former?) partner says to you after you break up but still want to be “just friends.” In other words, they’re probably saying it because they feel they have to; they don’t really still love you. They replace the “you” with “ya” to make it casual, to eliminate the commitment, and reduce the seriousness. And it just makes things feel awkward.

For me, to say “I love you” means just that. I’m sharing my feelings towards another person whether they’re a lover or best friend, or children, siblings, or other significant person in my life. To say “love ya” or “love you” is just polite chat, terms which I rarely use and really don’t need to hear. If you love me, just say you love me with commitment and gusto! If you don’t love me, no need to mention it at all. I’m just happy that you’re here. Life is sweet, and regardless of the words used or not, I’m glad folks are journeying with me even if it’s from a distance.

I’m grateful for the dear people in my life who I love, including those who were once I my life and whose memory and history I love, and for the folks in my life with whom I don’t share “love” as such but who are interesting and a heck of a lot of fun!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Oprah Winfrey said I believe that every single event in life happens as an opportunity to choose love over fear. I will not fear the events of my life today. I’m ready for them. I need my involvement.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 2005 – Alameda County, California’s Board of Supervisors votes 4–0 to prohibit discrimination in public-sector employment, services and facilities based on gender identity.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 24, 2015

Such a fun evening! We screened Letter to Anita at the Los Angeles LGBT Center this evening to a full house. There were many people I knew who I hadn’t seen in a while and many people I’d never met before. People were so kind after the film and many asked abut my writing retreats and webinars. I’ve seen the film many times, of course. Each time, I feel rather exposed but I also feel humbled at the response to the film by the audience. I’m clear that this film is about our LGBT history and I am the catalyst through which the story is told. It’s such an honor for me to be a significant part of this film…

I’m so grateful to Andrea Meyerson for creating this documentary and grateful to the people who came to see it this evening. I’m also deeply grateful for my precious son and my best pal Regina.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I keep my own mind quiet if a friend wants to share her concerns today. That way, my heart may be able to offer her the wisdom she needs.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1975 – Norman Lear’s TV adaptation of Lanford Wilson’s “Hot l Baltimore” premieres on ABC. Though it features a diverse cast of characters, including two gay men and a latent lesbian, it lasts only five months; 1983 – Noted gay director George Cukor dies at age 83 in Los Angeles.

It’s good to be 67!

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 23, 2015.

Feeling so much better today so I drove down to Los Angeles. Regina and I went to Cantilini’s for dinner, hugged Lisa, our friend and owner, then went to a play. The 1895 play was The Ideal Husband by Oscar Wilde, listed as a “comedic stage play.” Not so funny was that Wilde was arrested for “gross indecency” a couple of months after the play’s debut so his name was removed from the playbill, and when the play was published in 1899, Wilde was not listed as the author. Neither Regina nor I found much comedy in the play and, really, I was hard pressed to stay awake. We left at intermission. Oy!

I think I’ve found a new, easy, clever idea on how to capture at least snippets of our history. Stay tuned…

I’m grateful for my body and my health, for feeling better, and for taking care of myself by being willing to take my leave at exactly the right time.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I am in control of my thoughts. God helps me every time I start to compare myself with someone else today.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1978 – NYC Mayor Ed Koch issues Executive Order 50 which forbid discrimination against gay men and lesbians in municipal government.

It’s good to be 67!

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 22, 2015.

Feeling much better, got my hair cut, and even did a two-mile walk this morning. Then I came home and fell asleep for hours! But the fresh air felt so good, and the walk around the harbor was exactly what I needed.

I’ve been sharing that I’m reading There Goes the Gayborhood by my friend Dr. Amin Ghaziani. I have many thoughts around how the gay neighborhoods of most major cities are looking very different than they did when we needed them for safety and concentration of connection with others like ourselves. Many LGBT folks are assimilating into the mainstream, and the younger LGBT folks are no longer using the language that identified my generation. So it makes me wonder…what will happen to closed communities like Discovery Bay Resort in Washington State and Apache Junction in Arizona and Carefree in Florida? These communities are nearly entirely lesbian and the women there have sold their houses from one lesbian to another over the decades. But what happens when the younger generation of lesbians no longer wants to live in enclosed lesbian enclaves? Who moves in? Who buys the houses? What happens to the property? And what happens to the lesbian culture that thrived within the gates of those communities?

I’m more convinced than ever than we MUST write our histories and herstories, especially those of us older folks who live in those closed communities. It will take only a blink of an eye before the communities are gone. It would be such a damned shame that the stories of these precious communities – and the women who made them home – get lost.

Writing is daunting. I totally understand. That’s why I created my writing retreats. Join me on my free 45-minute webinar or one of the affordable full-day webinars or the three-day retreats. I can help you get your story written. Don’t let our history get lost!!! Go to my website at www.purpledistinctions.com and register. There are earlybird coupons for everything.

I’m grateful for the history that I share with so many other LGBT people, and I’m grateful for the stories we write…

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: If I reach out lovingly to someone else today, I will not need a nudge from my higher power to adjust my attitude.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1957 – Cabaret singer and open lesbian Claire Waldoff dies, Germany; 1973 – The U.S. Supreme Court decides Roe v. Wade, legalizing abortion in the United States. Norma Leah McCorvey (aka “Jane Roe”) wrote of her sexual orientation in her 1994 autobiography, I Am Roe. A few years later she claims that she has converted to Christianity and is no longer a lesbian.

It’s good to be 67!

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. January 21, 2015.

I went to the doc today. Thank goodness I don’t have the creeping crud that seems to be prevalent everywhere. I have infected sinuses which are causing my sore throat, cough, and sore ears. With new medication, I can deal with it. I just hate being inconvenienced. This is messing up my daily workout/walk and golf game something fierce! Blahhhhhh….

I did manage to get some work done on my webinars today, and I submitted an article about them to lgbtSr Aged to Perfection at lgbtsr.org. In fact, they’re running a free banner ad for me. I love Mark McNeese and his peeps. They’re doing an amazing job bringing LGBT Seniors together.

I’m reading Dr. Amin Ghazianii’s book There Goes the Gayborhood. It’s an important book that provides and understanding of how our communities and our neighborhoods are changing. Although it was Amin’s dissertation at Princeton, it’s easy to read. Get it!

I’m grateful for smart young responsive doctors, smart young LGBT scholars, and for my aging LGBT friends.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Melanie Beatty said we do not have to be caught in the middle of other people’s issues. It’s hard to back away when your friend is in trouble. But telling my friend I love her and support her may give her the strength she needs.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1966 – Time magazine publishes an unsigned two-page article, “The Homosexual in America” which includes statements such as “Homosexuality is a pathetic little second-rate substitute for reality, a pitiable flight from life”; 2013 – first mention of gay rights in a US inaugural address, by President Obama.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com