It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 30, 2014.

The meditation today talks about looking for the good in all today….all also meaning traffic, I’m sure. I drove down to Palm Springs today. As a busy traffic day anyway, it was bumper to bumper traffic for much of the way. And it was raining. Normally rain isn’t that big a deal – if you happen to live or be from Florida, like me. But for Southern Californians, it’s just sad. And it’s cold today, at least cold for SoCal….I’m in Palm Springs right now and it’s 41. Snow flurries and frost are scheduled for morning.

I’ve been thinking about 2014. It’s been a tremendous year for me. My film Letter to Anita was born, thanks to Andrea Meyerson; I traveled to the Mediterranean including Italy, Turkey, Greece. Malta, and Israel; a week-long bike ride through Louisiana, two islands in Hawaii, The Villages and Tampa in Florida, Provincetown, Bermuda, and Seattle and Sequim, WA I moved into my mother’s house; love wove itself all around my life; my writing retreat business was initiated; my forth grandchild was born; I had the best speaking engagement of my career; and I’m healthy and financial secure. The blessings and gifts of 2014, the people who enriched my life, my good health, and the opportunity to travel made this another stellar year.

For all of this, and for the dear friends and family in my life, as the year closes, I am deeply, deeply grateful….

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: No matter what happens, I must get on with my life. I am in good hands. My course has been set. I look for the good in all of today.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1886 – Sadie Bigelow, 18, and Lizzie Hart, 19, had poisoned themselves. Lizzie died first, then Sarah who couldn’t live without her.

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 29, 2014.

The meditation today is: I am wiser now that I know how to nurture faith, health, and love. For me, this is mostly true (I hope), especially as it relates to faith and health. I nurture faith by giving thanks every day and understanding that my Higher Power is with me…always. My Higher Power shows me the way and I try to pay attention, even (and especially) when my own will power really wants to do something else. And in honoring my body, I nurture my health daily. I eat appropriate amounts of healthy foods, work out at least three days a week, and I’m seriously active in the areas of golf, biking, kayaking, and walk at least three miles three days a week. I’m in great shape, health-wise, and I give thanks everyday for this gift. But love…arrrgggh! Maybe 2015 will be the year my Higher Power allows me to become wise enough to figure out how to nurture love.

I spent some time shopping for groceries and packing clothes. Tomorrow after a dental appointment, I head down to Palm Springs for New Years and the Palm Springs International Film Festival. I’m looking forward to a fun time with some terrific folks.

I am grateful for my health and my faith, and even grateful that love is a giant question mark in my head. Even that question mark is a gift.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I am wiser now that I know how to nurture faith, health, and love.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 2012 – Same sex marriage takes effect in Maine.

It’s good to be 67!

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67! Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 27-28, 2015.

I combined yesterday’s and today’s blog due to a whole day and evening of holiday parties! I started at Dee and Judy J’s place in Ventura. They’re amazing cooks and hosts and their home was so beautifully ready for their guests. I left there and drove to L.A. where I picked up my best pal Regina. We went to Judy C and Kathy’s party in Sherman Oaks then on to Jan’s party in Highland Park. I met such interesting women at these wonderful events, saw old friends and made new ones. One woman at the last pasty was someone I’d never met before. She was there with her partner but they seemed a tad mismatched. The partner was rather uptight while this woman was absolutely charming and hysterical. She had Regina and me in stitches for a good 45 minutes!

I spent the night at Regina’s. In the morning we went on the Women on a Roll hike in Runyon Canyon. It was a rather challenging, straight up a rocky hill to the top near Mulholland Drive. On the easy paved trail back, we passed Greg Louganis. Our leader Terri hollered, “Hey Greg Louganis! I’m Terri West, your Facebook friend!” We all waved… fun! There were others on the easy trail who looked familiar but I can never identify celebrities though Erik says they’re on the Runyon Canyon trail with their dogs ever Sunday. Maybe they were…

I got home, unpacked, and spent some time chatting with Mom. I initiated my ZOOM account which is the host company for my webinars. I also started my webinar campaign with FaceBook and LinkedIn ads as well.

I’m so grateful for the invitations I received from friends this holiday season and for my ability to do a strenuous hike without flinching!

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Something is removed from crisis status when we accept it as a turning point. Our lives have been full of turning points. I need not fear a troubling situation today. It will offer me a lesson that I am ready to learn.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1919: Writer Hart Crane Came Out as gay; 1969 – The Gay Liberation Front announces its intent to establish Stonewall Nation, the world’s first recognized separatist community. In Alpine County, CA. The plan never comes to fruition.

It’s good to be 67!

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 26, 2015

Happy day after Christmas! I hope the day was good for you without too many hassles. I’m combining yesterday’s and today’s blog.

I had such a lovely day yesterday. Erik spent the night and Mom made raison Challah French toast for us for breakfast. Erik and I took off early to make it to our first film at 10:00 AM. For the past bunch of years, Erik and I have done a movie crawl on Christmas day and this year was no exception. We saw Into the Woods first then the new Hobbits in 3D. Both films were over two hours and we had to be at my sister’s for dinner, so we stopped after Hobbits. We need to do one more so we’ll schedule that for the future. The very best part, though, was simply spending an entire day with my son. He’s such a good man, polite, kind, interesting, and fun. He’s considering moving to Portland, OR in the next year or two. My brother and his family are in Seattle, and I could easily find myself in the Pacific NW in the future, so I’m not too bummed out by his potential move. He’s still young and needs to find his bliss wherever it may be. I fully support his move if that’s what he chooses.

There were 20 of us around Bebe’s table yesterday. Mostly family but some of Bebe and Hal’s synagogue friends as well. Bebe sets a beautiful holiday table, and everyone was in a sweet festive mood. Small miracles, eh??? I know the holidays can be very difficult for some, whether the difficulties are internal or external. I’m glad that’s not typically our case. I did have some flashbacks of Christmases past…waaaaay past, shortly after my coming out in 1979. I was very poor for a couple of years, homeless for a period of time. Whenever it was my day to have my children, I had to get food-stamps to have enough (anything, actually) to feed them. During one Christmas I had exactly zero money for gifts. My friends came through and loaded my children up with many lovely presents. I’m so glad those days are long gone but I remember…

I am grateful for my family, for our food, and for the joy and friendship that we feel with one another. And I am deeply grateful for my children and grands, each of whom fill my hart in very different ways.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: I need to let the old go so the new may emerge. I will not fight circumstances that are changing but accept that their passing is my opportunity.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1931 – the film Mata Hari is released. First film Greta Garbo does after becoming partners with Mercedes de Acosta; 1933 – the film Christina released in which Garbo defies gender-normative expectations.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 24, 2014.

Such a great workout this morning but Zumba! I hate it! I was awful! It was my first real Zumba class. I felt so uncoordinated and I couldn’t keep up with the hot cha-cha-cha woman to led the group. I stayed for 35 minutes, worked my butt off, but left because I just couldn’t get the steps. Totally sucks… BUT my workout…sublime!

Regina and I went to a party at a friend’s house up in Ojai. Great desserts, lovely people, none of whom I knew, and a fun round of On the First Day of Christmas complete with French Horn accompaniment. Fun party…

Must get to sleep now so Sant-a-la may deliver her gifts! I bet I wake up in the morning and find my son under my roof! Now THAT is a good gift! Ahhhh…..Christmas! Have a lovely one!

Today I’m deeply grateful for my body, my healthy, my workout, and holiday celebrations with friends.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: God’s gifts are revealed when the time is right. Today I do not travel this path alone.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1305 – Grand Mater Jacques de Molay recants his sodomy confession; 2013 – Queen Elizabeth gave a royal pardon to Alan Turing, a gay man who broke the Nazi code in WWII, posthumously. After he was convicted of gross indecency in 1952, he committed suicide in 1954.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 23, 2014.

Happy Christmas Eve Eve and the last day of Chanukah. I look forward to the next couple of days, especially a day of movies with my son on Thursday.

I took Mom to the ear doc today. She’s had profound hearing loss. It’s challenging to hold a conversation at times, but her phone conversations are hilarious! The good news is that her hearing loss is due to air trapped behind her eardrum and is repairable. Once the air is released, her hearing should be restored, at least to a better quality than what she has now. The audiologist in the doc’s office said that I was darned lucky to be in such a strong gene pool. Indeed!

I had a coaching call with my business coach today. Meggin McIntosh is a brilliant, funny, caring instructor and I feel so lucky to have connected with her. If it weren’t for Meggin, my writing workshops would never be off the ground.

Today I’m grateful for Meggin and her guidance, for my own ability to hear well, and for the opportunity to support Mom as she goes through these life changes. And I’m grateful for today’s meditation below that nails my codependency and allows me to recover from it.

My meditation today from A Woman’s Spirit: Because I felt it was my job to take care of others’ feelings, I missed the opportunities to know and respect my own feelings and perspective on the world. I will not let others take charge of how I see the events of my life today. I rely on my Higher Power to help me be true to my own vision.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1959 – California Supreme Court upholds the right of LGBT people to congregate as long as they do not express their sexuality physically.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 22, 2014.

I had an appointment with my trainer today. That young man is busting my chops, or, more specifically, my abs, gluts, and damned near everything else that is a moving part in my body! Thanks, Kevin, for teaching this ol’ gal how to work muscles properly and how to stretch. Maybe I’ll get taller and more buff, probably just more sore, but it hurts so good…

I’ve been thinking about friendship. Regina Lark has been my best friend in California since we met in 2001, when we worked in the same building at UCLA. When I trained for marathons, Regina trained with me. When she got to campus at 5 am every day, I met her at the gym as a workout partner. When she needed a place to live, I invited her to live in my extra bedroom and bath. When she got layed off from UCLA, I cheered her when she created her own business. When we both started our businesses, we had each other to share our successes and challenges. When I experienced celebrations and passages, Regina was the person who honored and planned them. And we share lots of time and space with our many friends and families, and now, after 13 years, we’re still terrorizing the countryside in fine dyke fashion. We were at an event last night, not at all unusual for us, and some photos of us appeared on FaceBook (darned nice ones, I might add!). A couple of folks on FB made an assumption that we’re something other than best friends. We’re not; we’re stronger and more connected than that. Women have come and gone in our lives but our friendship, tested by time, continues. That’s what friendship is all about, isn’t it? And the wonderful thing is that I have close and dear friends in other cities and states, and I have my sisters and sister-in-law, too. There’s little more precious than the family and friends in our lives. I’m very blessed to have so many of each, and Regina tops the list.

I’m grateful – and lucky – to have a big dyke BFF in my life! I wish everyone did!

My meditation today from Just for Today: I have found a new way to live. Today, I serve others with love, and love myself.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 2010 – President Obama signs repeal of Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 21, 2015.

What a fun day! Regina and I played 18 holes of golf on an executive course in Van Nuys, across the street from a very noisy regional airport. But it was fun to watch the planes come in over our heads, especially as the crazy winds began. Too bad the wind didn’t help my golf shots!

We went to the Women on a Roll holiday party this evening. I thoroughly enjoyed seeing and chatting with old friends all evening long.

Not much more to share for today. No deep thinking, just lots of fun with sweet friends.

I’m grateful for these days that require nothing more than to show up and enjoy the places and people in it.

My meditation today from Just for Today: Freedom to change seems to come after acceptance of ourselves.” By working the steps, I counter fear and denial and find the acceptance needed to change.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1917 – In Russia, the Bolsheviks repeal the entire criminal code in favor of “revolutionary justice.” Among the laws nullified are those relating to sex acts between men; 1969 – In New York City, Jim Owles and Marty Robinson leave the Gay Liberation Front to form a group exclusively dedicated to the pursuit of gay rights. The new organization is called Gay Activists Alliance; 1973 – A United States federal judge issues a bulletin stating that the federal civil service may not terminate an employee based on sexual orientation alone; 1981 – Time and Newsweek run their first major stories about AIDS; 1988 – The Chicago City Council votes 28-17 to approve a bill banning discrimination on the basis of sexual orientation; 1993 – The Department of Defense issues a directive prohibiting the U.S. Military from barring applicants from service based on their sexual orientation. “Applicants… shall not be asked or required to reveal whether they are homosexual, ” states the new policy, which still forbids applicants from engaging in homosexual acts or making a statement that he or she is homosexual. This policy is known as “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.”; 2001 – Larry Kramer survives a lifesaving liver transplant. While he’s in surgery, bloggers erroneously report the 70-year-old is dead; 2004 – Newfoundland and Labrador becomes the eighth Canadian province to legalize same-sex marriage after a Supreme Court judge approves the licenses for two lesbian couples; 2006 – New Jersey governor Jon Corzine signs the bill establishing civil unions in the state. The first civil union licenses become available on February 20, 2007.

It’s good to be 67!

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 20, 2014.

My feelings got hurt today. That’s hard for me to admit because I come from the world of happy, happy, happy. As a child, the only feeling we were only allowed to have was happy. Anything else was not okay. Today I allow myself to freely have my feelings and, even better, to admit that I’m feeling them! Day to day, I’m generally a happy person who finds joy in so much of my world. But every now and then, it ain’t always joyful in Ronni land. The other cool thing was that I was able to tell someone that my feelings were hurt. Oh sure, I acted kind of pissy when I did but it sure felt good! I’m over it now.

I’m grateful that I could feeling my hurt feelings today and tell someone, and I’m grateful for the really good golf class I had this morning! Ahhh….the small details of life!

My meditation today from In This Moment: Thanks to my Higher Power, today I go from one good thing to another. My life and my decisions are my own, and with the help of my Higher Power, I know everything is okay.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1955 – Frank Kameny is fired from his job as an astronomer in the United States Army’s Map Service in Washington, D.C. because of his homosexuality. A few days later he is blacklisted from seeking federal employment. These events spur Kameny into being a gay rights activist; 1973 – For the second time in two years, the New York City Council rejects a proposed gay rights ordinance for the city; 1999 – In Baker v. Vermont, the Vermont Supreme Court orders the state legislature to devise a law to give same-sex couples identical rights to married couples.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

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Ronni

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. December 19, 2014.

Friday night of Chanukah and the parties begin. First, I went to my mother’s synagogue for a latke dinner party. I had a fun time with the people there who are now becoming familiar to me. I don’t go to the synagogue often but I always feel welcome when I do attend. However, after attending the Center for Spiritual Living for a number of years, I’m far more drawn to the understanding that there are many ways and paths to a Higher Power. In addition, I appreciate the inclusive language used in most Centers. It’s a far more appealing way to me than any kind of organized religion. But really, I prefer the spirituality of the twelve-step programs.

After the Chanukah party, I went to a party for women in a nearby town. I met the host a couple of months ago for lunch after she had attended a screening of our film Letter to Anita. When I arrived last night – late due to the latke party – she introduced me to the group by my connected to the film, and people applauded. One asked if I were famous. I told her, “My mother thinks so but otherwise, no.” And then most of the women kept a distance form me, which usually happens anyway so no big surprise. While I’m not a smooth socializer in crowds where I don’t know folks, this felt event more weird. At least the woman hired as the singer/entertainer for the party was quite friendly as were the host and her girlfriend.

The BEST part, though, which made the evening near-perfect was that someone had made a giant plate of frosted cookies…and they tasted just like the old EasyBake Oven cookies! Happy memories flooded back to me as I overloaded on those wonderful morsels! Though I was a tomboy with the best of ‘em as a little kid,  I must have also been a foodie of sorts because I LOVED my EasyBake Oven! The only thing I made…,.yep! Those cookies, topped with lots of icing! Ohhhh…while I felt a bit awkward at the party last night, I got to revisit EasyBake memories! Sweeeeeeet!

I’m grateful for the people who travel through my world whether they’re friendly or not, and for the EasyBake Oven memories that make me smile all to myself!

My meditation today from Just for Today: I share the world with others, knowing they are just as important as I am. I nourish my spirit by giving of myself.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect: 1922 – The God of Vengeance opens at the Provincetown Playhouse. The drama, translated from Yiddish and performed in English for the first time, includes the first lesbian scenes on the American stage; 1924 – In Hanover, Germany, a gay man named Fritz Haarmann is found guilty of 24 of 27 murders and sentenced to death. The case ultimately becomes one of the inspirations for Fritz Lang’s classic film, “M.” The publicity surrounding the case results in a major setback for the German homophile movement; 2006 – New Jersey bans gender identity discrimination in the private sector.

It’s good to be 67!

What happened with you today?

Keep Writing!

Ronni

Is it time to write your story? Writing seminars for LGBT people.

www.purpledistinctions.com