It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 30, 2014.

I love the days when I can sit next to or across from someone I love while we both work on our computer. No conversation, just deep in whatever we’re doing. All day. That was my day today. As a result, IO was able to finish my preparations for a conference at which I’m speaking later in the fall and for an external review of an LGBT Center which will happen in two weeks. We took breaks for breakfast, lunch, and dinner, and we took turns walking Dooney, and, of course, we had college football on TV which we only pretended to watch.

Erik let me know that the Tampa LGBT Film Festival is now advertising our film and tickets are available, so I sent the info to my friends in Florida. I hope many of them will take a weekend trip to Tampa to see the film. After the film, Andrea and I are doing a panel chat with Nadine Smith of Equality Florida. I both like and respect Nadine and look forward to seeing her again. I’m excited to share the film with my granddaughters and their dad who live in nearby St. Pete. I hope my daughter and her husband will come to the screening….

Erik will be with us in Tampa and he’s also coming to Seattle for the film festival screening on Oct. 11 at 7:30 PM. (Tampa is Oct. 5th at 2:45.) I’m so happy that he’s joining us. He adds so much to the film and to the Q&A after.

Due to the very quiet day and my contended feeling of accomplishment, I’ll close for now and watch the glorious sunset here. Tomorrow we hike…

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit):I cannot have what I want if I do not wish it for others. If I catch myself feeling jealous or mean, I’ll take charge of my thoughts. Only I can turn them around.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1956 – American psychologist Evelyn Hooker, UCLA, shares her paper “The Adjustment of the Male Overt Homosexual” at the American Psychological Association Convention in Chicago. After administering psychological tests, such as the Rorschach, to groups of homosexual and heterosexual males, Hooker’s research concludes homosexuality is not a clinical entity and that heterosexuals and homosexuals do not differ.

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 29, 2014.

Happy day! My mammogram comparisons indicate that I’m fine! Thank God! I was a little freaked out with the initial concern by the radiologist, but feel completely at ease now. Relieved, actually…

We took a good 6000+ step walk this afternoon then went to an open 12-step meeting in Sequim. The speaker was some crusty guy with strong recovery and an interesting story. More importantly, it was potluck night!

To top off the day, we went to HomoDepot for paint for the fence in the front yard. I LOVE that place. I finally forgave my Dad for not thinking up that business. He had a wholesale hardware store when I was a kid. We could have been the original Home Depot….

Anyway, over all, between the good news from my doc, the good work I was able to do today on a speaking engagement prep, and the good meeting this evening, today was, well, a good day. I’m grateful!

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit): Willing to be oneself is not always easy, especially when we are not at all sure who we are. I can be the person I want to be today. I now have the courage to choose my actions rather than imitate someone else’s.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1867 – LGBTQ rights pioneer Karl Heinrich Ulrichs becomes the first self-proclaimed homosexual to speak out publicly for homosexual rights when he pleads at the Congress of German Jurists in Munich for a resolution urging the repeal of anti-homosexual laws. It’s good to be 67! What happened with you today? Keep Writing! Ronni

It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 28, 2014

I received a group email from someone I know who is a staunch Republican. I’ve received his emails in the past and asked him not to send any more to me, but I still receive them. I don’t know why… His portion of the email was rather passive-aggressive: sharing another email written by a truly mean, hate-filled woman who I’ll call Wendy. This was my response:

I wish I could ignore your email. I tried…I really did, but it evoked some strong feelings, though I did get a chuckle out of Wendy’s inability to spell Semitism correctly.

What I really wonder is why you shared this article with me? I just don’t get it?

Because a person is Muslim – or Jewish or Black or Gay or Palestinian – does not mean she or he is a bad person, and certainly not a savage, as Wendy calls Muslims. Yes, there are bad people with these and other identities, to be sure, but to patently discriminate against an entire population because of their identity of birth is hideous to me. And to de-humanize them with name-calling…shameful.

I hope Wendy really is “willing to take the blinders off,” as she writes, to see that we in the U.S. have far more serious issues than hating people who are different. The economy, homelessness, hunger, substance abuse, diseases, and children with Uzis come immediately to mind. There’s so much work to do. Hating others isn’t among the tasks.  Name-calling, hating, labeling…it all stinks.

Wendy would be better served –and would be of better service to her community – if she learned about Muslim people (and probably other people as well) in her neighborhood to see how she and they might work together to create peace. Stop being so fearful, Wendy…Sheesh! Don’t just stand there complaining. Do something relevant, perhaps based on Jesus’ call to love thy neighbor.

I didn’t send this, just chose to place it here in my blog. I know I would have regretted hitting the send button to that guy, and actually, I feel so much better doing it this way. The bottom line for me found in today’s meditation: spiritual experience is personal. My response is personal….and deeply spiritual.

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit):Spiritual experience is personal and individual. My experience with God is very much my own. It does not resemble anyone else’s experience. God considers my needs unique.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1982 – The first Gay Games opens in San Francisco, called the Gay Olympics; 1963 – March on Washington for Jobs and Freedom, and the Rev. Martin Luther King, Jr. “I have a Dream” speech.

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 27, 2014.

As the mediation for today says, I do trust the choices my Higher Power makes for me. The only trouble is that I sometimes forget to pay attention to what they are! I forget to look at those choices and rather get tied up in my shorts about decisions, especially if I’m feeling fearful. I remember years ago (and for many years), I believed that I was somehow fraudulent in my work, for example, and I’d soon be “found out.” I was stunned when I learned that others – some incredibly accomplished people – felt exactly the same way! I was so unsure of my choices, unsure of direction, and so fearful of the outcome. Yes, I was successful in my work, but I always had this nagging fear that it would all fall apart somehow. I was not very trusting…not of people, not of myself, and not of any kind of Higher Power.

Today, I know who I am. I’m clear about my strengths and my weaknesses, and I feel fearful only situationally. When I pay attention to what’s going on around me, external to myself, I understand over what I do and do not have control. When the space inside my hula hoop is clean, I know I honored the choices of my Higher Power, and I feel settled, grounded, and at peace.

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit): We are not separate from everything else. It’s only our egos that make us think we are. I am a partner to everyone I meet today. I will trust my Higher Power’s choices for me.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1951 – California Supreme Court ruled that mere congregation of homosexuals at a bar was not sufficient grounds for suspending the bar’s liquor license (Stoumen v. Reilly); 1961 – U.S. Fashion designer and gay icon Tom Ford is born.

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 26, 2014.

I worked on my writing retreats curriculum today. Primarily they’ll be on line and/or as teleseminars but I will do some destination retreats as well. I get very excited about this process and about helping others write their stories. Our history is so important. We just can’t lose it. The LGBT Baby Boomers – my generation – are aging. If we don’t tell our stories and share our histories, they’ll be lost.  Young LGBT folks coming up behind us need to know on whose shoulders they stand…

So I urge you…if you’re an LGBT person or have been closely connected to one or more, write. If you are LGBT and in recovery from alcohol, drugs, food, relation ships, write about it! If you survived childhood abuse to become your beautiful LGBT adult self, write about it! If you come from a religious/spiritual background and/or if you are religious/spiritual in your life today, write about it! Write why our communities, our vacation opportunities, our organizations are or were so important to you. Don’t leave this earth without sharing who you are. Everyone has a story…write yours!

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My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit):I am in control of how I see and experience my life today.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1904 – Christopher Isherwood is born in Wyberslegh Hall, United Kingdom; 1981 – In California, Governor Jerry Brown appoints Mary Morgan to the San Francisco Municipal Court. She is the first openly lesbian judge in the U.S.; 1986 – Jerry Smith, former Washington Redskins tight end, is the first celebrity to voluntarily acknowledge that he has AIDS.

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 25, 2014

The gym! I love the Sequim Recreation Center, and the workout felt great. After our workout, Kelly and I met with Pat and Bud, an older couple from Palm Springs who now live in Sequim and are very active in Democratic politics. It was fun to hear what’s going on locally, including the possibility of developing a local college.

We had a dinner party today with two couples of old friends and a new young couple who I met when I did some work at Miami University in Ohio a few years ago. They’ve moved to nearby Poulsbo. I love this intergenerational stuff. They told be that they both were Lavender Graduates! I wonder how many young folks today have experienced Lavender Graduation on their campuses since I created it in 1995….

I feel so connected with today’s mediation. Gratitude fills my heart daily which keeps me connected to my Higher Power. There is indeed nothing to fear…

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit):When my heart is overflowing with gratitude, there is no room for fear. I will feel at one with my higher power today. I am safe, and in caring hands. There’s nothing to fear.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1876 – two men stood trial in California for “crimes against nature.”; 1982 – Iran re-institutes Islamic sharia law, proscribing all same-sex acts. Punishments include 100 lashes of the whip, beheading, and stoning to death.

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 23, 2014.

Another fun adventure! Kelly, Shay, Sally and I took the ferry from Port Angeles to Victoria, Canada today. The 90-minute cruise was lovely AND we saw two whales! Once in Victoria, the drive to our hotel was only two blocks from the ferry port, so we checked in and got settled.

Next, good foodies that we all are, we went in search of butter tarts. Butter tarts and nanaimo bars are Canada’s gifts to humankind, I have no doubt.

Next stop – and the primary reason for this trip – was the Butchart Gardens on this warm, sunny, absolutely gorgeous day. The gardens were stunning, the boat ride charming, the picnic dinner delicious, and the fireworks thrilling. It was truly an amazing day!

I feel so grateful for the friends in my life who help me enjoy the world wherever we happen to fin ourselves. I’m grateful, too, for my body and my health both of which allow me to be fully present for the fun!

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit):Advice from others applies to them. I will not give unwanted suggestions or advice to anyone today. God is the best guide for each of us.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1954: Charles Busch, actor and playwright, is born

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It’s good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 24, 2014.

The Canadian adventure continued today. There is a really cool floating home community ion the Victoria Harbor. I’ve seen it before and wanted to walk to it again this morning. There are 33 floating homes – different from houseboats in that they aren’t motorized and truly look like houses built on barge bottoms. There are also a few little shops and restaurants there, all floating, which makes it  very interesting little village of its own.

We walked through town today. Victoria is a very walkable small city, all centered around the harbor. Lunch was at the India Bistro. The food was AMAZING!!! If you like Indian food and are looking for a fun trip, go to Victoria.

We drove the car down into the parking area of the ferry to return to Port Angeles. Kelly, Shay, and Sally promptly fell asleep while I too a walk over to – where else – the water. I had a lovely chat with a fourth year international student from Taiwan who’s studying at the University of Victoria, or UVic as she called it. She hasn’t seen her family in three years and is looking forward to returning home when she graduates. Smart young woman…

I’m glad to be back in Sequim now, back in the US, and about to toss my sleepy self into bed. New adventures await tomorrow! Life is just too short to not have fun!

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit):I am who I think I can be today. My imagination will shape the person I desire to be. I am in charge.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1953 – Summary of Kinsey Report of female sexuality published in Time Magazine; 1970 – “Homosexuals in Revolt” is a front-page story in The New York Times. The article reports “a new mood now taking hold among the nation’s homosexuals.

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 22, 2014.

Gentle day! I’m always grateful for the days in which I don’t have to go anywhere. We did not start the car today, went absolutely nowhere, and enjoyed the quiet of the day. Eagles flew to and from a tree in the back yard, causing me to think there might be a nest in that tree but now I think it’s just a safe landing spot from which to search for fish. Kelly and Dooney and I took a walk down to the beach and around the lagoon, and met the family of deer, surely the ones born in the back of the next door neighbor’s house in May! In addition to all this goodness, I got a ton of work done today.

I’m working on creating my online writing seminars. I plan to do a free seminar in December then start the online series in January. I hope the work is helpful to others so that our stories are told. Our history as LGBT people is so important to me and I want people to write so our histories aren’t lost.

Dungeness crab caught by our next door neighbor was dinner tonight…. My mouth is happy! Thank you, neighbor, and thank you, crab.

Tomorrow we’re taking off for Victoria, Canada, to Butchart Gardens to picnic on the grounds and then watch the evening fireworks. I enjoy Victoria and I LOVE the ferry ride. It should be a fun weekend.

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit):In a storm, the tree that bends with the wind is the one that survives to grow tall. I don’t need to do battle today; I’ll bend with the wind. I am in charge of only myself.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1914 – a decorated French athlete, Violette Morris was known to work for the Nazis. She was referred to as a lesbian, a bisexual, and a cross-dresser; 1972 – John Wojtowicz robbed a bank to New York to pay for his partner’s sex reassignment surgery. The film Dog Day Afternoon depicted the story; 1983 – Organizers of a Washington march marking the 20th anniversary of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr.’s “I Have a Dream” speech announce that no representatives from gay or lesbian rights groups will be allowed to speak.  A group of lesbians and gay men stage a sit-in at the organizers’ office in response.

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It’s Good to be 67!…Ronni Sanlo’s blog. August 21, 2014.

Maybe the meditation today is why I can travel as much as I do and still feel grounded. My roots are deep. I am grounded in family from my 88-year old very active mother to my new month-old grandson and all the “mishpuchah” in between. I have a few very close friends who have my back as I have theirs, especially Regina, my BFF. In fact today is the anniversary of the day we met at UCLA those years ago.

I have a history from which I’ve learned, a future about which I feel child-like excitement, and a partner in Kelly who is willing to share this journey with me as I share hers. With roots this deep, I am willing and able to travel far and wide, knowing that whatever happens, I’m never alone. My Higher Power and my peeps help me stand tall…and I am grateful.

My Meditation (from Women’s Spirit):The deeper our roots, the farther from home we can safely travel.

On this day in LGBT history (from QUIST and/or Lavender Effect): 1970 – Huey Newton, leader of the Black Panthers, expresses his support of the Gay Liberation movement; 1983 – La Cage aux Folles opens on Broadway to rave reviews and $4 million in advance ticket sales; 2008 – The Coquille Indian Tribe in Oregon legalizes same-sex marriage which is not recognized by the state.

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